Confidence and Success > Relationships/Dating
Shaving dilemma
nuts:
If she saw you on the singles site and liked what she saw then she should accept you with a shaved head. Just explain about the surgery and dermatis and I am sure all will be OK.
reddog:
Thanks everyone for the input, all good points.
I spent the day with her, and very briefly talked about it. She mentioned that I looked ok with my head shaved, but that my grey hair really rocks. It's at a short flattop now. I'm sure she would continue to date me if I shave, but much more attracted to me now. Guess I'll decide after the second surgery this week.
slybeard:
Let her know (I'm sure you already have) that the only reason you let it grow was because of the surgeries. But also tell her that you do from time to time let your super sharp flat top grow out. So she will never now what to expect when she sees you, and if she doesn't like the shave head when she sees it in person, she can look forward to the flat top coming back as some point. I suspect like most ladies, she doesn't like to see change in her guy, and since she has only seen you in person with hair, that is what is in her mind.
My other bit of caution is that this early in the relationship, she is already trying to control you. Be careful. Could be a sign of future issues.
ThePangolin:
+1 to the control aspect.
May not be the case but it sounds possible? Testing to see if you're needy enough or desperate enough to do whatever it takes to keep her around. If thats how she's playing right now, id hate to see what yours "dilemma" posts will be like a year or two from now. :(
Semi-Sly:
I agree.
Women like to "control" even more than most men do!
You need to be honest and let her know that your hairstyle is always changing and that this is not subject to "negotiation".
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