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My friend needs help (confidence)

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Tyler:
Give him some time. You've planted the seed, but it can take time for the roots to take hold.  Don't be surprised if in the near future that something gets him to realize it's time to shave.

Vince:
Great advice Tyler!

Yep, I'm not pushing it at all.  And remember he already shaves his head regularly.  See the pic?  Smooth clean shaved head.

He just doesn't want anyone to see it, hence the hats all the time.

ThePangolin:
I don't know your friend, but from what you've shared I think he is on the road to embracing the bald look.

I don't believe in trying to convince people if they just aren't there yet. All our efforts, no matter how genuine, often come off as tryin to command or order someone around, compelling them to accept something they just can't comprehend yet.

I think time is the only real effective way for a man to accept this particular issue. For those of us whom it's not a trial to go through, we are lucky I suppose! 

It may be most effective to let time and life work out what your friend will decide. In the meantime, subtly letting him see the benefits and positive responses of your own bald head and others could really help him feel like "on earth of the club" so to speak, and really encourage him to think differently about himself. But again, trying to tell someone this doesn't usually work, it's time.

I would invite him more often to participate in thing sulure a part of, so that he can see people accept you despite or even because of your head. Maybe you have bald friends you could have around him as well so that he sees it's not just you who is happy.

Good luck and I really hope that no matter what he chooses, he is happy with himself. In the end, what matters is if you can look in the mirror at the end or beginning of the day and smile as you walk away, rather than frown.

Edit: i came across this video and thought it may be helpful for your friend, perhaps... I dont agree with everything the man in the video says, particularly some of the comments at the end, but the main point hes making and his courage is notable. Thought id pass it on.

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