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Is this really the "acceptance" stage?

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TheSlyBear:
"Hiding" is never acceptance.

This is just one step above "I've accepted my hair loss so I'll just spend my time in this dark room so no one can see it."

Vince:
Yep.  Interesting replies everyone and I agree.

He really has not reached the acceptance stage yet if he is not comfortable showing his head.  Deciding to wear hats "all the time" is hiding it.

I used to be in his shoes.  I did the exact same thing for 9 years.  Although the difference between him and me was I knew I wasn't accepting it.  I knew that I was hiding it because I didn't want to accept it.  It's no different from the guys who wear hair pieces and toupees, or the guys who take rogaine, etc...  These guys are trying to hide it or make it go away because they don't want anyone to see it.

Going that route brings on a whole new set of challenges and until they finally "accept" their baldness, they will be chained to the various methods of deception they have chosen.

I've been chained and now I am free.  Being free is so much better, imo.

Aquabat6:
I remember being in the "hat" stage myself.  I really do believe that when you go through the process of balding, you proceed through the stages:  Denial, Acceptance, ect.   It's much more invigorating when you choose to let go and accept the look.  Here's an article that talks about the stages of balding. 

http://baldsmanship.com/stages-balding-path-baldsmanship/

I will say that anyone who is depending on hats for "avoidance" has not yet reached acceptance.  Right now, my buddy is going through the same thing with hats.  Using hats almost makes it much worse when you have to ditch them.  When you have to take the hat off, it's like someone pulling up your toupee.

Vince:

--- Quote from: Aquabat6 on August 25, 2016, 08:41:23 AM ---Using hats almost makes it much worse when you have to ditch them.  When you have to take the hat off, it's like someone pulling up your toupee.

--- End quote ---

Man oh man, are you telling me!!!

I remember one time being at a party and I was on the dance floor getting my groove on when some chick came up from behind me and snatched off my hat and put it on her head and ran across to the other side of the room.  There I was standing there in the middle of all these people and I felt completely naked!!!  Omg!  It was the worst feeling ever.  I could just FEEL everyone's eyes directed straight at my head and I was so embarrassed.  Every second that I was hatless, felt like an eternity.

My heart was beating faster.  I just wanted to shrivel up into a tiny one inch tall person and run out the door.  She FINALLY came back and put my hat back on my head.  Whew!  Having that hat back on felt like water putting out a fire.

All I could think about was how many people saw my head and I hoped they would forget that sight now that it was covered again.  So glad I don't live with that fear anymore.  ;D

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