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How do I stop caring about hairloss? (21)

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geeman:
You're welcome, that's why we're here

AJ Q-Ball:

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--- Quote from: AJ Q-Ball on November 11, 2014, 02:45:24 PM --- Let me just say I happen to be a white bald guy and have gotten nothing but compliments since I decided to permanently shave my head clean.
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You actually pull it off well with that Kick-ass beard. I can't grow one of those but hopefully it will fill in in the next few years.

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I appreciate that! Good luck with everything and please keep us updated on what you decide. You're very close to shaving it clean. When you do, you will feel a huge sense of relief.

SoHotImCool:
Take a look at my picture and be thankful that you're not half potato?

Seriously, though, I found that there is no trick to 'not caring', that comes naturally. Accept it and embrace it.

Look at all the sexy, sexy bald guys out there. I mean, I'm totally straight, but even I think Vin Diesel is hot.

Now there's the hard part - 'accept it'. That's not easy. There is no trick or shortcut to that.
It does come with time, though, just be patient. Seriously, one day I woke up and though:
"WAIT! I appear to have stopped caring."

It'll come.

john2223:
I agree with razor x. Once you realize you can't fight it you should just accept it for what it is. The best way to stop caring about hair loss is to just go ahead and shave your head clean.

beardbald:
Time. That's the only thing that helps. Just getting used to it as rushing into shaving into shaving I before you feel confident can be a set back, but there's a point where the hairstyle you want or have always had doesn't work. Hairloss is different for each person, some will receed. some will get a bald spot, some will get both - others the hair on top disappears completely so shaving off the back and the sides makes no difference. Because our hair goes in different places, at different rates, different things work for different people Not everyone has to shave as the buzz cut works too = look at Jason Statham, he hasn't taken a razor to his head and the buzz works. However whatever look you go or you need to feel in control and feel comfortable.

Although there are many that feel the only look is a totally shaved head, and you must shave every hour, on the hour; and have a beard and that this look should be displayed by everyone, including those not suffering hair loss, women, dogs, small caged animals and traffic lights = for those coming to terms with hairloss that isn't always the answer.  You need to decide what look works for you and do what makes you feel happy.  And sadly with MPB there isn't much you can do apart from embrace it!   

I started to cut mine down but then felt self conscious about how big my forehead was. Then I started to notice the bald spot. I went down a grade on my clippers over a period of time as I started to feel more self conscious n actually the more I buzzed my head the moe it showed my hair was disappearing as I could see my hairline.. Then I would shave with a razor on a Friday so it was back to a zero by Monday, which helped me get used to it. Then I would shave before I went to bed so there might be some shadow there in the morning. Now I'm actually more self conscious if there is any shadow as that makes me feel more bald than when I am totally shaved! That's what works for me but I for other it doesn't. There are people now that I know that don't know  me with hair, I've had people actually say I would look weird if I had it as they are just used to me being bald.

What I realise now is I actually clung onto my hair or far too long and I am a pasty white guy and I was worried with what I would look like but all I could see when I looked in the mirror was a huge forehead or patchy hair and a bald spot. I hated losing my hair and I'd I quite like to still have it but I know that I did the best for me in my situation and taking control was the best thing I did but I did it when I was ready after a few false starts.

Another guy I have mentioned on here before is an astronaut called Alex Gerst, who went to the ISS last year. For me he had a huge transformation when he shaved his head and he probably did what I did and waited too long to shave. He has red hair so you probably can't get more pasty than that but if you google him, he looks immensely better now (in my opinion) now he has taken control of the hair loss.

There's not much you can do to change the situation but feel good about yourself and good luck.

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