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angryyoungman:
Hello everyone,

at the moment I am faced with a situation I cannot handle myself.
To keep it short, last year I applied for a foreign year in Japan to improve my language skills and bring my studies to an end. I was a good looking confident guy and so they gave me the scholarship. I was so happy , my dream going to Japan was finally coming true.

Then within  half a year just before the project should start, the unthinkable happened I thinned so heavily all over my top hair at age 24 that I had to buzz it off for good. I don't look very good with that and I was afraid to stick out as a foreigner even more. On top of that all the stress initiated a crazy face aging for me, my face is bloated and full of new carves, wrinkles and tear sacs the size of a teabag.

I'm in Japan for 1 week now. My peers look so much younger than me that I'm ashamed to show my ugly face arround them. People reacted so surprised to how young I actually am only 24 and the Japanese seem to be disgusted by me and my hairstyle.There's definetely a cultural bias. I spend most of my time in my room occasionally forcing myself to socialize a bit, but it's very stressful.
I went from confident and funny to scared and introvert.
I force myself to exercise a bit, but I'm so afraid of how to live through this year. My youth was taken from me after I had to struggle in my youth for most of the time anyways and I feel like a worthless sack of flesh now.

angryyoungman:
Anyone?

Razor X:
If you're looking for a pity party, you've come to the wrong place.

Mike E. P.:
I'm sure you don't look as old and aged as you are describing yourself. You are 24 and are a young man. Losing your hair is not going to age you that much. I'm sure no one is looking at you with disgust. Japanese men go bald, too. It's not the end of the world. Maybe things are even more difficult for you because you are in a foreign place, away from home without friends or a source of support.

While losing your hair can be a difficult thing - it was for me, too - we eventually realize that a head of hair is not important in the grand scheme of things. There are many men who were or are in the same position as you. Your hair doesn't define who you are as a person.

This site is a great source of support. Read about others who have felt like you. Their stories and advice may help you.

Good luck!

slymyke:
Have you checked with a doctor to see if there is something else going on medically?  Stress can do some weird things too. 

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