New member needs help.

[Mojopin]

Hi everyone.  I'm new to this forum and, to be honest, I joined to hopefully find some support from others like me.  I'm naturally going bald and I'm not dealing with it well.  Depression has set in and I sometimes feel like my life with women is over.  I don't think I pull off the close-cut look very well.  The thoughts of losing my physical appeal are starting to dominate every minute of every day.  You guys on here are all so positive and confident, and I wish I could follow that lead.  I always depended on my looks to initially attract women, or have them approach ME.......it happened sometimes.  I know now that I have to approach them, and I feel like I can't pull it off.  I really hope women see me differently than I see myself.  Sorry to ramble, but I need some support.  Have any of you single guys found it harder to attract women after losing your hair?  I feel like it's over.

[lowlead]

I know exactly what you're feelin'... you're in the right place, I just joined up about a week ago, and I'm doing great... about the worrying about being attractive to women thing, look around... there are a bunch of threads here about that very subject. it's all about confidence.

here's one that I started a couple of days ago...

http://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/index.php?topic=2298.msg39257

I think you pull off the look really well... you just need to believe in yourself

Ed

[Tyler]

Mojopin - welcome to Sly Bald Guys!!  You found the right place.

I agree with Ed.  Looking at the pic, you pull of the look very well.  I think after reading many of the posts, you'll find that most guys tend to attract more women after shaving their head.  Use us to build your confidence and women will be approaching you in no time.

[Mojopin]

Thanks guys.  I'm glad I found this site.  I hope I can feel confident again.....because god knows, I love women and I'd like a nice one in my life.......or two.     By the way, are there any women on this site?  I'd love some female perspective.

[PBurke]

mojo, i asked my wife's opinion and she said from a lady's point of view:" dude looks fine tell him to shave it. it looks shaved now" so now you have a lady's opinion on this. brother go out there and get your mojo workin. if women are so superficial that hair is that big an issue? do you really want her anyway? you will be fine. just hold your head up and embrace it brother. oh yeah welcome. stick around and let us get to know you. PAULIE

[Mojopin]

Thanks again,  You guys are already helping.

[wpruitt]

Bro, you are pulling off the almost sly look pretty damn good.  Go ahead and break out a razor and see how you look shaved.  Since you have uncertainties, do it on Friday and give it a weekend.  Your cut is close enough that by Monday no one will tell.

I say go for it.  Then go out and look for the ladies!!

[Razor X]

mojo, i asked my wife's opinion and she said from a lady's point of view:" dude looks fine tell him to shave it. it looks shaved now" so now you have a lady's opinion on this. brother go out there and get your mojo workin. if women are so superficial that hair is that big an issue? do you really want her anyway? you will be fine. just hold your head up and embrace it brother. oh yeah welcome. stick around and let us get to know you. PAULIE

OK -- let me get this straight.  He's supposed to trust your wife's taste in men??   

Just kidding, of course.      I agree with what everyone else has said; I don't think you have anything to worry about.  It takes a little time sometimes to get used to the change from hair to no hair.  There's more to you than just your hair.  You look fine now and you'll look fine shaved.  Don't sweat it.

[R o b 6]

Welcome...you've landed in a great place for information and camaraderie.

[warhawk]

mojo....1st of all welcome 2 the forum.  glad that u found us.  i'm not gonna waste your time w/some b#ll$h!t.... so here goes....man.... just slap a good razor (headblade, regular mach3, or regular fusion) on that buzzed dome & make it a smooth dome.   u will not have any regrets.  if anything u will say 2 yourself "damn....i shoulda done this a long time ago". 

and as far as attracting women.... why the HELL do u want a women because of your friggen hair.  u r meeting the wrong type of girl.  that's right i said girl because a real lay-day ain't superficial like that.   man... there r plenty of cool looking sly guys that get a lot of attention from the lay-days.   it's ALL ABOUT THE CONFIDENCE... & the way a real man carries himself.  so... please... keep your head up & do the deed.  no regrets  & no worries!!! 

besides.... take it from your sly brahs, here.... we feel that u will rock the look.  anyways.... keep us posted on your journey 2 the sly life. 

WARHAWK

[Mojopin]

You guys are f****** awesome. 

[lowlead]

Mojo... dooood... my girlfriend says that you should not have any trouble attracting women, Her friend thinks so too...  You just need to shave that bean and hit the pubs (or where ever you go to meet women and approach them like you allready know that they want you.

Just passing it along

Ed

[shyslyguy]

Hi everyone.  I'm new to this forum and, to be honest, I joined to hopefully find some support from others like me.  I'm naturally going bald and I'm not dealing with it well.

Hi mojo ..... you've come to the right place bro. I don't think many people deal with it well to begin with .... after all, it's a big change ... & feels a bit like the person you're so used to being is disappearing fast only to be replaced by some one who looks quite different.

Depression has set in and I sometimes feel like my life with women is over.  I don't think I pull off the close-cut look very well.  The thoughts of losing my physical appeal are starting to dominate every minute of every day. 

Try not to get too depressed about it. I don't say this lightly because I know how hard it  can be. The irony of course, is that the more you worry about it ... the less attractive you will ACTUALLY appear ... as others have said, it's a confidence thing ... if you think you are no longer attractive then that is how you'll come across....people will pick up on it. So it can become a self-fulfilling prophesy!

It's not the lack of hair in itself that will make you "less-attractive" but how you deal with it. Strange but true!

You guys on here are all so positive and confident, and I wish I could follow that lead.  I always depended on my looks to initially attract women, or have them approach ME.......it happened sometimes.  I know now that I have to approach them, and I feel like I can't pull it off.  I really hope women see me differently than I see myself.  Sorry to ramble, but I need some support.  Have any of you single guys found it harder to attract women after losing your hair?  I feel like it's over.

It's not all over at all but it is up to you!

Anyway bro, stick around .... you'll find that the positiveness & the confidence here is catching! Don't worry about venting ... if you can't vent about it here ... well, where can you? .... To a degree that's what this site is all about! Hair loss isn't always an easy thing to cope with but this site can help a lot & you're not alone ... a lot of us have been in exactly the same place that you are now ... & we can tell you .... there is LIFE after hair loss! 

[Beer Barron]

Welcome Mojopin to SBG.

Pretend for a moment that you had some full head of awesome hair.  If you were to get a girl only to find out later that all she liked was your hair, how would that make you feel?  Do you really want to be with somebody who only likes you for the way you look?  I can't imagine that a relationship like that would last that long.

So, keep your head up and take it sly.  There are tons of women out there that really dig the look and to them your bald head would probably just be the cherry on top if you know what I mean.   In reality,  they want a strong, confident man and like most of the guys/gals on here, once we did go sly our confidence soared! 

[Tom McGarry.]

Welcome to the SBG family Mojopin, there realy isn't anything else to say, that hasn't already been said. So I'll just re-enforce what the others have said, Dude you will have NO trouble pulling off thr SLY look, and if you read some of the other threads you'll find that just about everyone who was once worried about their thinning hair, after they went SLY, they all wondered why they worried soooo much, and once they came to that realization, their confidence level went wayyyyyy up! So dude just embrace who you realy are and scalp the lid, and go get-em.