online dating is NOT REALITY. Okay? It's a buffet of pictures, it allows you to be as picky as you can possibly be. You also aren't meeting the person IN PERSON, where actual relationships and hook ups happen. Its just a picture, and some words that usually don't get read. There is no vibe there, no body language, conversation, nothing. It's just a small piece of the puzzle.
Why wouldnt it be reality? I think it's actually even more realistic since in this context women are anonymous and truely speak their mind.
Also, I know the club scene pretty well, and it's even more brutal.
Vibe, body language, all that stuff is dependant on the halo effect, a hot shy guy is mysterious, his less attractive version lacks confidence, and so on. Those are the tests you can pass once you have passed the first test: LOOKS.
I just mentioned why it wouldn't be reality. Its just a picture, you aren't just a picture right? Your a dynamic human being that has to be appreciated in the flesh, in person.
Here's the truth man: the inner affects the outer. Your beliefs, opinions and stories, both about yourself and the world, come out in what people call your "vibe", and in your body language. When your inner world is one of freedom and empowering/very un-limited beliefs, you automatically change externally to fit it, and the world starts relating to you differently as a result. You can't fake the inner state it takes to authentically come across externally as confident, masculine, powerful, charismatic, relaxed, carefree, and so on.
This is where letting go of all this stuff is so powerful, and why being bald isn't the deal breaker most people choose to believe it is. A bald guy who has a inner world filled with negative, defeatist, self loathing, extremely limited beliefs, isn't getting anywhere with anyone. Neither is a massively attractive guy with a magnificent mane of hair. I have heard this from women more than once, that they went from being potentially interested in a really attractive guy to downright repulsed in a matter of about a minute, the first minute they interacted. The guys' vibe was awful, usually its because he was dull, he wasn't alive, engaged, he was bland, had nothing to offer besides his appearance. Most likely from relying on his looks his whole life. Lots of beautiful women fall in the same trap. Hair and extreme good looks are no guarantee of anything besides a slightly raised default level of interest from women, and few men have both of those things so why worry about it anyway.
Walking into a club over flowing with authentic confidence, a rock solid belief that your perfect the way you are and you don't need anyones approval to allow you to feel that way and your ready to get this party started and help people have fun, is attractive. Women take notice. When your that kind of powerful guy, every trait of yours starts to turn into a positive. All of a sudden being bald just add's to the effect, it makes you stand out even more, it makes you more interesting. Girls will come up to you just to rub your head, it becomes an excuse to approach you.
You can live an extraordinary life with a bald head, make no mistake. It starts and ends with the inner world your living in.