Bald or not bald

[silverheart]

Hi guys,

I am new on this Forum and I am from the Netherlands. Many years I had problems with losing my hair because of Astma and seborroisch eczeme. I want to decide to shave of my hair totally. The issue is that my forehead is kind of big so that is why I am affraid to make the final decission. My chin - nose = 8 cm / nose - eyebrows - 6 cm / eyebrows - highest top above my head will be 11-11,5 cm (see attached photo) Also I am affraid to get red since i have sensitive skin. Anyways I wish my forehead was not that big since being bold seems freedom to me! So give me your advice please guys I can use some advice in order to make the final decission.

Greetings from Netherlands

[Mikekoz13]

Your head will look fine shaved.... AND you eczema will go away!!!!

[silverheart]

Hi Mike,

Thanks for your reaction I guess I needed that very much! Yes I am very affraid if I decide to shave it all my eczema breaks out and perhaps I will get red spots.
That is why I am affraid. Could anyone please advice me if the distance from eyebrows till highest point on top of my head (11-11,5cm) is not why to big...

[Cave Dweller]

Welcome, silverheart.

You are not the only one of us who worried about how he would look shaved. From what I can tell by your picture, your head does not have an unusual shape or proportions.  I agree with Mike.  I think you will look fine.

A lot of men on this board have reported that their skin conditions went away when they started shaving.

The only true way for you to know is just to do it.  You will be amazed at how good it feels.

[silverheart]

Hi Cave,

Thanks for your reaction, I hope you are right about my skin conditions. I am 42 years old now but it seems like nobody understands my problem.
My wife told me:"Ok if you want to shave it do it but dont complain about it", but i know she loves me with hair eventhough it is very thinning and transparant.
When I met my wife in Peru and get married it was with hair i guess that is why she hates the idea. But everytime I go out and there is wind my hair looks
like a mess and my reflection in a shopping window is horrible (transparant and thinning blond hairline about 5 cm in the middle). That is why i want to decide
to shave it all off. I will probaly do it and shave it all off but believe me it will be a big step for me to do this and very emotional since I don't know how people
will react and if I could except my face in the mirror after doing this. But it seems so liberating and I respect men daring this and I guess I am new at this and
have to become hard for myself and just do it.

[jdcsky]

How people will react is not important. What is important is how you will feel after shaving your head. You will feel relief from bad hair, you will gain confidence because you carried through with it, and that confidence will radiate. You will walk taller and be good at telling people you chose to do shave your head.

[silverheart]

Thanks guys I know that you are all right but making that final decission is gonna be hard for me..but i have to be strong i know..

[Derris The Barber]

Hey Silver bud there's nothing to it! I looked in the mirror one day and wondered what I would look like bald so I closed my eyes and when down the middle. No need to worry about your forehead....once you shave it all you will see is a bald head, not how big your forehead is! Haha! The plunge will be worth it...I also have a topic I posted on here on how to shave your head with scalp problems....the link is below! Hope I helped! http://www2.slybaldguys.com/smf/index.php?topic=16830.msg260474#msg260474

[silverheart]

Hi Derris,

Thanks for helping out. The thing is also fear not only for making the decission to shave my head but also because of the fact that i have
a very sensitive skin (because of Eczema). To give an example if i shave my face my face burns like crazy and become red (red spots that burn)
But today I had a situation in which I was confronted with the fact that thinning hair is a complete disaster. I had to go to a job interview
this very day and my hair was kind of long but because of the wind it was going out all directions. Before I stepped into the office of the job
agency I saw my reflection in the mirror that was telling me that I have a hairline for about 5-7 cm in the middle and transparant and my longer
hair (that do have a lot of volume could not camouflage the centre anymore). Yep it looked like the famous cam over. I thought by myself:"
Damn why do I even try to hang on to any hairstyle...why can i not accept that i am balding and let it go and shave it...". My wife is visiting
her family in Peru for a month and I told her within this month I will call a specialist that will cutt my hair at home. I will try 1mm first i guess
and then hopefully I have the balls to shave it all of. The thing is I am over the fact that my forehead is maybe large so what but getting red
spots because of shaving is really stressing me out. Believe me I tried every product there is in order to calm down my skin after shaving it
(my beard). So pffff if there is a God please help me win this war with my skin and hair pfff.

[TheSlyBear]

OK, you know that what you've got going isn't working for you. Why is there even a question?

And many guys here with scalp issues have reported that shaving vastly improves that situation.

You don't need Divine intervention, you need to kick yourself in the rear and just get it done.

[silverheart]

Hi Slybear,

Thanks for the message and yep you are so right and I will do something about it no worries.

greetings from Holland

[mrzed]

Don't worry about the 'big head' measurements.  I wear an XXL hat size.  7 7/8th US had size measurement.  Yes, it's almost impossible to find a had that size. 

No one comments on my head size.  It's just what it is.  The head size is unimportant.

It is you. It fits you. It looks fine. 

[stevef]

i had awful scalp problems and when i was told shaving it might help i thought no way and kept backing out.. i did it and couldnt believe it but the issues went within days. trust me. it will help you!

[Sir Harry]

Welcome silverheart! Many people have had scalp issues similar to yours, and when they went sly, it cleared up for most of them. It wouldn't hurt to see a dermatologist to see if there is medication for your issue. Welcome to the forum and good luck.

[geeman]

welcome...wise words from my brothers...take it on board. ...do yourself a favour and go for it...I guarantee you will feel awesome. ...bald by choice is better than balding, no question