Any "friend" who is not totally supportive of you is, simply, not your friend. Remember, true friends are hard to find and if in your lifetime you only end up with one true friend then you are a rich man indeed. In this world there are strangers, acquaintances, and friends. Strangers are perhaps friends that you haven't met yet.
A true friend, either male or female, will weep at your memorial service. Strangers and acquaintances are there for the free food.
Chris