It seems like everything is going for this to happen, except the motivation. Don't expect the woman to do the work! Be the MAN! Either you want to be in a relationship with her or not, but don't string her around. Either full and ask her out for a real date or keep it platonic. And with that said, if things don't work out, she'll at least respect you for having the courage to really ask her out.
Our schedules didn't match up this past week but next Tuesday we're going to a BBQ place. I don't know if it is just me being me or if others can see my point of view on this. I am one of the few people left it seems that believes that sex should wait until after marriage. Well, I heard through the grape vine that she has lost her virginity a few years back. Is it bad that it changes me view of her? I know she hasn't gone out sleeping around but it has still altered the way I see her
Quote from: Mike on February 26, 2013, 10:37:18 AMOur schedules didn't match up this past week but next Tuesday we're going to a BBQ place. I don't know if it is just me being me or if others can see my point of view on this. I am one of the few people left it seems that believes that sex should wait until after marriage. Well, I heard through the grape vine that she has lost her virginity a few years back. Is it bad that it changes me view of her? I know she hasn't gone out sleeping around but it has still altered the way I see herMike,As a lady and a Christian who values sexual purity at this time in my life, I can say that if I met a man who had not waited but who had repented of this sin to God and walked away from it, I probably would be ok with it. I was not always so protective of the gift of purity in my life and it took some sinning followed by the Holy Spirit's conviction in my heart of that sin, followed by the decision either to continue the relationship with the guy OR choose to follow God's Word and accept His plans to change my heart on this matter. The result, though unintended, is that I haven't dated in 10 years. Not willing to give my body and mind and emotions in a sexual manner to a man before marriage now. 99% of men (including Christian men) don't seem to be that patient. Anyways....God changes us through even our past sins and still works in us for His glory. Granted, and I hope I'm not being too open here..., I believe I may have some leftover baggage from that long-time-ago relationship which may come up in a marriage relationship, but I pray the man I marry (if I ever do) will be paitient and loving with me so that he will stand by me as we work it out. He will have other rough areas in his life that I will need to be patient with.