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#15 by Bluebriz on 29 Dec, 2012 05:07
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I don't want to repeat what everyone else has already stated, but what I will say is that within a matter of weeks of shaving your head, the overwhelming majority of people won't even remember what you looked like before. Soon you won't remember and you'll feel like shaving your head has also helped shave off the negativity you carry with you. In fact it might even help if you try to visualise that happening as you shave your head. You can control your own life rather than letting your hair loss control everything you think and do.
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#16 by mahaw90 on 29 Dec, 2012 05:20
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Try going with clippers without guard
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#17 by bennett11 on 29 Dec, 2012 05:23
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I buzzed mine very very short in college and kept it that way. I liked the idea of being different and that I had the confidence of being different. That was years ago in 1949. Happy to have no hair.
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#18 by benlen on 29 Dec, 2012 09:53
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You guys are the only people I can spill my guts to right now, because I have no one else to ask for help.
First off, I'm in a bad time in my life...no relationships, no friendships, no lots of things and despite wanting to change my life and not feel sorry for myself, this balding thing doesn't help. Some of you guys look awesome with a shaved head, I don't. If I said I did, I'd be deluding myself, I can't keep pretending.
The worst part of this is I'm 23 and EVERYONE my age has hair, but not me, I'm like a Norwood IV and IT SUCKS, I hate it so much, with everything else that is wrong with my life I feel like this is just another big "f**k you!" to me.
I don't know if I'm asking for help, or venting. I suppose what I'm looking for is the confidence to shave my head and just not give a f**k what people think. It's SO much easier said than done, which is why I can't "just do it."
I've been contemplating the hair piece route (because surgery is just out of the question right now), but I just dont want a rug on my head all the time, and God forbid it ever falling off, my life would be over.
How do you young guys do it, especially the ones with the not-so-nicely-shaped heads? How did you guys do it??? With all the other sh*t I'm trying to fix in my life, I don't need this right now, but I have to deal with it...I cant just run from it, and am completely lost right now. Maybe the only thing I can do is live with a hair piece and god knows the can of worms that might open for me
hey DRQ––I'm 23 years old as well and have shaved my head. It's not as scary as you might think. I suggest you watch a somewhat humorous, fun video I made on my Youtube Channel about my hairloss and shaving my head. Check it out:
Obviously the guys on this forum are a little biased to shaving heads, because we love the liberation it brings, and in terms of hairloss solutions, it is the easiest, quickest, and least complicated and most socially acceptable form of dealing with hair loss.
I know as a young dude losing hair really, really sucks. It makes you feel as if you life is over. You feel, especially when out with buddies doing stuff, that it makes you feel old, wrong some how, to be losing so much hair.
I can only speak from personal experience, but I'll tell you, in my group of friends, two of us are bald in our early twenties. I chose to shave my head, and though my friends initially teased me about it, I'm not even thinking about it anymore! I'm confident that the shaved head is the route for me to take. Looks good, feels good.
Think of it this way. When you're balding, you are progressively losing less and less control over your hair. Shaving reasserts that control for you. Suddenly, you have a style you choose again, like your friend that cuts his hair short on the sides and long on top, or the friend who sports the fauxhawk, or the friend that grows it long. Suddenly, you're stylish again. You're making a decision rather than being stuck in constant indecision.
And let me tell you this: While you might get some weird looks initially, nobody can fault you for saying, "Hair loss, I'm done with you" and shaving your head. NOBODY. Because by shaving your head you are making a statement to your hairloss that says you are rising above this, moving ahead with a new life and new style.
DRQ, I will say this: If you really feel like shaving isn't what you're about, don't feel pressured to do it. That's why hair pieces, toupees, transplants and hair tattoos exist, because some guys don't want to go down that route. And that's totally up to you.
But before you choose to go that way, consider head shaving at least once to see what its like. Because head shaving is the one and only hair loss solution that isn't permenant; if you hate it, you can always grow what you've got back.
I know a thing or two about hair loss solutions like hair transplants and hair tattoos. While both of these methods can create a great look for a young guy, the problem is that once you get those looks, you're locked into them for life.
You can't shave your head once you have a hair transplant, or most likely can't, because a hair transplant gives you huge donor scars where surgeons cut into your HEAD to remove hairs and transplant them elsewhere.
Hair transplants also do not stop further baldness, and even if you get relatively full coverage from a hair transplant, you're most likely still going to have thin hair on top and a wider than usual part/cowlick in the back (aka a pre-bald spot).
If you get a hair tattoo, HIS Hair Clinic is the best way to go, they have clinics in New York and England––their tattoos don't green or blur with age according to testimonials, and I've looked at a lot as I once considered this an option for my hairloss. The problem with getting a hair tattoo, however, is that you'll still have it when you're old, when it would be considered odd for an old guy to have a buzz cut AND a perfect hairline.
Finally DRQ, even if you don't do anything TODAY, or tomorrow, or the next day about your hair, feel comforted that you do have options. You can get a transplant, you can have a tattoo, you can shave and forget about it. But it isn't the end of the world. So think carefully! -
#19 by Frontier Guy on 29 Dec, 2012 12:05
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benlen - extraordinary post.
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#20 by Ming the Merciless on 29 Dec, 2012 12:38
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I have read--more than once on this forum--posts from guys who think they have a head shape that's all wrong for the prospect of shaving. This is clearly what the psychologists might call "displacement behavior." It masks a deep reluctance to take the step of making so "great" a change in one's appearance. No one's head--as I've said more than once on this forum--looks wrong shaved... unless your head was run over by a truck and poorly reconstructed.
You will, of course, look some different when you transition from whatever's-left to shaved. Who would not? But it's not like going naked in public (that I'd have second thoughts about). In no time at all the look will not be "about you," but just "you."
Take a deep breath, and...
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#21 by stasiu on 29 Dec, 2012 13:06
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hey DRQ––I'm 23 years old as well and have shaved my head. It's not as scary as you might think. I suggest you watch a somewhat humorous, fun video I made on my Youtube Channel about my hairloss and shaving my head. Check it out:
Obviously the guys on this forum are a little biased to shaving heads, because we love the liberation it brings, and in terms of hairloss solutions, it is the easiest, quickest, and least complicated and most socially acceptable form of dealing with hair loss.
I know as a young dude losing hair really, really sucks. It makes you feel as if you life is over. You feel, especially when out with buddies doing stuff, that it makes you feel old, wrong some how, to be losing so much hair.
I can only speak from personal experience, but I'll tell you, in my group of friends, two of us are bald in our early twenties. I chose to shave my head, and though my friends initially teased me about it, I'm not even thinking about it anymore! I'm confident that the shaved head is the route for me to take. Looks good, feels good.
Think of it this way. When you're balding, you are progressively losing less and less control over your hair. Shaving reasserts that control for you. Suddenly, you have a style you choose again, like your friend that cuts his hair short on the sides and long on top, or the friend who sports the fauxhawk, or the friend that grows it long. Suddenly, you're stylish again. You're making a decision rather than being stuck in constant indecision.
And let me tell you this: While you might get some weird looks initially, nobody can fault you for saying, "Hair loss, I'm done with you" and shaving your head. NOBODY. Because by shaving your head you are making a statement to your hairloss that says you are rising above this, moving ahead with a new life and new style.
DRQ, I will say this: If you really feel like shaving isn't what you're about, don't feel pressured to do it. That's why hair pieces, toupees, transplants and hair tattoos exist, because some guys don't want to go down that route. And that's totally up to you.
But before you choose to go that way, consider head shaving at least once to see what its like. Because head shaving is the one and only hair loss solution that isn't permenant; if you hate it, you can always grow what you've got back.
I know a thing or two about hair loss solutions like hair transplants and hair tattoos. While both of these methods can create a great look for a young guy, the problem is that once you get those looks, you're locked into them for life.
You can't shave your head once you have a hair transplant, or most likely can't, because a hair transplant gives you huge donor scars where surgeons cut into your HEAD to remove hairs and transplant them elsewhere.
Hair transplants also do not stop further baldness, and even if you get relatively full coverage from a hair transplant, you're most likely still going to have thin hair on top and a wider than usual part/cowlick in the back (aka a pre-bald spot).
If you get a hair tattoo, HIS Hair Clinic is the best way to go, they have clinics in New York and England––their tattoos don't green or blur with age according to testimonials, and I've looked at a lot as I once considered this an option for my hairloss. The problem with getting a hair tattoo, however, is that you'll still have it when you're old, when it would be considered odd for an old guy to have a buzz cut AND a perfect hairline.
Finally DRQ, even if you don't do anything TODAY, or tomorrow, or the next day about your hair, feel comforted that you do have options. You can get a transplant, you can have a tattoo, you can shave and forget about it. But it isn't the end of the world. So think carefully!
Happy New Year DRQ !
All the SBG who comment to your post are very helpful and I highlight benlen's quote as he is your age with solid brotherly bald advice.
Without pictures, we can only assume you can not pull off a tight buzzcut ? As far as perfect head shape? I don't have one !
The confidence to razor smooth shave your head takes time and support (we offer support here for free, no gimmicks, no contracts).
As far as hair piece (called hair system) goes, they do not "fall off" with today's modern adhesive/mesh base undetectable unit that you can even wear as a moderate crewcut (believe me about this).
Most of us who went premature bald speak with experience and true concern at SBG.
You have much on your balding pate and plate right now. Take your time.
Please reply back or PM any of us whom have replied to your post.
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#22 by Razor X on 29 Dec, 2012 15:09
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If you truly couldn't do it, you wouldn't be here posting about it. The fact that you are suggests that you can do it and are just looking for a little push. Consider yourself pushed.
It's easy to come with a number of excuses not to do it, but at the end of the day the only thing stopping you is you. The worst that can happen is that you find you don't like it and then you grow your hair back. The world won't end or even remember the incident a few weeks down the road. If you don't like it, at least you will have taken the time to find out. If you don't, you will always wonder. -
#23 by baldjoeg on 29 Dec, 2012 15:11
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great advice is given to you here. Why not give it a try? I am sure that you will like it. Who cares what everyone else thinks?
It is you who you need to please.
Good luck and welcome to Sly Bald Guys. This is a great web site and it has helped me out a lot.
Shaving your head will rid you of the worries about hair and well help yopu to build up your self confidence in yourself. It did so for me.
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#24 by OzSly on 29 Dec, 2012 20:01
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BenLen mate - Terrific post
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#25 by Ozz2012 on 29 Dec, 2012 20:47
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I agree with the other fine folks who have posted here...
If what you have is bothering you this much....it won't be any worse if you give it a shot. You could always clipper it down to NEAR sly to get you started...
I started off by bringing it down to a #4...then 3, 2, 1, 0, 000, 0000, 000000 and finally to sly...and now bounce back and forth between 000000 (that's 6x0) and sly.
I have never regretted it, even though you bet your a$$ I was nervous when I first did it.
And because I went from longish hair to no hair, I did get a lot of shocked looks initially...but dude, that'll last a week..maybe two...because people have their own problems, and your physical appearance is only a temporary reprieve for those other people. They'll notice....maybe...MAYBE comment...and then move on with their lives.
As far as your head....I haven't seen you....and I won't claim that EVERYONE looks good with a shaved head. I've seen a few people that should (in my humble, meaningless opinion) grow it back...
But honestly....thats a minority.
Your options....
A hair piece? You can usually tell if someone is wearing one....they're expensive...and there's the stress of "What if it comes off in the wind, or the pool, or whatever"? And...um....If you're planning on being with a girl ...she's gonna find out....
Surgery? If you're that far gone already, you probably aren't going to have that "thick head of lustrous hair" that you're envisioning. Not to mention scarring, and whatever other issues go along with it.
Medications? Well.....I don't think that the current stuff out there is all that effective OR all that healthy. (Im not a doctor, so that is simply my opinion based on what I've read elsewhere)
So....I think your best, safest and cheapest option is to give the buzz or sly look a try. I really think you'll probably like it and will wish you had done it much sooner!
You know...with New Years coming.....that could be your excuse! New Look for the New Year! That's what I did!
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#26 by Gary~ on 30 Dec, 2012 01:01
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You know...with New Years coming.....that could be your excuse! New Look for the New Year! That's what I did!
Best of luck, man.
What a good idea ozz2012. The new year would be a good time for anyone to make the change. You could just tell people that you went to a great party on new year's eve and woke up slick. Don't remember who did it or how it was done but you are going to give it a whirl for a while. -
#27 by Switchy on 30 Dec, 2012 11:00
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Has anyone noticed that the author of this thread made one post and that is it and it just keeps going
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#28 by stasiu on 30 Dec, 2012 11:06
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Thanks Switchblade for noticing this. My reply ended with the following and I am wondering if anyone received a PM (I did not).
Please reply back or PM any of us whom have replied to your post. -
#29 by drq on 30 Dec, 2012 12:19
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Sorry guys, I did read every single post made here, and benlen's post really struck a cord with me considering he's the same age as me.
I think I know what the 'right' decision is, it's just very hard for me to go sly right away, so I think I'll take your suggestions and buzz down to a 2 or 1 and just get use to that. Also I don't remember which one of you said it but the idea of suffering for 20 years sounds like a much worse option than just accepting it.
I don't know...it sucks, it really really sucks but the alternative is feeling sorry for myself and that's just not a life I want to live. I will get it buzzed really short either today or tomorrow.