You guys are the only people I can spill my guts to right now, because I have no one else to ask for help.First off, I'm in a bad time in my life...no relationships, no friendships, no lots of things and despite wanting to change my life and not feel sorry for myself, this balding thing doesn't help. Some of you guys look awesome with a shaved head, I don't. If I said I did, I'd be deluding myself, I can't keep pretending.The worst part of this is I'm 23 and EVERYONE my age has hair, but not me, I'm like a Norwood IV and IT SUCKS, I hate it so much, with everything else that is wrong with my life I feel like this is just another big "f**k you!" to me.I don't know if I'm asking for help, or venting. I suppose what I'm looking for is the confidence to shave my head and just not give a f**k what people think. It's SO much easier said than done, which is why I can't "just do it." I've been contemplating the hair piece route (because surgery is just out of the question right now), but I just dont want a rug on my head all the time, and God forbid it ever falling off, my life would be over.How do you young guys do it, especially the ones with the not-so-nicely-shaped heads? How did you guys do it??? With all the other sh*t I'm trying to fix in my life, I don't need this right now, but I have to deal with it...I cant just run from it, and am completely lost right now. Maybe the only thing I can do is live with a hair piece and god knows the can of worms that might open for me
Quote from: drq on December 28, 2012, 12:58:52 PMhey DRQ––I'm 23 years old as well and have shaved my head. It's not as scary as you might think. I suggest you watch a somewhat humorous, fun video I made on my Youtube Channel about my hairloss and shaving my head. Check it out: Obviously the guys on this forum are a little biased to shaving heads, because we love the liberation it brings, and in terms of hairloss solutions, it is the easiest, quickest, and least complicated and most socially acceptable form of dealing with hair loss. I know as a young dude losing hair really, really sucks. It makes you feel as if you life is over. You feel, especially when out with buddies doing stuff, that it makes you feel old, wrong some how, to be losing so much hair. I can only speak from personal experience, but I'll tell you, in my group of friends, two of us are bald in our early twenties. I chose to shave my head, and though my friends initially teased me about it, I'm not even thinking about it anymore! I'm confident that the shaved head is the route for me to take. Looks good, feels good. Think of it this way. When you're balding, you are progressively losing less and less control over your hair. Shaving reasserts that control for you. Suddenly, you have a style you choose again, like your friend that cuts his hair short on the sides and long on top, or the friend who sports the fauxhawk, or the friend that grows it long. Suddenly, you're stylish again. You're making a decision rather than being stuck in constant indecision. And let me tell you this: While you might get some weird looks initially, nobody can fault you for saying, "Hair loss, I'm done with you" and shaving your head. NOBODY. Because by shaving your head you are making a statement to your hairloss that says you are rising above this, moving ahead with a new life and new style. DRQ, I will say this: If you really feel like shaving isn't what you're about, don't feel pressured to do it. That's why hair pieces, toupees, transplants and hair tattoos exist, because some guys don't want to go down that route. And that's totally up to you. But before you choose to go that way, consider head shaving at least once to see what its like. Because head shaving is the one and only hair loss solution that isn't permenant; if you hate it, you can always grow what you've got back. I know a thing or two about hair loss solutions like hair transplants and hair tattoos. While both of these methods can create a great look for a young guy, the problem is that once you get those looks, you're locked into them for life. You can't shave your head once you have a hair transplant, or most likely can't, because a hair transplant gives you huge donor scars where surgeons cut into your HEAD to remove hairs and transplant them elsewhere. Hair transplants also do not stop further baldness, and even if you get relatively full coverage from a hair transplant, you're most likely still going to have thin hair on top and a wider than usual part/cowlick in the back (aka a pre-bald spot). If you get a hair tattoo, HIS Hair Clinic is the best way to go, they have clinics in New York and England––their tattoos don't green or blur with age according to testimonials, and I've looked at a lot as I once considered this an option for my hairloss. The problem with getting a hair tattoo, however, is that you'll still have it when you're old, when it would be considered odd for an old guy to have a buzz cut AND a perfect hairline. Finally DRQ, even if you don't do anything TODAY, or tomorrow, or the next day about your hair, feel comforted that you do have options. You can get a transplant, you can have a tattoo, you can shave and forget about it. But it isn't the end of the world. So think carefully!
You know...with New Years coming.....that could be your excuse! New Look for the New Year! That's what I did! Best of luck, man.
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