Finally Done after all these years!!!

[JefferyB]

Nice to see this place. My story is I'me an 80s guys so hair was big then obviously and I fashioned my blonde do from the likes of Duran Duran to Billie Idol and then it grow even longer after high school during all the hair band days. This was around 1989, but even before then my hair high started thinning out a little around 87 when I got a short haircut and my cousin said it looked like I had the mange LOL.

Even though looking back at the time I still had a cool head of hair ala Andre agassi before his shave, I started to notice my hair line receding more and more, i began to obsess about it. My freshman year of college, I bought my first hair saving product called "omexin" and started to use it. only to realize later it was a bunch of crap. I then went through all the rogaine, etc with minimal results for a lot of maintenance and it never helped replace the hairline. So it was time to go for the hair transplant around 1990, it was bad, but I had so much existing hair at the time it wasnt really noticeable, it was ok at the time, fast forward another 5 years and it was worse, thinned out more and the doll hair was noticeable and I was always self concious about it, if the wind blew in a certain direction, I thought everyone was staring at it, so then I decided to get another transplant, this would be the final one I though, solve all my problems.

Well at first it did, I let my hair grow out and it blended in well, all though, some chicks would stare and stare intently at my reconstructed hair line if they got real close and it was like they just couldnt figure it out for sure, but I knew, and I knew they noticed something wasnt natural. Fast forward 17 years later, 2 kids and a wife. I started to lose hair at the crown and was developing a bald spot in the back of my head I hadnt really paid attention to, but what looked weird was the plugs were  still there in all there shining glory, it looked like a reverse mohawak, LOL.

In my time a lot of girls thought of me a cute and I could pull the women at one time, but I started letting myself get out of shape and the hair thing was just aging me also. It took a traumatic set of personal events to get my life back on track and back in the gym 5-6 days a week religously cutting weight and lifting, and I went and found an old fashioned barber rather than all the girly hair salons my wife had wanted me to go to and got me a good flat top. One night I was staring at the top where the plugs were because they had never been that short before and even though it looked neat, the plugs were apparent and with my hair that short, mr bald spot in the back was a main attraction. I grabbed the scissors and cut the plugs off then shaved them, I then realized, the crap was still thick on the back and sides and give me this old man look, so I said I guess I have to go all the way with this, so I cut and shaved it all off. Only issue  had was the stupid looking frankenstein scar at the back, the plugs shave down very smooth and you cant notice, but if they grow back it looks like planted corn and feels like a brillow pad. My mother freaked out, (;Ime 42 almost btw), said not to even set by her at church LOL, my wife who Ime now seperated from said she hated it, funny thing is, I was suddenly getting looks from younger chicks, big smiles and conversation that they initiated. I felt it was of the most freeing and empowering things I ever did, lotis more confidence, the only issue I was having was the scar and decding if I should let the back grow in just enough to cover it, but its a fine line between having the 5oclock shadow in the back with the scar showing or grow it out to much and get the older look. I just got plain mad and said screw it, screw that scar and screw anyone else who made a big deal out if it, it really looks better SLY to be honest..

 I just did this a couple of weeks ago but  my mom and ex keep wanting me to let my hair grow back out, but I keep finding my self back in front of the mirror with my hand on the razor with shaving cream in hand and a bottle of jergens natural tan doing my thing. Its so much less time, so much worry free, not having to worry how the wind blows, throwing away the stupid hats and just embrace the world and live life. Any young guys out there don't get a transplant and if you did get one, say to heck with it, be a man and free yourself despite the scar, give it a while you will thank yourself in the end.

[Frontier Guy]

Welcome Jeffery, and congratulations on reclaiming your life!

Its so much less time, so much worry free, not having to worry how the wind blows, throwing away the stupid hats and just embrace the world and live life.

That really is the crux of it all. Permanently abandoning the stress and worry of maintaining a false facade.

Thanks for sharing your story. All of us here understand the hair issues, whether due to MPB or BBC.

Get ready for an entirely new life experience to open around you. It's an exciting time.

[Sir Harry]

Welcome! Thanks for sharing your story about your hair transplant...you're not the first to come forward and admit the evils of a hair transplant...as far as your scar goes, many of us have imperfections on our bald heads, but sometimes scars can be our best features, As far as family reactions go, many of our mothers have voiced disapproval, but we are grown men, and WE are the 24-7 guys that have to live with our sly decision....as far as the ex goes, (assuming she remains your ex), don't give her the power and/or satisfaction that she still can control you or get inside your head (this from a guy with THREE failed marriages)....Looking at your picture, I don't know what your hair was like, but you carry the sly look well...Again welcome, check out all of the topics to help you maintain the sly look, and post often!

[mrzed]

Well, goodness, the sly dome looks good.

[Mikekoz13]

Welcome aboard, Jeffrey!!

Excellent post!

[marty22]

welcome and thanks for sharing your story.

[wilky895]

     Welcome, in the early- mid 80's  during HS & college I also had longer hair; but soon after I was going MPB quickly. I didn't try any of the things you did ( sounds like a lot of work and trouble for little results). I just began shaving me head a couple of weeks ago and am extremely happy with the "SLY" look. It looks good on you, I have gotten great info and support from the guys on this site, so be sure to check it out when you have the time. Once again welcome .

[IllinoisBaldy]

Welcome to SBG JefferyB.  I also had a ht in the 90's and quickly lost the rest of my hair exposing the horrible looking plugs.  I shaved my head for the first time in 2009 and it has been the best thing I've done regarding hairloss.

[stasiu]

thanks for sharing story and welcome to SBG !  its a keeper !

[Paul the Headblader]

welcome. sorry for not reading the whole loooong post!

[RoWilJr]

*whew*...kinda long post... LOL!
Anywho, welcome to SBG! Congrats on the Sly! You look great

[mangosink12572]

Welcome and enjoy the shaved dome  - - -It is a great "look"

[JefferyB]

Guys, thanks alot, it helps to hear others story and support, it helps me reafirm my decision. Sorry for the previous long post LOL....I just had about over 20 plus years of vent up stuff inside about this whole hair loss stuff that I've never talked to anybody before about because I think its hard to understand unles your going through it. About the picture, thats my 16 year old stepdaughter with me at my other daughters 9 year old birthday party and the ex well I still care alot about her and I can't stand her either both at the same time if that makes any sense. Well once again thank for the support guys!!

[Pike Mayne]

You rock the sly look man, great decision

[Lynchy]

Guys, thanks alot, it helps to hear others story and support, it helps me reafirm my decision. Sorry for the previous long post LOL....I just had about over 20 plus years of vent up stuff inside about this whole hair loss stuff that I've never talked to anybody before about because I think its hard to understand unles your going through it. About the picture, thats my 16 year old stepdaughter with me at my other daughters 9 year old birthday party and the ex well I still care alot about her and I can't stand her either both at the same time if that makes any sense. Well once again thank for the support guys!!

Welcome!

Don't apologize it was a great post, especially if any lurkers were thinking of getting a transplant!

You own the look my friend, keep it up!