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a lad of eighteen needs support

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slider.in.the.making:
First and foremost, I would like to sincerely thank all of those who post on this site - I've been in the clutches of serious depression and going through the posts/stories on this site has shown me that you can be bald AND happy.

My receding hairline/general thinning was first pointed out to me last summer when I was seventeen, and since then I've become a shadow of my former self. I've become less confident, less outgoing and less sociable - and I don't want to be this guy anymore. I go to bed thinking about hair loss, I dream about hair loss, I wake up thinking about hair loss and then I spend the day thinking about hair loss.. as you may have gathered, this is not a life. I was once very optimistic about the future, and I enjoyed thinking about what my adulthood might entail.. but now I struggle to envisage happiness until I am at a 'normal' age for MPB (I'd put that at 30+). In January this year, I got the confirmation letter from Cambridge University saying that I had been accepted to study history (!).. surely this would perk me up I thought.. but no, my anxiety only increased.

I've spent the past 6 months frantically scanning the internet for anything that could sort me out, but as I'm sure you are all well aware, there is nothing.

I won't lie - I am scared to go sly  :-[ but I plan to do it in a year's time when I am travelling in India (and probably get mistaken for a monk/hare krishna LOL)


this post is intended as entrance into what seems to be a fantastic community, and one that I would like very much to be a part of - if any one of you began MPB around the same time as I have, then I'd be really grateful for some advice/consolation/slap round the face lol

Sir Harry:
First off, welcome aboard...Secondly, yes it bothers a lot of men when something that usually happens when you're older, but what can you really do? I would try a buzz first just to get used to my hair being at a shorter level. Then down the road, maybe you could go all the way. There are SEVERAL guys that are going through what you're going through and once going sly, more often than not they've been happier. Keep us posted and Good Luck!

KDusk:
Welcome to the forum, slider!!!

There's a lot of us on here that started thinning at a young age. My hairline started receding right after puberty (about 18 years old) and since 2 years my hair has started thinning on top. I'm 24 now, and I've gone through all of the same emotions: waking up and going to bed with 'balding' and it dominating my social life.

I also considered taking medication to stop the hair loss, but after reading about the side effects, there was no way I was going to do THAT. I had been contemplating to shave it all off, but I was too scared to do so, until I read the posts on this forum.

Just know that it's normal for some people to feel insecure about taking it all off (like me). I've been shaving my head for about 3 months now and I like it: I am a new person, I'm more mature and I overcame my own vanity (thinking only people with hair could be beautiful, man, was I wrong). Sometimes I think about growing it back (because I did not feel like shaving that day or because I got bored), but then I give up after 4 days  ;)

From one minute to another I went from 2 inches of hair to 0. If this scares you, you can always go for the gradual approach by buzzing it shorter and shorter each time. I do advise you to hold on to the 30 Day Rule. Keep it buzzed/shaved for at least 30 days. Don't necessarily wait another year, because it will be another year of being unhappy and struggling with the of MPB.

And the best advice: don't be too hard on yourself. An experience like this will make you grow as a person and you will find your true beauty, both inside and outside. You will become a member of a new lifestyle and maybe you can help out future members too with your story.

Don't overthink it too much: staying in the same place as you are now hasn't made you happy and maybe a change will help!

And congratulations on getting accepted in Cambridge University! I hope you will enter your first day there as a proud and sly student. The world needs more people like us  8)

Paul the Headblader:
hey and welcome!
I'm 20 and I've got hair nightmares!!! I just hate it.
shave it off and be free.

TheSlyBear:
Why wait? At least buzz it down for now. You will feel better.

Almost to a man, the most common reaction afterwards is "Why the hell did I wait so long?"

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