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Puddin:
Hey guys, new to this site, found it the other day when i was considering shaving my head again. I have actually shaved my head twice before this last time, and really enjoyed it. Most of the people i know say i look awesome with a bald head, bad ass and all that. But there is one slight problem, of all the people who love my head bald, my Fiancee hates it. She actually says, and guys please don't take offense cause she knows not what she says, that the bald look is, "Ugly." Any of you guys have the same problem? If so, how'd you take care of that?

RC The Uncola:
I had shaved down to 1mm last summer but ex-gf gave me such a hard time.  All my bros liked it.  But i did give in to her and styled it how she wanted me too.  But the reason she is my ex isnt cause of that its because thats how she turned out to be in all aspects of the relationship--- She would take away all individualisitic actions and wouldnt be happy unless she got her way. My hair is going THIN dude im gonna have to shave it sooner or later thats just a fact..her telling me she didint like it wasnt a good sign.  Sorry to ramble...

Bottom line its good to try to make her happy but you still gotta be your own man.

YOSP:
Puddin, first of all, welcome to the site...if you have any questions about being SLY or anything for that matter you came to the right site. You will see that there are some cool dudes here that will give you an honest answer which is cool because we can relate to your issue(s) someway or another.

Next, about your fiance', how long have you been together?
I am getting married in Sept. and was wearing a toupee for 7yrs, I told my girl about it almost 2yrs ago (been together for 3) after the initial fear of what she would think. After realizing how ridiculous and insecure I was being, I decided to shave it off completely and have been that way for 3 weeks now. I was concerned at first of what she would think, but I had to do it for myself. She had no problem with it at all, and loves it (well thats what she says). She has assured me that at this point in our relationship, hair or no hair, that is no what is in the least important. We are about to start our lives together and me having a "BOLD" head is not even the slightest of things that matter.

As far as your situation, I think you have to ask yourself a few questions...
1)is it going to make you happy?
2)if this is "UGLY" to your fiance', then maybe you have to ask yourself are you getting married to the right person? if she loves you and wants to marry you, she should accept you for who you are.
3)she is being selfish, she should be supporting you, not making you feel worse about something you have no control over, I'd hate to think about something that is really serious in your relationship and how it gets handled

No offense brother, I am not trying to break up you relationship, but you need to hear the truth...maybe she just needs to get used to it?   

Stu:
Puddin, that's harsh.  Are you going bald, or does it look like it's in your future?  The obvious choice here is if you're losing the hair, shaving is the best option.  If your fiancee thinks you look ugly, I have to wonder where her priorities lie.  It sounds like you have some serious talking to do before the nuptials.  She might be someone like NotBaldYet's ex -- i.e. controlling.  You want your future wife to contribute to your happiness, not take away from it.  Best of luck; this is a tough one.

Sgt. Pate:
DUMP HER!   :Xo!

J/K... one of the first lessons I learned in my marriage, now 35 years old, it's give and take... you give and she takes!   :*))  NO NO!    (H@

Seriously, as long as it's something you can live with (personally I couldn't but I tried for her) I'd recomend you not shave.  It's a small act of your love for her... really! 

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