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schro:

--- Quote from: mudds on November 30, 2011, 07:49:08 AM ---Wow, that was fast...  Well this has been going on for about a year now with me feeling down about the hair thing and in more recent months my wife make comments about my bald head all the time.  i have spoke to her about it and she has made it very clear she does not like bald heads.  I do have hair on the sides which she wants me to grow with like a comb over effect.  No way on this earth....... i do shave the back and sides and she said i look like a thug.  thats the long and short of it, no pun inteded.

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Dude, I feel your pain. The Lovely Mrs. Schro hated the sly look on me (I'm still not certain she's fully on board with it). Well, I'll be celebrating my 5 year anniversary of being sly this New Year's Day. I changed my look for ME. Along the way, I found out I experienced a major health benefit from shaving my head....complete relief from a painfully itchy scalp condition, sebhorreic dermatitis.

Although that is the main reason I have maintained a shaven dome, there are many others:

1) Confidence. I never thought I lacked confidence due to my hair (yes, I was sporting the "hairy toilet seat" like you), but I feel a lot better about myself now that I am sly. I especially like it during the summer months out by the pool, golf course, wherever.

2) Ease of Maintenance. One shave in the morning, and you're good to go. Worry free and out the door.

3) Cost. It's actually cheaper to be sly then mess with shampoo, conditioner, and haircuts. I did a (non-scientific) study on this and posted it somewhere here on SBG.

4) Combover???? WTF? OK, that's not a reason to go sly, but why would you (or your wife) ever consider it? Although your hair (or absence of it) is only a part of your appearance, I can name many handsome bald dudes....I struggle to think of one that looks good with a hairy toilet seat. Plus, the stigma of a combover is (in my opinion) too much to overcome.

Look, do whatever you think is best for YOU. I think you need to consider all options. But remember, there are many guys that are BBC (Bald By Choice), but no one is CBC (Combover By Choice).

Good Luck!
Schro......PROUDLY SLY!

Paul the Headblader:
welcome to sbgs.
you can do nothing but to embrace the fact that you're goind bald.

D.A.L.U.I.:
Like Brother Schro my wife did not and does not care for the Sly "hair" style, but that being said she's learned to live with it.  I had to do it for me--for many reasons, I just couldn't continue on the balding look.  Wife has found her lady friends find it attractive on me--so that's put a sock in it about that part--nothing like a little friendly "interest" in the spouse to alter the attitude ;). 
But not having to worry about the "do" getting it wet and having the carefully arranged and ever diminishing number of strands melt into a drowning rat look, being able to get in the pool or at the beach without the increasing "balding" look caused by wet and thinning hair, and, frankly, the pleasant addition to my life of compliments--you never ever get the comment "That combover looks good" or "Thinning hair becomes you"  or "Your head shape fits the receding hairline".  But you will get compliments on the Sly look, promise. 
I have to say it won't be pleasant, but just shave down, clean it up--and after 30 days, she'll be quiet most of the time about it.  But, you'll be rid of all the balding angst.  No angst--more confidence, more confidence, more compliments, more compliments--your wife will realize others like the look, and she's just going to have to get on the train. 

nuts:
Well said SaintC.

Ravenangel:
If you don't mind, let me tell my opinion on the "combover vs. sly" question.

Combover - in general - gives the impression of a Very Serious, But Slightly Boring Elderly Businessman.

(Thanx for the laugh, this >>you never ever get the comment "That combover looks good" or "Thinning hair becomes you"  or "Your head shape fits the receding hairline"<< was very funny! :}}}}})

Shaved head - in general - gives the impression of a cool and easy-going guy.

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