I have some relationship issues. My 'marriage' relationship didn't work and we split back in November just because we both wanted more than an occasional text. Here is where I am at now. I dated this girl for 2 1/2 years when I was still a teenager and we had an awesome relationship I thought. I was working and going to school and she wanted to go to a dance at school but I couldn't go so she went 'alone' but I found out she went with some other guy. A while later she got pregnant but had a miscarriage a couple months in. It was around the time I found out she went with another guy that we split and it was a mutual decision. We both agreed that we were still young and had some growing up to do and everything. We didn't talk for probably 5 months after breaking up even though we live next door to each other and had classes together and everything. Over the last couple years we have become great friends again which I enjoy. She always comes to me for relationship advice and I help her just as a friend. I have always had feelings for her and when we were going out I honestly could see us getting old together. Every time I saw her with another guy I cringed. Looking at it from a therapist view I look at it as a possessive thing, she was my first real girlfriend so I want to hold onto it. This past weekend we spent it together from the time she got home on Thursday to when she left on Tuesday. We went everywhere together, we slept in the same bed all weekend, it was basically like we were dating again but not. Her friends kept saying how we make such a cute couple and everything and I honestly think the feelings have been rekindled again. But I am affraid because as the saying goes "Once a cheater, always a cheater". Plus she is no longer a virgin anymore and I still am and I know she has a large appetite for sex which I am old fashioned and prefer to wait til after marriage and I am afraid she wont respect that all the way. I just need advice on what to do. Looking at it as someone else's relationship I would tell myself not to do it but I want to, that is why I need my Sly brethren to give me pointers on this
Clearly I'm an older guy so I can throw out my opinion from a different angle.If you feel attracted to her, of course give it a shot. However stay true to YOUR beliefs. If you are strongly committed to waiting until marriage that is YOUR choiceand don't let anyone change your mind. If she puts pressure on you to change your beliefs for her then it is a sign of what could come down the road in the future.And once you give what your views say is a special part of yourself to someone you can not get it back.I am not saying you should or should not remain a virgin until marriage, I'm simply saying remain true to yourself and if you do things will work out the way they are meant to.
I have some relationship issues. My 'marriage' relationship didn't workPlus she is no longer a virgin anymore and I still am
Hey Mike,Stick to your values on the sex issue. I support you 100% on this. I did and I am glad that I did. I wish you the best of luck now and always.