Request to let it grow

[jimbo48]

I had been buzzing my hair short fot 3 years.  Eight months ago I went completely sly (BBC). I have been shaving my head every day for the past eight months.

My wife has accepted my bald head.  One of our kids is getting married in a month.  My wife has asked me to let my hair grow out for a month before the wedding.  She said that would I look better in the wedding pictures if I have some hair on my head.

What do you guys suggest?  After all, my hair will be only about 1/4 " by then.  I can shave it off after the wedding.

[TheSlyBear]

For me, I would refuse on a matter of principle -- but you'll need to make up your own mind on it.

[Razor X]

  After all, my hair will be only about 1/4 " by then.  I can shave it off after the wedding.

It should be at approximately 1/2" after a month.  You might need to buzz it back to 1/4" in order to look tidy.

I'm inclined to agree with TheSlyBear.  I'd definitely refuse on principle if I'd been shaving my head for a long time.  But you've only been doing it for eight months -- and as you say, you can resume shaving when the wedding is over.  It may be worth it to keep the peace, but as Bear said, it's your call.

[Magoo]

My wife had the same request 2 years ago when my son got married. What did I do ??
I let my hair grow about two weeks, had the wedding and pictures then reshaved . She was happy and never had any further request. Why not make her happy for this occasion? Woman make a big deal about wedding pictures that's just the way they are.You could play hardball and keep shaving , but why not for this one occasion keep the peace and give in ?------" Loose the battle but win the war."

[chgobuzzbald]

I would just explain this is my new haircut, I dont dictate your hair styles. But the person you should really ask is the one who is getting married, what does your  child think ? It is their wedding, not your wifes.

[Laser Man]

You say your wife has accepted your sly look, but it sounds like she isn't really thrilled by it.  It really comes down to deciding how much heartache this issue will cause and only you can determine that. 

[D.A.L.U.I.]

Well, this could be interesting.  Let it grow, within a week you're going to be sporting a very noticeable Bozo Ring and it only gets worse--then let them decide.  When presented with the one week or so regrowth after about a year, my daughter who'd requested it for her wedding was not at all upset to see it go and although she was the star of the wedding, it was nice to be a supporting "light."  After all, the pictures--you're going to be bald for the rest of your life--what's to remember?

[Mike]

Last year I had a similar issue come up. We had a big family reuinion and everyone requested I grow my hair for the month or so leading up to it. I didnt want to but so many family members had asked so I tried. Well a couple weeks into it my brother said I looked dumb with hair, then my mom said it didnt look right, then grandma said I looked like I just left prison so ultimately they requested I shave it off again so I did. At that point I had been shaving smooth for over a year though. Everyone at the reunion loved the smooth noggin and didnt even mention hair

[Arnie]

Funny thing...I was asked just the opposite for a wedding during my pre-SLY days.  Then again, my hair was receding.

You know best...do what you gotta do.

Seems to me you made your choice 8 months ago.

[jimbo48]

Thanks for the advice.  I plan to let my hair grow out and keep a #1 buzz until the day after the wedding.  Then I will resume daily shaving. 

[D.A.L.U.I.]

F the #1 buzz, they need to see what the issue is, and that becomes more apparent as it grows.  They need to see and accept that you have mpb and that you don't look your best or feel your best unless you handle it your way.  Let it grow, let them see what it is.

[jimbo48]

Saintc:

I am sorry if you missed the fact that I have a full head of hair and am bald by choice.   But I do appreciate your comments.

[sailor61]

Ask your kid and if it's a son that is getting married, ask the bride.  It's "her" day and if letting it grow for 3 or 4 weeks keeps the peace- go for it.

[chgobuzzbald]

A great twist on this would be to shave your sons head the night before at a bachelor party. Maybe even have others in the wedding shave heads the night before. Then surprise everyone the next day with a mostly bald wedding party

[jimbo48]

A great twist on this would be to shave your sons head the night before at a bachelor party. Maybe even have others in the wedding shave heads the night before. Then surprise everyone the next day with a mostly bald wedding party

Glad you mentioned that.  The last 2 weddings we atteded, the grooms had shaved heads.