Seriously. My wife and I have an understanding. She can make me do exactly what I want, I can make her do exactly what she wants. If we think it might piss off the other, we talk.
It's always better to beg forgiveness than ask permission. I think that's one of Gibbs' Rules as well.
I was in the same boat. My wife absolutely did not want me to go sly. I decided to go for it anyway. I think the 30 day rule goes for significant others too. She's chasing me down now. It's all good.