Shaving down - What age did you do it and how has it affected dating

[Nate]

Still got this Hair Transplant scar

Trying to cohearse my friend into coming to Thailand so I can get a tan buzz my head and get used to being comfortable with myself in my new look

I know it sounds extreme but a holiday will definitely help me clear my head even though anxiety will hit home when I get home

[D.A.L.U.I.]

Excuses, excuses--just do it--you want to, just do it.

[Nate]

 

Mate I must sound like everyone here would of at some point. After you do it it sounds like no big deal but building yourself up to do it is another story. I think its not the dating thing I think its more the vanity or self conscious thing about looking or thinking I look like a fool argh

Ill change my username to ExcuseKing

[Redgrave101]

You'll get there, I let myself get in a real state over it all. Only recently have i begun to embrace the look. Now im finding myself alot more confident (most of the time) I still have my bad moments, but then who doesn't!?
As for dating, im off to London next week to meet up with a girl i met while on holiday back in March... and to be frank, she is stunning! Shes from Nice in the south of France and works as a full time nurse. Naturally i feel i am punching WAY above my weight here but hey, she liked me plenty back then so why wouldn't she now? She already knows about my decision to shave and isn't bothered by it.
So i'll be sure and let you know just how that goes, i think the biggest mistake i could make would be to not shave and therefore be worried about how my hair looks, rather than giving her my full attention.
Also just to clarify, my avatar was back when i had probably a number 2 buzz. I had some thinning going on at the top but i seemed to be the only one who noticed. Im think the best thing you could do for yourself right now is bust out the clippers!!
On a final note.. have to agree with you about Rob's other half. He's one lucky guy!

[Nate]

You'll get there, I let myself get in a real state over it all. Only recently have i begun to embrace the look. Now im finding myself alot more confident (most of the time) I still have my bad moments, but then who doesn't!?
As for dating, im off to London next week to meet up with a girl i met while on holiday back in March... and to be frank, she is stunning! Shes from Nice in the south of France and works as a full time nurse. Naturally i feel i am punching WAY above my weight here but hey, she liked me plenty back then so why wouldn't she now? She already knows about my decision to shave and isn't bothered by it.
So i'll be sure and let you know just how that goes, i think the biggest mistake i could make would be to not shave and therefore be worried about how my hair looks, rather than giving her my full attention.
Also just to clarify, my avatar was back when i had probably a number 2 buzz. I had some thinning going on at the top but i seemed to be the only one who noticed. Im think the best thing you could do for yourself right now is bust out the clippers!!
On a final note.. have to agree with you about Rob's other half. He's one lucky guy!

I always stress about this and I am sure you guys all been through this

Head shape. I am in two minds I do not think I will look good (trying to get over the feeling of caring or being comfortable thats the idea behind going away and being amongst strangers)

You can tell you will look good with a shaved head. And this girl as we all know most women really look at the person inside. We all talk about punching above our own weight but then hey maybe shes thinking the same.

I am also trying to get to grips with the fact most people have their own issues so they do not care whether you shave your head or not. So we make this out to be a massive thing because it is in our own minds but to most other people they could care less what you do (we make ourselves feel like we are the centre of the world)

[Redgrave101]

[I am also trying to get to grips with the fact most people have their own issues so they do not care whether you shave your head or not. So we make this out to be a massive thing because it is in our own minds but to most other people they could care less what you do (we make ourselves feel like we are the centre of the world)]

So true.
 
 
 

[BillOnBass]

I'm with Nate and Redgrave.  If anyone is worried about dating after they are balding/shaved bald, just take one look at Rob-Raz's profile pic!

[Nate]

And who is that girl in yellow hanging off you Redgrave... She is a stunner

[Rob-Raz]

   Thanks guys, I told my wife she had some new fans! 

[IRONHORSE]

Hmmm...this goes back a ways, I'm 44 now. I began losing my hair some time in my mid-late 20's. I began by buying a pair of clippers, and began progressing to shorter and shorter attachments. I don't recall an exact date, but one day, after having used the shortest of the attachments for some while, I was shaving my face and thought to myself "Why not just shave my whole head?" That was the beginning of Sly-ness for me. I've been a head shaver ever since.

When I first shaved my head, I was engaged to the girl I'd met right after I divorced my first wife. That engagement fell through, and I decided I'd spend awhile "sewing my wild oats." I proceeded to do so, with great vigor.

I'll spare you the details, as I don't want to come off as a braggart. Suffice it to say, I have never found being sly to be any kind of impediment to picking up women, and I can't recall a single incident of a woman saying anything like "Oh, you're bald. I'm not interested." If anything, I think the confidence boost I got by ridding myself of my receding hairline and going fully sly made it easier to pick up women, as opposed to wondering what she would be thinking of my receding hairline.

No doubt about it - being Sly has definitely been a huge plus for me! I married the great love of my life as a SBG, and she's told me that if there were a pill that would magically enable me to grow a full head of hair again, she'd want me to STAY sly!

[phigg]

Good points.  So many guys worry and obsses over their hair/hairloss (I sure did!!), and it distracts you.  It takes you off your game, it kills your self confidence.
Getting rid of the hair altogether removes that obstacle.

Nate, I don't know what kind o' shape melon you have, but they come in all kinds.  why do you think yours isn't a "good" shape?  BTW, I really had no idea about mine, I'd also kept my hair long enough that I honestly couldn't know.  I was kinda pleasantly surprised that I had a "bi-level" pate, lol. Damn shame my noggin is marred up by HT scars, but of course I'll be working on improving and diminishing those.

Here's a recent true story:  our next door neighbor, he was in his early 80's, and a recently widow'd guy, died about 6 months ago. His kids (who are all grown up w/ their own homes) have been fixing up the property to sell it. His daughter (who's older than I) heard about my head shaving from her brother, who I'd talked to the other day, and she went on and on to my wife about how "she totally loooves a shaved bald guy"; for her, apparently, it's handsome and bold. So some women actually prefer that look!


 

[kenny57028]

I am also trying to get to grips with the fact most people have their own issues so they do not care whether you shave your head or not. So we make this out to be a massive thing because it is in our own minds but to most other people they could care less what you do (we make ourselves feel like we are the centre of the world)

Yes so true. Many people are worried about the way they look and the way other people think of them that they don't have time to think twice that your bald. Think about it before you went bald and you saw someone that was sly did you ever think twice about it or were you just "oh that guy has a shaved head" and nothing more past that.  Even super models who are suppose to be the best looking people out there are self consicous about one thing or another. Trust me man you pry look alot better than you think.