Shaving down - What age did you do it and how has it affected dating

[Nate]

Biggest or one of the biggest points is the worry of dating

What are you experiences of when you shaved down... especially with the women

[Rob-Raz]

Well....my wife said one of the things that got her to notice me was my shaved head...which was just a no guard clipper shave at the time.  Have since went sly and she loves it.

[Nate]

Razor Rob

Please do not take this the wrong way but your wife is gorgeous. You look like a made man

What age did you start losing and at what point did you say enough is enough its coming off

[Rob-Raz]

Hey.....I can't take a compliment about my wife in a bad way. Thanks! 

I started thinning out on top in my early twenties...but already clipper shaved by choice..just liked the look. In my early thirties i tried to grow it back out again and realized it wasnt gonna work.    so back to the clipper shave.  I turn 40 next month and justed shaved bald a month ago for the first time (and every day since.) Shaving is so much easier and i dont have any days where the look is kinda iffy.....like in the picture in my avatar...where the sides are a bit darker than the top.

[Nate]

My fear (here we go again with my insecurities) is shaving it down and seeing the patchy baldness (my hair is slightly longer so its hard to tell how patchy bald I am) but I honestly will shave

So from the sounds your hair cut short clipped lasted for quite a while

I also believe that the shaved look makes alot of guys that normally blend into the background with hair and it brings them to the front where women notice them. That mixed in with a bit of confidence and its a good thing

I have this ambition to shave down and go surfing for a few months

[Smooth_Operator]

Nate - from what I've found, there are some women who don't like the sly look, but the majority do... and those that like it *really* like it.  Go to the coffee shop, grocery store or beach a week after you go sly and you'll see what I mean.  There's really no one who is indifferent about sly guys, but most people don't notice someone with hair unless something else about them stands out (to Rob-Raz' point about getting noticed).

Sly guys have at least a little "bad boy" in them, and that edge is attractive.  Balding guys, guys self-conscious about their hair, guys that don't make eye contact... not as attractive, regardless of what you look like or what shape you're in... because you're constantly hiding something.  There's always a monologue going on in your head about "how does my hair look" and people can sense that you're not 100% present in the conversation.

Going sly doesn't change who you are, it just takes the "hoping-no-one-notices-my-bad-hair" part of social interactions completely off the table.  It lets you be who you really are.  So if you're going to do it, embrace it... get excited about it, smile more, hold your head up, walk around like being sly has given you some super-powers that only you know about.  The difference is night and day.

In dealing socially with women, it's not about whether you have hair or shave it off, and which they prefer visually... it's about being able to genuinely be you (for a change).  And having your badass-edness automatically turned up three notches does not hurt at all.

[D.A.L.U.I.]

What are you experiences of when you shaved down... especially with the women

Pre-shaved, the thinning and combover days--no comments, no compliments

Shaved--comments, almost all positive, except from my wife, and I get hit on by the ladies--first was a stewardess--unfortunately for me wife was next to me .  Takes a while to realize that as a sly guy, I'm attractive to women again--and it's really nice.

[kenny57028]

I started thinning out when I was 17 bout 2 years ago and it was around that time I started shaving with no gaurd and about 3 months ago I started to use a razor. I think its true with the comment above that with hair especially at my age you fit in with the 98% of other teens. So me being bald brings attention to me and none of its negative anymore so I'm glad it worked in my favor.

[phigg]

Nate - from what I've found, there are some women who don't like the sly look, but the majority do... and those that like it *really* like it.  Go to the coffee shop, grocery store or beach a week after you go sly and you'll see what I mean.  There's really no one who is indifferent about sly guys, but most people don't notice someone with hair unless something else about them stands out (to Rob-Raz' point about getting noticed).

Sly guys have at least a little "bad boy" in them, and that edge is attractive.  Balding guys, guys self-conscious about their hair, guys that don't make eye contact... not as attractive, regardless of what you look like or what shape you're in... because you're constantly hiding something.  There's always a monologue going on in your head about "how does my hair look" and people can sense that you're not 100% present in the conversation.

Going sly doesn't change who you are, it just takes the "hoping-no-one-notices-my-bad-hair" part of social interactions completely off the table.  It lets you be who you really are.  So if you're going to do it, embrace it... get excited about it, smile more, hold your head up, walk around like being sly has given you some super-powers that only you know about.  The difference is night and day.

In dealing socially with women, it's not about whether you have hair or shave it off, and which they prefer visually... it's about being able to genuinely be you (for a change).  And having your badass-edness automatically turned up three notches does not hurt at all.

Very, very well said. 
I've found the responses to be favorable compared to my "previous" self too.
I've often got a sort of cheeky mischievous smirk about it too, in public.  Adds a twinkle to your eye.  Most Women care more about your eyes and ass than your hair, actually. But they DEFINITELY notice self-confidence and a man who is content with himself. That's the big thing.  Those few women who are hung up on a guy's hair are probably too superficial to be worth the bother anyway, really.


I wanted to add:  it can be hard to remember that men and women think quite differently, and have different perspectives, especially where the opposite sex is concerned. If you don't find men attractive, then obviously, you don't think like a women, right?  Men are more visually stimulated, "hot" babes, that kind of thing;  women are more drawn to confidence, attitude.. that's why sometimes it's the "ugly" guys (in our opinion) that get all the women.  Ever known someone like that?  That's why. Looks do matter to a women, (mostly grooming and hygiene) but not at the same priority level as they do to a guy.

[Nate]

I do appreciate and totally understand what you guys are all saying

Its no magic bullet but it definitely is a character building statement to society. I guess it is what you make of it I am sure there are bald guys out there that sit at home curled up like a ball feeling sorry for themselves so its all about acceptance and that is what makes it attractive

You must all get fustrated with guys like me making up excuses or too chicken to just do it but its such a huge change and one I need to get right in my head. I still struggle with the whole vanity with myself. And now I still continue to stare at myself in the mirror trying to dream up how I would look

[D.A.L.U.I.]

You must all get fustrated with guys like me making up excuses or too chicken to just do it but its such a huge change and one I need to get right in my head. I still struggle with the whole vanity with myself. And now I still continue to stare at myself in the mirror trying to dream up how I would look

Not at all, all of us w/ mpb have had those discussions w/ ourselves in the mirror.  What we try to do is have you trust us when we tell you, you will only regret one thing in the final analysis--that you waited so long to do it.  The other stuff is no where near as big.  Just wishing we hadn't waited so damn long. 

[Nate]

I guess you could say nowadays going bald makes you more vain potentially  As in shaving it off

[D.A.L.U.I.]

I guess you could say nowadays going bald makes you more vain potentially  As in shaving it off

Oh yeah, now you're getting the attitude.

[Nate]

I wish I could drop the self conscious thing

All I can honestly picture in my mind is my wider family and the reactions and my headshape isnt the best :S

[D.A.L.U.I.]

I wish I could drop the self conscious thing

All I can honestly picture in my mind is my wider family and the reactions and my headshape isnt the best :S

Understood, but hold on to this, your mind is not holding or perceiveing reality--it really isn't. 
Trust us on this.