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ChrisTurk21:
I think my case is sort of unusual.  I began to notice that my hairline was receding around my senior year of high school.  I'm a pretty easy going guy, so it didn't really bother me.  Around the beginning of my second year of college my hairline had receded to the point where I just said "screw it, I'm shaving it".  Sometime soon after that I got the bald spot on the back of my head (one of my friends calls it my "angel kiss", haha).  However, very recently I began to notice that the remaining hair on top of my head is thinning out, which tells me that sometime in the near future I'll be left with that horseshoe around my head and not much else.  For some reason that really bothered me (which is what led me to stumble upon this awesome forum).  I think the reason might be because throughout the whole balding process I could tell myself that, despite balding, I wasn't bald: I still had hair.  Now it's saying it's final goodbye.  Did anyone go through anything similar?  Does anyone have any good suggestions for coping with/accepting this?  Thanks

Argyle:
Hey how are you doing and welcome to this forum.  I suppose I went through something quite similar.  When I first noticed I was losing my hair, I guess I was around 23.  I looked in the mirror and could see the front thinning out.  My suspicion is that it had been happening or at least noticeable for a while and that i just hadnt paid any attention to it.

My hair thinned in a really diffuse way, so there was no recession really of note, it just sort of all got thinner on top to the point that when I was about 27 there was more scalp than hair and i knew it was time to do something about it.  So while on holiday in Budapest I shaved it  down (it was November, snowing and that was  abaptism of fire!!)  I had an initial feeling of relief to have taken control of the situation but then went through a real sort of mourning period recognising the fact that I was in my mid 20's and bald. 

I really think this is all about stigma.  When I look or looked in the mirror, I would focus exclusively on the fact that I had no hair on my head and just a horsehoe shadow.  I ignored completely the fact that I am tall, athletic build and have a warm disposition.  What it is so important to remember is that as far as other people are concerned, you are the sum of your parts and your hair is a tiny one of those.  Whilst you may not be able to grow an afro anymore ;) you can tone up, work on your confidence, continue to be a nice guy and I suspect very little will change. 

HAng around.  This really is a great place to be.

Chris

schro:
Well, since you're not at the horseshoe (yet), why worry?
But, going sly intervenes in the balding process....POOF!...you're bald, minus the horseshoe.


NO worries.
Good luck.

pdxtodd:
I think we all went through similar patterns.   Some of went for years watching our hair fall out and spent tens of thousands of dollars trying to get it back.   My best advise - go sly sooner rather than later.  You won't regret going sly but you will regret having waited so long to experience the freedom and stress free life of not worrying about looking like a guy who is losing his hair. 

MikeInPdx:
I went through the emotions too....it's tough. Just keep Sly....tell yourself "I am not my hair" repeatedly, and enjoy you for who you are. Life is too short to worry about it too much.

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