New guy who is insecure - just made 30 days - To be or not to be Sly?

[baldtribesman]

Hi guys I just joined I am 36,  my name is Fred, it is just about 30 days now and I am a bit insecure, I think sometimes that maybe this look is not a good one on me.  When I tried to go sly two years ago a lady receptionist at a doctor appointment I had said to me "don't feel bad not everybody can pull it off"  This time I have a bit more confidence but I tend to be a nerdy guy and have trouble with the ladies thats why I am 36 and still single.  Honestly guys tell me what you think, check out my photo, I appreciate your feedback.

[The Noggin]

Welcome man!

To me you're looking very good with your sly dome. So my advise would be to not give up until you're certain that you don't like it. With every day you're pulling it off your confidence should increase a little bit.
Perhaps that will help you with the ladies, too.

Remember, we're always here to support you.

And what would the world be like without nerds? No computers, no atomic bombs ... 

[RyanJP]

As far as I'm concerned you look squared away ( except for the clutter in the background ) as for as the Nerdy Part, you'd be suprised how many self acclaimed "nerdy guys" that are on the board. 

[baldtribesman]

Thanks for the welcome brothers, 

I am proud of myself for doing this.  I used to color in the bald spot with this clinique junk and finally I could not cover it up and my hairline in the front became weird also.  I however suffer from a poor self image problem because I feel I am not a good looking guy.  I did very well in college and am a brainiac kind of guy, I often feel that my smarts are my saving grace to make up for what I feel is lacking in the looks department.  I am hoping that spending time on this forum can give me the support from others and boost my self-esteem and confidence.  Thanks,

Fred

[Sgt. Pate]

Welcome Fred... you rock the Sly look bro! 

[ozzie]

Welcome to the SBGs. Looking good there! 

[Rusty Shackleford]

Hi guys I just joined I am 36,  my name is Fred, it is just about 30 days now and I am a bit insecure, I think sometimes that maybe this look is not a good one on me.  When I tried to go sly two years ago a lady receptionist at a doctor appointment I had said to me "don't feel bad not everybody can pull it off"  This time I have a bit more confidence but I tend to be a nerdy guy and have trouble with the ladies thats why I am 36 and still single.  Honestly guys tell me what you think, check out my photo, I appreciate your feedback.

I look at your pic and noticed you have a nice symmetrical, oval head that's not oblong in any direction with a forehead wide enough to wear a baseball hat without looking strange, flat ears that don't stick out at all, and a 5:00 shadow that shows you have enough facial hair for 3 guys to be able to grow any style they want.  Your head's built the way I wish mine was built!  Jeeze, I used to think I looked OK, but now you just made me feel like Quasimodo!

BTW, I think it's normal to feel strange after shaving your head.  At times early on it seemed almost as unnatural as running around naked.

[OzPete]

Welcome Fred!

[Razor X]

Sly is a good nerd neutralizer.  You look fine; it just takes a while to adjust to a new look.  Most of us have been where you are right now.  Don't listen to naysayers.  Use this as an opportunity to experiment with some new looks and redefine yourself -- facial hair, new wardrobe, etc.  It can make all the difference in the world.  Also take a look at some of the pictures in the Before and After gallery.   Do you see anybody who looked better in their before photo?

http://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/index.php?action=gallery;cat=2

[Papa Don]

Fred, IMO your a nice looking guy who wears the Sly look like a champ.  Sometimes we are our own worse critics.  Hang in there.  Your confidence will build in time.  Like some of the guys have said, try some facial hair, new clothes etc.  Your lucky, you have the brains and good looks too. 

[TheSlyBear]

I think you look great. I'm having a hard time imagining you with hair.

[joergHH]

Welcome, Fred!

Nice looking bald dome. Show your head with pride - it's worth 

J

[buddha]

a lady receptionist at a doctor appointment I had said to me "don't feel bad not everybody can pull it off"  

This reminds me, for some reason, about a story I heard about Winston Churchill. He was apparently drunk at a party and was approached by a rather, to be polite, unattractive woman. She was aghast at his intoxication and made a point of registering her complaint with him. His response was something like "yeah b!t@h, but in the morning I'll be sober, yo' a$$ will still be fat and ugly".....or something like that.

On the one hand I think it would be cool to have a really hurtful comeback for every stupid comment that somebody has made about something that has anything to do with me. However that takes a lot of work with the brain and if I do that much brain work my brain starts to hurt. So I ask myself "are any of these people really worth a headache?". Usually the answer is no which means that I don't have to gird for war every time I venture out with my bald head.

Plus, the idea of preparing snappy comebacks for every fool that I run into tells me that I really do need to be on the defensive which should tell me that I'm doing something wrong. I prefer to let the occasional comment just go by knowing that the person who sent it my way means nothing more to me than the amount of breath they used to demonstrate their ignorance.

[D.A.L.U.I.]

Looks fine actually, and f the nurse--no bedside much less in the bed manner IMO.
36, not married, not a big problem. You've only been sly for a month, often it takes more than 30 days to find the right woman--you'll find her, just don't let it be the one day you didn't shave so she can feel stubble
One cousin didn't marry until 46, now two kids, one at fifty, so I had to--I kind of like doing this to him--reminded him he'd be 70 when his youngest was graduating from college
Maybe you might start up at a gym, shape up a little, get a bike and join a riding club, great ways to work off tension, and meet some new friends, even ladies!

[marty22]

welcome...u look fine.

M