Discussions About Being Bald > To be or not be...Bald
The usual story from a usual guy
David:
--- Quote from: blondeguy on March 13, 2007, 11:09:31 PM ---Hey, guys (and gals). I'll be 25 in August, and I'm going through the same trauma most of you balding guys have gone through. I've had a natural receding hairline since I was young, and for years I thought that's how things were going to stay. I liked it because I grew up idolizing guys like Michael Keaton and Bruce Willis, and I thought the look was distinguished and manly. My dad and his dad have full heads of hair, but my mom's dad and her only brother went bald, and I often worried about inheriting that gene. The worst part of worrying about it is not knowing if it's going to start, where it's going to stop, how long it's going to take--this guy () sums it up perfectly, I'm sure you guys who struggled with it will agree.
Last week, I cut my hair short and thought it looked like my frontal hair was thinning a little on one side. I hadn't really looked at my hairline that closely in a while, and the maddening part was not being able to tell if it had changed, if I just caught my hair at the end of a growth cycle, or if it was just the lighting. I hated the idea of using Rogaine forever, and I was leery of taking pills with sexual side effects (if your body makes DHT, I'm not sure it's a good idea to stop it). I'm a practical guy, and I hate the idea of worrying about hair and what it might do in one year or five or ten. Now I found myself obsessing over it! My self-image was really damaged, especially as a guy who wants to make a living as a musician someday.
Then I found this forum. Reading through the threads and seeing other people go through the same story (and some several years younger), I started to feel a lot better about just shaving it. It was something I sort of wanted to do in high school anyway (at that point I was idolizing rock guys like Maynard Keenan) but never had the opportunity. The nice thing about having hair is having options with your look, and I didn't like feeling "stuck" with the bald look forever if I do end up losing my hair. But the idea of just shaving it off and being liberated from the weight of all this sounds really nice. I'm a shy guy who likes to hang in the background, and sporting a bald look is scary from the perspective of drawing attention, but at the same time, it's also appealing. I also feel like the types of chicks who would like a bald guy are the types of chicks I would like back. :)
So I bought clippers but chickened out and just went with a reasonably short buzzcut for now. I'm still mulling over the idea of going very short or all the way, asking friends what they think (the two women I've asked say shaved heads are hot). I wasn't even thinking about baldness or my hair or anything until last Wednesday when it hit me in the mirror, and it was a pretty nerve-wracking weekend. I was even having trouble sleeping from worrying about it. All of it hit me at once, and I just wanted to get all this out and say that I'll be sticking around and will let you know if I take the plunge.
Attached a few pictures to show me off.
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Just shave man, and set a timetable to keep it and then reevaluate.
1) You are a musician who needs an edgy look to catch people's attention. The sly look is definitely cutting edge.
2) Your lady friends like the style.
3) If by some chance you hate it, you can grow back the hair you have left. But I must warn you, I highly doubt you'll hate it. You never have to mess with hair again, and just wait until you actually experience the shaving process, it's very addicting/cool. There is something about putting on shaving gel/cream/oil and going to town that I think most of us would never give up in a million years.
4) I noticed you wear eye glasses like myself. The sly look works great with both eye glasses and sunglasses.
MagmaBabe:
Howdy Preston :-*
welcome to the SBG's :) great intro!
Bald is a hot look, and it looks good on you.
Whenever you're ready to take the plunge, go for it!
You won't regret it :)
PigPen:
Welcome, first, two words..........SHAVE IT!!! I think you could do the SLY look quite well. Especially with the glasses. There was a guy on Deal Or No Deal the other night that was rockin the SLY look with glasses and no facial hair. I agree with what the others said about time too. Give it at least a month to decide if you like it. If it's not for you, it's only hair and it will grow back.
Paul:
First off Welcome BG. Secondly, to echo the other sly brothers, go for it. You'll no doubt feel better once you do. Most of your anxiety I'm sure is in the waiting. Get it done and I'm certain you'll be happy you did.
Professor Melon:
:) Ahoy, Blondeguy and welcome to the forum. You'll find experience, cameraderie, and wry banter here. We all know what you're going through. I'd follow Lance's advice: give yourself ample time--a month or two, perhaps the summer--to get used to your new sly image. When I was your age [back in the 60s and 70s] my problem was worse, as 1) only Nazi skinheads, space aliens, and Buddhist ascetics shaved their heads; and 2) my hair and hairline were strong at the front. In time I avoided double mirrors that revealed what was fast disappearing in the rear. Judging from your pics, you're seven eighths there already. So move on to your new image without agonizing; if you can, avoid much ado about very little. After the deed, send us some pics. I don't think you'll regret shaving it all off or that you'll reverse your decision. All best, Professor Melon
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