Ready For Initiation..

• Ready For Initiation.. by TheBaldAndBeautiful on 09 Nov, 2009 14:17
• Hello, my name is Abdul. 
  
  Let's see, how shall I start this out.  Well, through-out my life, I kind of hated hair, but got use to it when I was about in my pre-teens to teens.  Use to grow big afros, but could never do anything with them.  So, I always wore an almost bald-cut look through out some of my pre-teens and high-school.  In high-school, It wasn't a big deal.  So, I never paid attention to it until I got out.  When I did, I noticed my hair was receding abit, not much, but I had the full thing.  The barber somehow worked with it until I got to about 20, that's when it started happening real fast in the front.  Plus, the stress as well that built up until now--where am I is 23.  Someone said something about it and nearly almost picked on me about it.
  
  That's when my confidence kind of got out of control.  I thought to myself," It'll grow-back soon," but it never did.  I tried to use products to get it back, but I didn't want to spend money that could be useful.  So, at around March of this year, I started shaving it off.  At about August, I went through somewhat of a deep depression centered around it.  So, one day, I had enough.  Seeing that my hair won't come back and I always wore bald hair-cuts, It won't be a problem.  Had to dispel all of this from my mind and learn to relieve everything that has to do with hair.  I don't care what people say anymore and I won't allow it to get me down anytime soon. 
  
  The only thing that worries me is the scar that's on the second picture below.  It's not that visible anymore since I put some stuff on it to smooth it out.  And the shape of my head also worries me.  Don't know if it's right, or not, or too big.  I always looked a little better with my facial hair, In which I'm growing out at the moment.  Everyone doesn't have a problem with it, but me.  I seem to take it to another level with these things and want everything to be perfect.  I kind of have to relieve myself of it and accept my destiny.  This destiny is a good thing.  Don't have to worry about hair anymore, or shaping it out, or anything that has to do with it.  I can just shave for about 7 minutes and I'm off to work.  Although I use a du-rag when I workout to take some of the sweat from my eyes.
  
  
  I've been lurking these forums for a while and watching everyone else story.  I'm somewhat kind of worried as well if I'm good for a date, or would she deny me, because of my bald head.  I'm pretty tall--about 6'6.  Don't know if a girl will go for a tall skinny bald guy.  That's my greatest fear, because most women go for men with hair and they make it their priorities.  You might say I have some insecurities about myself and very self-conscious.  I know I need to stop this, but I guess it'll pass in due time.  For now, I'm not letting those things in the past and now destroy me anymore.  I want to be apart of the brotherhood now..
  
  Ps:  I think I should smile a lot more now.  Never really smiled before, but that'll change.
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
• #1 by aarrggh on 09 Nov, 2009 14:36
• You must be happy with the bald look..( screen name )...so Welcome Abdul -you know its the right look for you ...
            
• #2 by ozzie on 09 Nov, 2009 14:38
• Welcome Abdul. You are definitely part of the brotherhood! Trust me, you look great, so just plant that confident smile on your face when you are out and about and you will be a hit with the ladies for sure.  
• #3 by tomgallagher on 09 Nov, 2009 14:40
• Welcome Abdul.
• #4 by Tom McGarry. on 09 Nov, 2009 14:45
• First off Abdul, Welcome to the SBG Family! Let me tell you that you've made a couple of great choices. The second was joining this awsome site that is full of support, wisdome and insight, as well as a lot of great people!
  
  First was your choice to shave your head, but no matter what your choice (to shave or not) it only matters that it was your choice to make and no one elses. It is not your hair or lack there of that determines what kind of man you are, but rather the confidence that you have in yourself, and that is all that matters.
  
  I say good for you, that you took a step that for alot of people is a very hard step to take. So again be confident in who you are and the rest will fall into place.
• #5 by Papa Don on 09 Nov, 2009 14:56
• Abdul, welcome to this great site.  You look fine with the shaved head.  Keep that smile on your face and you will have to beat the women off.  Very good look for you.
• #6 by TheBaldAndBeautiful on 09 Nov, 2009 15:04
• Lol, yeah aargh, sorry if I spelled that wrong.  Trying to gain back that confidence and I guess the screen name is part of that step.  It's hard when other guys seem to pick on you, because you're different than them.  Maybe they're jealous, because us bald-guys pull it off so well.  They couldn't do it, but somehow we did.  That proves a lot.  Right now, I'm going to change a lot of things ( i.e: clothing, attitude and such. )  Thanks everyone for the support.  You guys are like a new found family. - sniff -
• #7 by wpruitt on 09 Nov, 2009 15:51
• Welcome Abdul
• #8 by PBurke on 09 Nov, 2009 16:31
• welcome abdul! confidence is the key. keep smilin and they will come.
• #9 by Arnie on 09 Nov, 2009 16:37
• Looks great Abdul! Welcome to SBGs!
• #10 by Big-N-Bald on 09 Nov, 2009 17:16
• Welcome Abdul, 
  
  Sly looks great on you.  Don't worry about the ladies.  There are countless women out there that love a Sly guy.  My Wife won't let me grow my hair back (not that I want to).
• #11 by OzPete on 09 Nov, 2009 17:33
• Welcome Abdul!
• #12 by buddha on 09 Nov, 2009 17:42
• Welcome, Abdul. You've come to the right place.
  
  I couldn't see a scar in the second picture but my feeling is that a scar is part of a man's story. As long as that scar was not received dishonorably it is worn like a badge of honor. I have a few on my head/face and they have been the topic of a number of conversations with women. I have never been ashamed of them in the least. So let the scar be part of your story.
  
  Your third pic shows an exceedingly friendly and confident smile. When I think of the combination of that smile and a SIX FOOT SIX INCH SLY DUDE who works out on a regular basis I think of a man who is very successful with women on one hand and who stands a head above the crowd of ordinary men on the other.
  
  IMO, you're way ahead of the game. No need to rush.
• #13 by xnewyawka on 11 Nov, 2009 13:47
• Welcome to the SBG forum Abdul, you've come to the right place for positivity.
  
  Your attitude sounds good and you're headed in the right direction, just keep on smilin' like Paul said, and things will go your way in all aspects of life.
• #14 by Mikekoz13 on 11 Nov, 2009 14:05
• Welcome to the Forum Abdul!
  
  You look great shaved and that smile my Friend is a million dollar smile. Yoou should do it more!
  
  Here's a secret all of us shave dheads know....... MANY women LOVE bald heads! You'll find out....... normally I would say "walk tall" but since you're already doing that I'll say "walk proud"!
  
  Be proud of who you are, what you are, and the gifts you have been given.