The comments in this thread on this board are, for the lack of a better word, hypocritical. And I don't mean to knock anyone here with that statement because it's a very prevalent attitude to this issue. What I've come to notice is that if someone wants to modify their appearance in such a way that the result looks totally natural the actions are consistently insulted. "They don't have any self-confidence!""That person isn't secure with himself!""They're just a victim of the media's ideal image of a man/woman or someone slick advertising!"However when someone wants to modify their appearance to create an unnatural look the reactions are often quite different."That person is confident!" "They're expressing their individuality!"For example, if an old guy dyes his gray hair to a color he likes then "he's not confident with himself" and he's "caught up in the media's ideal of youth". However if that same man were to get a tattoo or ear gauges the reactions would be very different. Others might express dislike at the choice, but the man himself will be praised for his take-charge attitude. Why the difference?Look at this board. Shave or laser off your hair and you're a hero who is taking command of his destiny, but if you were to fight baldness then suddenly you're a victim of external pressures and your own lack of self-confidence. There is no difference between the two.The truth of the matter is we're all capable of making our own preferences and sometimes our genetics don't comply with our own ideals. So what's so wrong about changing them? To remain topical here, I think shows FAR more self-confidence for a man to fight to save the hair he likes than to settle for baldness - a look he does not like. And I'd say the same thing about a guy who cannot shave due to scalp sensitivity if he seeks out alternative hair removal procedures instead of throwing in the towel and regrowing his hair.Of course numerous other factors play along here (like finances, technological limitations etc), but I hope my point came out. It is hypocritical to condemn some body modification procedures as a sign of a character flaw while praising others.
QuoteWhat I've come to notice is that if someone wants to modify their appearance in such a way that the result looks totally natural the actions are consistently insulted. "They don't have any self-confidence!""That person isn't secure with himself!""They're just a victim of the media's ideal image of a man/woman or someone slick advertising!"However when someone wants to modify their appearance to create an unnatural look the reactions are often quite different."That person is confident!" "They're expressing their individuality!"I see the point you are trying to make, but I don't think the logic is as sound as you make it. For example, procedures like hair transplants and shadow tattoos are permanent modifications that offer only short-term confidence solutions. Hair transplants are eventually revealed due to the remainder of your hair falling out (that and many of them just don't look natural) and shadow tattoos are eventually going to fade. Both leaving the person in a worse situation than when they started. Shaving your head on the other hand provides long-term confidence solutions using a technique that is temporary (your hair grows back). At anytime you can go back to your original situation if you deem is necessary.Also, hair transplants and shadow tattoos are not natural looking, especially in the long run.
What I've come to notice is that if someone wants to modify their appearance in such a way that the result looks totally natural the actions are consistently insulted. "They don't have any self-confidence!""That person isn't secure with himself!""They're just a victim of the media's ideal image of a man/woman or someone slick advertising!"However when someone wants to modify their appearance to create an unnatural look the reactions are often quite different."That person is confident!" "They're expressing their individuality!"
You missed 2 big points that I was making.The first of which is that there's this automatic assumption that there's a problem with a person's confidence if they seek out medical procedures to restore their hair. There are lots of people on this board with full heads of hair who sly themselves because they like the look. Why do we automatically assume that those who want to restore their hair do so because they lack confidence? Chances are, many want to restore their hair because they like their hair just like many of us like our shaved heads.
You also brought up the concept of these procedures being permanent, which is entirely true, but what about the permanent solutions to the curse of being of hairy scalp? There are numerous threads dedicated to the permanent laser hair removal procedure and tweezing which is known to cause permanent damage to the ability to grow hair if done long enough. I have not seen one post in any of those threads implying psychological weakness on the part of the participant.So, again, why is it a sign of a lack of confidence if one person does not like their appearance and performs a permanent medical procedure to get the opposite look while it is a sign of confidence for others who do not like their appearance to perform a permanent medical procedure to get the opposite look? Is it because many guys who go bald go into an emotional depression? If so, I still don't think all balding guys seeking transplants should be assumed to belong to that group. As far as I'm concerned, the only real difference here is that those seeking hair transplants risk finding thelseves with an island of hair surrounded by baldness as their baldness progresses, but that is an actual tangible drawback and not simply a critique upon the person's state of mind. To me it's obvious that our personal bias to loving our shaved noggins is blinding many to the bigger picture of being accepting, or even encouraging, to those with the confidence to make permanent changes to their bodies instead of just settling for what genetics handed them. Whether it's hair transplants, laser hair removal, or nose jobs I've always found the whole concept fascinating (well, everything except for those bas****s who laser off their facial hair ). (FYI: In case I came across like an a** or a troll it was not my intention, but I've been told that I seem to lose tact when I express myself in written form.)
Quote from: Rusty Shackleford on August 14, 2009, 11:27:42 PMYou missed 2 big points that I was making.The first of which is that there's this automatic assumption that there's a problem with a person's confidence if they seek out medical procedures to restore their hair. There are lots of people on this board with full heads of hair who sly themselves because they like the look. Why do we automatically assume that those who want to restore their hair do so because they lack confidence? Chances are, many want to restore their hair because they like their hair just like many of us like our shaved heads.1. Both people who shave their heads and get transplants do it because they want more confidence. 2. Sly Bald Guys do not not say that a guy is being confident by shaving their head, we are saying that he will be MORE confident as a result of shaving his head due to going bald. 3. Shaving your head is the same as getting a haircut, so a guy with a full head of hair or that is partially bald is just getting a hair cut that provides him more confidence; not a medical procedure.4. I also don't think we say that guys have psychological issues because they get a transplant. They just made a bad choice in choosing something that doesn't provide what they are seeking in the long-term.
Quote from: Rusty Shackleford on August 14, 2009, 11:27:42 PMYou also brought up the concept of these procedures being permanent, which is entirely true, but what about the permanent solutions to the curse of being of hairy scalp? There are numerous threads dedicated to the permanent laser hair removal procedure and tweezing which is known to cause permanent damage to the ability to grow hair if done long enough. I have not seen one post in any of those threads implying psychological weakness on the part of the participant.So, again, why is it a sign of a lack of confidence if one person does not like their appearance and performs a permanent medical procedure to get the opposite look while it is a sign of confidence for others who do not like their appearance to perform a permanent medical procedure to get the opposite look? Is it because many guys who go bald go into an emotional depression? If so, I still don't think all balding guys seeking transplants should be assumed to belong to that group. As far as I'm concerned, the only real difference here is that those seeking hair transplants risk finding thelseves with an island of hair surrounded by baldness as their baldness progresses, but that is an actual tangible drawback and not simply a critique upon the person's state of mind. To me it's obvious that our personal bias to loving our shaved noggins is blinding many to the bigger picture of being accepting, or even encouraging, to those with the confidence to make permanent changes to their bodies instead of just settling for what genetics handed them. Whether it's hair transplants, laser hair removal, or nose jobs I've always found the whole concept fascinating (well, everything except for those bas****s who laser off their facial hair ). (FYI: In case I came across like an a** or a troll it was not my intention, but I've been told that I seem to lose tact when I express myself in written form.)I will give you something on the laser hair removal. Though, I still think this is less of a bad decision than a hair transplant. For example, most guys get laser hair removal because they have found that the "hairless" look gives them more confidence than a "hairy" look and by getting their hair lasered off, it makes it easier to keep that look. They aren't trying to achieve a hairy look only to find out later that "oops, the rest of my hair is falling out."
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