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Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: Razor X on January 15, 2010, 07:44:33 PM

Title: Still on the fence?
Post by: Razor X on January 15, 2010, 07:44:33 PM
Since we seem to have a number of newbies lately who are considering taking the plunge:

I just realized this afternoon that this weekend marks the eighth anniversary of the first time I shaved my head.   I'd bought a set of clippers because I thought I should start doing my own buzzcuts instead of paying the barber to do it once a week.  The #1 setting wasn't short enough; the only option was to take the guard off.  After one swipe over the top of my head, I realized that this was MUCH shorter than I'd thought it would be.  I'd had no plans to shave my head, but when the shorter-than-expected buzzcut was done and I realized how very close I was to complete hairlessness, I couldn't resist the urge to lather up and shave.

Had this site been in existence then, I likely would have gotten some much-needed support, kept my head shaved daily and that would have been the end of the story.  I liked the result better than I'd thought I would, but I was very self-conscious about it and made the crucial error of letting it grow back after that one shave.  Once the hair was grown back, however, I got the urge to shave again and a month or two later I did.  Thus began an almost two-year roller coaster ride of shaving, growing back, shaving, etc., before I finally made the commitment to stay shaved for 30 days no matter what.

A lot of things have changed in the past eight years.  At the time, the shaved look was becoming more mainstream, whereas now it is completely mainstream and is, in fact, the haircut of choice for the overwhelming majority of young and middle-aged men who suffer from MPB.  So if you're sitting on the fence, just do it.  There's nothing to be afraid of.  It does take some time to adjust to a change in appearance, but you'll be surprised at how quickly you and those around you get used to it. 

I can honestly say that it has brought about a number of positive changes in my life.  They say that change comes from within, but I believe that being happy with one's outward appearance creates a confidence that carries through to almost every other aspect of life.  Nobody looks good with thinning hair, a combover, or a bald top surrounded by a long fringe of hair, which were the only options for balding men in years gone by.  On the other hand, most guys look perfectly fine with a shaved head.  Everybody thinks he's the exception -- that his head is too big, he's too pale, too fat, too thin, whatever.  It rarely turns out to be the case.  There are hundreds of reasons we can come up with why we can't shave our heads, but at the end of the day, the only thing that is stopping you is you -- not your parents, not your friends, not your boss, not your wife, and not your girlfriend.  Just you.  There are no more excuses; the shaved dome is accepted in all walks of life.  You may run into the occasional person who doesn't like it, but that's going to happen no matter what you do with your hair, no matter how you dress, etc.

You younger guys -- count your blessings.   You're addressing this issue early in life and putting it behind you.  You're lucky; you get to be the hip bald guy in your circle of friends.  It may not be what you had in mind, but use it as an opportunity to reinvent yourself.  Hair is greatly overrated.  You may not see it that way now, but if you take the leap of faith, shave your head and observe the 30 day rule, and visit this site regularly for support, you'll find that I'm right.   There are a lot of things I'd change about my appearance if I could, but a full head of hair is definitely not on the wish list.

So what are you waiting for?
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Sgt. Pate on January 15, 2010, 08:32:49 PM
Great post Razor!  O0
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Post by: wpruitt on January 15, 2010, 08:33:17 PM
Words of wisdom !
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Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on January 15, 2010, 08:42:41 PM
Great post, and you are really part of the vanguard of the liberation from mpb--you may not have realized it when it was happening, but you really are.  Glad we had you to lead the way.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Razor X on January 15, 2010, 10:08:32 PM
Great post, and you are really part of the vanguard of the liberation from mpb--you may not have realized it when it was happening, but you really are.  Glad we had you to lead the way.

Thank you.  I remember all too well what it was like obsessing over every hair that was lost.  And I can remember listening to other guys saying that they didn't mind being bald, that they wouldn't want their hair back --- and not believing a word of it.  I don't think it's something that can be fully understood until you've gone through it yourself. That's why it really is important to give the shave a try.  It may take a little while to adjust to it, but once you do, it's amazing how different things seem.  For one thing, you wonder what you were so afraid of.
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Post by: ozzie on January 15, 2010, 10:14:53 PM
For one thing, you wonder what you were so afraid of.
True words there! Excellent post, Razor.  O0
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Post by: warhawk on January 15, 2010, 10:40:29 PM
hey razor:  that is an excellent post. O0

WARHAWK O0
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Post by: surfboardnyc on January 16, 2010, 08:23:41 AM
Great post!
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: R o b 6 on January 16, 2010, 10:13:44 AM
Razor, this advice from you two years and a half years ago is what finally made me pull the trigger two years ago. Couldn't be happier. Great post!


There are hundreds of reasons we can come up with why we can't shave our heads, but at the end of the day, the only thing that is stopping you is you -- not your parents, not your friends, not your boss, not your wife, and not your girlfriend.  Just you.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: geoguy on January 16, 2010, 10:24:16 AM
"Hey you young guy!!  YES YOU!!  Trust Razor!!  Its true!!"

I'm also young and completely bald (I always joke and say I look like Bozo the clown before I shaved) LOL.  This is the only way that you will ever feel truly comfortable with yourself.  The first 30 days of slyness may be tough, but ist small in comparison to the amount of self confidence and self respect that you gain.  Be a man, shave it off, I promise, you won't regret it...
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Post by: Ming the Merciless on January 16, 2010, 11:51:59 AM
So true.
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Post by: joergHH on January 17, 2010, 01:55:41 PM
Yes congrats and thank you for this outstanding post!

J
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: dave523 on January 19, 2010, 05:14:51 PM
Since we seem to have a number of newbies lately who are considering taking the plunge:

I just realized this afternoon that this weekend marks the eighth anniversary of the first time I shaved my head.   I'd bought a set of clippers because I thought I should start doing my own buzzcuts instead of paying the barber to do it once a week.  The #1 setting wasn't short enough; the only option was to take the guard off.  After one swipe over the top of my head, I realized that this was MUCH shorter than I'd thought it would be.  I'd had no plans to shave my head, but when the shorter-than-expected buzzcut was done and I realized how very close I was to complete hairlessness, I couldn't resist the urge to lather up and shave.

Had this site been in existence then, I likely would have gotten some much-needed support, kept my head shaved daily and that would have been the end of the story.  I liked the result better than I'd thought I would, but I was very self-conscious about it and made the crucial error of letting it grow back after that one shave.  Once the hair was grown back, however, I got the urge to shave again and a month or two later I did.  Thus began an almost two-year roller coaster ride of shaving, growing back, shaving, etc., before I finally made the commitment to stay shaved for 30 days no matter what.

A lot of things have changed in the past eight years.  At the time, the shaved look was becoming more mainstream, whereas now it is completely mainstream and is, in fact, the haircut of choice for the overwhelming majority of young and middle-aged men who suffer from MPB.  So if you're sitting on the fence, just do it.  There's nothing to be afraid of.  It does take some time to adjust to a change in appearance, but you'll be surprised at how quickly you and those around you get used to it. 

I can honestly say that it has brought about a number of positive changes in my life.  They say that change comes from within, but I believe that being happy with one's outward appearance creates a confidence that carries through to almost every other aspect of life.  Nobody looks good with thinning hair, a combover, or a bald top surrounded by a long fringe of hair, which were the only options for balding men in years gone by.  On the other hand, most guys look perfectly fine with a shaved head.  Everybody thinks he's the exception -- that his head is too big, he's too pale, too fat, too thin, whatever.  It rarely turns out to be the case.  There are hundreds of reasons we can come up with why we can't shave our heads, but at the end of the day, the only thing that is stopping you is you -- not your parents, not your friends, not your boss, not your wife, and not your girlfriend.  Just you.  There are no more excuses; the shaved dome is accepted in all walks of life.  You may run into the occasional person who doesn't like it, but that's going to happen no matter what you do with your hair, no matter how you dress, etc.

You younger guys -- count your blessings.   You're addressing this issue early in life and putting it behind you.  You're lucky; you get to be the hip bald guy in your circle of friends.  It may not be what you had in mind, but use it as an opportunity to reinvent yourself.  Hair is greatly overrated.  You may not see it that way now, but if you take the leap of faith, shave your head and observe the 30 day rule, and visit this site regularly for support, you'll find that I'm right.   There are a lot of things I'd change about my appearance if I could, but a full head of hair is definitely not on the wish list.

So what are you waiting for?

Good post for bald visitors of www.slybaldguys.com. However i shaved my head once after a lost bet, but i really think i would be happier  ;D  with a full head of hair i can count on. Started taking natural propecia-like substance to stop thinning (which really helped actually). I think it would be fairer if i kept my hair, chicks used to digg running their hands through my hair.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on January 19, 2010, 06:07:01 PM
[ but i really think i would be happier  ;D  with a full head of hair i can count on. Started taking natural propecia-like substance to stop thinning (which really helped actually). I think it would be fairer if i kept my hair, chicks used to digg running their hands through my hair.

If you have the genes that say you will be bald or thin, then you shall be bald or thin--drugs, etc., may delay they don't prevent baldness.  What is the line from the poem, "Where are the snows of yesteryear?"  Until you grab hold of your life, shake it for all it's worth you are living in yesterday--and tomorrow will be yesterday and lost also.  The only question I see for you is when you accept your genetic assignment, embrace it, and move on with living it fully.  "Chicks used to digg [sic]"  just isn't realistic, nor real--it's the girl, your personality and that special something--nothing in there about hair. 
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Razor X on January 19, 2010, 07:08:11 PM


Good post for bald visitors of www.slybaldguys.com. However i shaved my head once after a lost bet, but i really think i would be happier  ;D  with a full head of hair i can count on. Started taking natural propecia-like substance to stop thinning (which really helped actually). I think it would be fairer if i kept my hair, chicks used to digg running their hands through my hair.

Most of us aren't thrilled when we discover that we're losing our hair.  I'm about as vain as they come, and I'll admit to being very bothered by it -- but not bothered enough to ever consider plugs, drugs or rugs.  Change can be difficult, especially when it's something that is thrust upon you that you didn't really want.   You just have to let go of the image of what you think you should look like, and just go with the changes that  you can't stop anyway.  One of the great advantages to being male is that you don't have to be "pretty" to be good-looking.  Use it as an opportunity to redefine yourself.  Some chicks like to run their hands through a guys hair -- but there are plenty who are more attracted to big muscles than thick hair.  So you shave your head and hit the gym.  The end result may not be exactly what you had in mind, but it can be a lot better than you ever thought it would.

We're conditioned to believe that our hair is the most important part of our appearance.  Nothing could be further than the truth.  I have a whole list of cosmetic imperfections that I'd fix if I could.  Having a full head of hair is not one of them.   I used to feel self-conscious about being the only bald guy in a group; now I feel like I'm privileged.   That feeling didn't happen overnight; it takes a lot of positive thinking and knowing that you've done everything you can to improve the aspects of your appearance that are within your control.  Once you've done all of that, hair doesn't seem that important anymore.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: jimbo48 on January 19, 2010, 09:01:58 PM
Great post Razor X.  If you are not a professional writer, you missed your calling.  You posts have given me a lot of encouragement, but I remain on the fence.  At this time, I am happy with my 1/16" buzzcut.  Back in November, I went from 1/8 to 1/16, and am still getting used to it.  From a short distance away, it appears that I am shaved and my head has a nice shine.  Since I have a full head of hair, I like the feel of the stuble on the top of my head.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Razor X on January 19, 2010, 09:32:31 PM
Great post Razor X.  If you are not a professional writer, you missed your calling.  You posts have given me a lot of encouragement, but I remain on the fence.  At this time, I am happy with my 1/16" buzzcut.  Back in November, I went from 1/8 to 1/16, and am still getting used to it.  From a short distance away, it appears that I am shaved and my head has a nice shine.  Since I have a full head of hair, I like the feel of the stuble on the top of my head.

Thank you.  If you're happy with the 1/16", then that's all that matters.  I gradually went shorter over a period of time and when I got down to about that length, I decided to just go for broke.  You should try it sometime,when you're ready just to see what it feels like.  It only takes 3 or 4 days to grow out to 1/16".

I agree with you that a short buzz or just a hint of shadow can look good when the hairline is intact.  It's when the hairline is in serious recession that it really does need to all come off.
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Post by: mangosink12572 on January 20, 2010, 09:03:05 AM
Razor X- - -You are so right about so many things  - - - -and what a wondeful post for the guy on the fence - -I was never there as I enjoyed my bald melon the first time  I shaved - - - -I am working on a few guys now who are customers of mine and you cannot believe the excuses  - - -and they look like HELL  - - - -thinning  -bald spots that they try to cover - - -One guy is almost there  - -he is down to a #1 cut - - - - -
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Post by: bem75 on January 20, 2010, 09:09:24 AM
This should be a sticky.

Great post!
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Post by: Green 1 on January 21, 2010, 05:22:43 PM
Great Post!
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Post by: pdxtodd on January 21, 2010, 06:13:48 PM
Great post Razor -- I couldn't agree more.   Having this site was the ammunition I needed to take the plunge.  While I'm still newly sly (just about my 2 month anniversary) - I couldn't be happier.   You're right -- sly is totally mainstream.   Nobody gives me strange looks and little old ladies don't run away when I walk down the hall.   Thank you for the excellent post.
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Post by: SlyBaldDude on January 25, 2010, 10:23:47 PM
How's that Zach Brown song go?  Oh yeah, "A little bit of Chicken-Fry,  Cold beer on a Friday night,  Pair of jeans that fit just right .. Slick head to catch the light just right .. Lol!  Its just comfortable ..
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Post by: gracie2 on February 02, 2010, 04:43:47 PM
Thanks for the words of encouragment. I consider myself good looking and I do try to stay fit some would say a guys guy. Well I have been wearing a hair system for about 20 yrs, I have a wife and teeneage kids.
With all that said I'm thinking this is the weekend.........The piece  is coming off! Should I warn family, co workers or just show up Monday with the drastic change in appearance?
Should I do the full shave or just leave the fringe?I am nervous and excited at the same time. Any words of wisdom?

Thanks!!
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Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on February 02, 2010, 06:43:18 PM
In for a penny, in for a pound!  Shave it all off, you'll never regret it.  Balding is not so hot, bald, now I have found is seen by many ladies as hot, and very much in style.  It's a great time to do it.
My experience would indicate the kids will pull back at first, but support you before the wife--kids are essentially pretty conservative when it comes to what their parents do.  But they also rebound quickly--the rug may make that different if they've secretly thought it a bit of a joke, a real possiblity.  
The wife, tell her it's an extra night out a month from the savings on mainenance.  
Co-workers will probably not say too much, except those that really like it.  
But you're forgetting the important person in all this, YOU- you are really going to like it, that we can promise. That's what you really do it for anyway.  
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Post by: Professor Melon on February 03, 2010, 12:41:01 PM
 O0 O0 O0 Ahoy, Mates. Like Rob6, I too was persuaded by RazorX's wisdom three years ago when I embraced my baldness and shaved it all off. Wish the forum had existed way back when.... As to Razor's posts, Amen, Brother, and Amen. Professor Melon
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Post by: GA_Dome on February 06, 2010, 11:48:52 AM
Thanks Guys.. This place is awesome.  I have been considering for years shaving my head but couldnt bring myself to do so.  I posted on my FB page a photoshopped pic yesterday to see what peoples oppinions were and while they were pouring in, I was reading about it and found this site.  I read until 4 am in the morning and finally took the plunge.
 I will post pics soon but wanted to say thanks and I like it better than I thought.  Still not sure if I am ready to keep it but at least I know I could pull it off and the fear is gone.  Like so many have said I now also feel a true freedom .

Thanks again for a wonderful site.
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Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on February 06, 2010, 12:12:41 PM
Thanks Guys.. This place is awesome.  I have been considering for years shaving my head but couldnt bring myself to do so.  I posted on my FB page a photoshopped pic yesterday to see what peoples oppinions were and while they were pouring in, I was reading about it and found this site.  I read until 4 am in the morning and finally took the plunge.
 I will post pics soon but wanted to say thanks and I like it better than I thought.  Still not sure if I am ready to keep it but at least I know I could pull it off and the fear is gone.  Like so many have said I now also feel a true freedom .

Thanks again for a wonderful site.

If you read, then you know about the 30 day rule--please try it.  You sound like this has been taking a lot of your energy worrying about it.  It's gone, as are your worries.
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Post by: GA_Dome on February 06, 2010, 01:25:58 PM
Thanks, I think it was just because I didnt really know how I would look and just getting the nutz to do it, this website helped me grow those nutz.  I like it so the 30 days shouldnt be hard but just not sure if I will keep it yet, I DO like it though.. And all the fear is now gone.  O:O
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Post by: -Doug- on February 06, 2010, 05:14:05 PM
This should be a sticky.

Great post!

Here, here. Excellent post!!!
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Post by: dculpepper on February 27, 2010, 09:22:10 PM
Great Post! Thank you, Razor X!!  O0 O0
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Post by: chaucer on March 03, 2010, 02:44:02 AM
This is a nice post but my situation is a bit different.  I'm not balding (much).  I have a full head of  hair except for some minor recessions just above the temples.  The remainder of my head has full and reasonably dense hair.  Yet I sort of WANT to be bald.  I keep getting it cut shorter and shorter but not all the way...I can't get up the nerve for the leap.
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Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on March 03, 2010, 06:41:16 AM
This is a nice post but my situation is a bit different.  I'm not balding (much).  I have a full head of  hair except for some minor recessions just above the temples.  The remainder of my head has full and reasonably dense hair.  Yet I sort of WANT to be bald.  I keep getting it cut shorter and shorter but not all the way...I can't get up the nerve for the leap.
Welcome, post up in introductions and tell us a little about yourself & a picture if available.
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Post by: baldntat05 on April 02, 2010, 09:41:39 AM
Very fine post.  When I first shaved I still had a thick head of hair and although the crown has balded quite a bit over the last 13 years I could easily pull of a flat or even a business man's cut.  I choose to be bald, I wanted to be bald for 12 years before I finally did it.  There is nothing that comes even close to feel of a smooth bald head. 

If you are on the fence, don't spend 12 years worrying about it like I did.  Just shave it off.  If you are like me the only regret you will have is waiting so long to shave your head.
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Post by: Rob on April 02, 2010, 12:10:40 PM
I waited two or three years wishing and wanting to be bald before I took the plunge.  I've never regretted it for a minute.  Just wish I hadnt waited three years! 8)
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Post by: chaucer on April 02, 2010, 05:53:58 PM
I appreciate everyone's support.
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Post by: revived on April 15, 2010, 02:27:46 AM
To the young guys out there especially - if you're thinking you're too young to go bald, stop thinking it and shave it. I will echo what razor x said that its a great chance to reinvent yourself!

I did this 2 weeks ago and feel so good about. Never have I been so busy (apart from sitting on this website) and getting out there and just doing things. You don't need to worry about it anymore once shaving! Work on bulking up (I've never been more fit) eat well and live a good lifestyle, this is the key to confidence, happiness and success. NOT your HAIR!!! You won't believe how much time you'll have on your hands, time usually spent worrying about hair or looking in the mirror to check bald spots, or searching google for magical solutions... Shaving is the magical solution!

Also I've never had so many girls come up to rub my head, then strike up a convo about anything, this never happened with hair!  .. just do it guys! NOW! GO! STOP thinking!   :x!

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Post by: chaucer on April 17, 2010, 05:53:14 AM
And a small step closer.  I've been in Key West all week where I've never seen so many sly guys in one place!  There are 100s of shaved/bald guys here and  most look outstanding.  There also are even more clipper shaved guys.  Anyway, I went to a barber and had him do a skin fade with a # 1.5 top....I'm getting there, guys....slowly.
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Post by: thebbqguy on April 17, 2010, 07:19:41 AM
chaucer,

Congrats on your new cut.
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Post by: chaucer on April 17, 2010, 05:43:53 PM
Thank you...
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Post by: dave523 on May 04, 2010, 09:39:00 PM
i have been here before, trying to find a solution. Still not giving in.

 Now my hair situation has developed into recess of my hairline as to where an island of hair might form in the middle of my (fornt) head. Also the crown is thinning fast since a couple of months. Question: what treatment can i still try (tried finasteride, and every hair growth shampoo out there). If i don't get something quick, the front and crown might meet. Normally i have very thick and full hair (used to).

Need something or am i destined to becoming a genuinely bald guy. Really still not for me imho!
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Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on May 05, 2010, 07:17:12 AM
i have been here before, trying to find a solution. Still not giving in.

 Now my hair situation has developed into recess of my hairline as to where an island of hair might form in the middle of my (fornt) head. Also the crown is thinning fast since a couple of months. Question: what treatment can i still try (tried finasteride, and every hair growth shampoo out there). If i don't get something quick, the front and crown might meet. Normally i have very thick and full hair (used to).

Need something or am i destined to becoming a genuinely bald guy. Really still not for me imho!

Truly sorry that you have used drugs & hope that nothing adverse to your general health develops in the near or distant future.  Also, regret that you've been unable to accept the fact of mpb--but guys who can't fund a multi-billion dollar market for drugs, rugs and surgeries.  I hope that as you mature you'll realize your only choices are to accept the appearance of a balding man, horseshoe & all or can accept the fact, move beyond it and get control of your life.  You're wasting time, money and no small amount of your engery worrying about something that cannot change, that isn't a defect or disease.  But it can be tough, I think most of the guys here have been in front of that mirror where you are now, felt the pang of a change that was not in many cases welcome.  I also think that at some point you will embrace the life you have been provided, realize it's only hair, and that the hair time of your journey of life is over.  Good luck, God bless.
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Post by: Stormin Norm on May 05, 2010, 02:39:59 PM
Howdy, I did the #1 at the barber for quite a longtime.  Then I said to myself, hmmmmmmmmmm, even though my barber is a cool dude, I have to pay him to do it.  Then I said to myself, screw it, take all of it off with an electric razor and spend the barber money on more beer and Copenhagen.lol  Gradually, it progressed to using a razor and now with Headblade.  I couldn't be happier. O0
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Post by: Razor X on May 05, 2010, 03:17:45 PM
i have been here before, trying to find a solution. Still not giving in.

 Now my hair situation has developed into recess of my hairline as to where an island of hair might form in the middle of my (fornt) head. Also the crown is thinning fast since a couple of months. Question: what treatment can i still try (tried finasteride, and every hair growth shampoo out there). If i don't get something quick, the front and crown might meet. Normally i have very thick and full hair (used to).

Need something or am i destined to becoming a genuinely bald guy. Really still not for me imho!

We offered you advice the last time and that advice has not changed.  You need to accept the reality of your situation and do what needs to be done.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: clipped on May 05, 2010, 06:27:14 PM
I do not post often and am still a (tight) clipper, not razor, shaver.  But the reality in life is that most men become bald...it's genetic and the bald men are in the majority among all men at some point, age-wise.   For Dave253, you are not alone, you are one of many who lose their hair.  It's natural and not to be ashamed of.  All of us bald men need to stand together and be proud, be confident, be ourselves and contribute to our communities, our families and society, without regard to our hairstyle or haircut of choice.  As a group, we need to take control of our individual personal hair situations, and in doing so take control of the 'issue' that being bald is a natural state of manliness, and is to be admired.  In the end, our baldness, our haircut of choice or our hairstyle has absolutely nothing to do with our selfworth 9except positive selfworth) and value as a contributing member of society, as long as we do not allow it to dominate our self image. It's tough, I know, but we can do it, together. Let's change the world's view of baldness.
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Post by: chaucer on May 06, 2010, 03:38:01 AM
Well...I'm almost there....I'm going to post a pic if I can figure out how to do it!
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Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on May 06, 2010, 07:05:51 AM
Well...I'm almost there....I'm going to post a pic if I can figure out how to do it!

Almost, come on--do the deed, take the "cigar"[figuratively speaking, only].  Close doesn't get it.  And, close enough, if after 30 days you're not on board, you can easily revert--come on scratch that itch. O:O
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Papa Don on May 06, 2010, 09:36:49 AM
What an excellent post by RazorX.  Many  (if not all) of the statements are true.  In my case, MPB was not the issue.  I had a full head of hair that was horrible.  Course, curly and unmanageable.  I spent hours in front of the mirror each and every morning just trying to get two hairs to lay down beside one another.  I was always (!) self-conscience about how bad it looked. You talk of negative comments about being bald?  Try "explosion in a brillow pad": "Kind hair--the kind you find on a  monkey's arse" etc..  Really hurtful.  Thanks to my good sly neighbor, I lost a bet and had to shave the noggin.  I can't tell you how liberating it has been for the last two years.  If only I had known.  I have embraced slyness to the point of laser treatments.  I have now had three.  The results have been great.  So thanks to the neighbor and the good men of this site, I am free and my self-confidence has risen to an all time high.  So, thank all of you for your suport.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: dave523 on May 07, 2010, 06:40:12 PM
i have been here before, trying to find a solution. Still not giving in.

 Now my hair situation has developed into recess of my hairline as to where an island of hair might form in the middle of my (fornt) head. Also the crown is thinning fast since a couple of months. Question: what treatment can i still try (tried finasteride, and every hair growth shampoo out there). If i don't get something quick, the front and crown might meet. Normally i have very thick and full hair (used to).

Need something or am i destined to becoming a genuinely bald guy. Really still not for me imho!

Truly sorry that you have used drugs & hope that nothing adverse to your general health develops in the near or distant future.  Also, regret that you've been unable to accept the fact of mpb--but guys who can't fund a multi-billion dollar market for drugs, rugs and surgeries.  I hope that as you mature you'll realize your only choices are to accept the appearance of a balding man, horseshoe & all or can accept the fact, move beyond it and get control of your life.  You're wasting time, money and no small amount of your engery worrying about something that cannot change, that isn't a defect or disease.  But it can be tough, I think most of the guys here have been in front of that mirror where you are now, felt the pang of a change that was not in many cases welcome.  I also think that at some point you will embrace the life you have been provided, realize it's only hair, and that the hair time of your journey of life is over.  Good luck, God bless.

Wow powerfull post. Especially the second to last sentence came on strong! No one ever told me the hair time of my journey was over. You're a pretty harsh dude. Next month i am going to NYC, looking to find a career there. On the one hand it would be great to start over again there, on the other hand it would feel awkward to start over there as a baldy.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Razor X on May 07, 2010, 07:33:34 PM


Wow powerfull post. Especially the second to last sentence came on strong! No one ever told me the hair time of my journey was over. You're a pretty harsh dude.

There was nothing harsh whatsoever about saintc's remarks; he simply told you what you don't want to hear.  This discussion with you has been going on, intermittenly for what, two years now?  There's never going to be a "solution" to your "dilemma" until you're prepared to stop wallowing in self-pity and deal with reality.    How's that for harsh? 
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on May 10, 2010, 03:47:04 PM


You're a pretty harsh dude. Next month i am going to NYC, looking to find a career there. On the one hand it would be great to start over again there, on the other hand it would feel awkward to start over there as a baldy.

You think I'm harsh, and you're coming to NYC to look for a job ;D ;D ;D  That's good, try stand up comedy--then put on your real battle gear for the job hunt!  You are totally out of touch as you will soon find out, and BTW--loads of Slys in the Big Apple, and all NY State for that matter, as well as every other major US City.
But, enjoy yourself.  It's one hell of a town.  Hope you can make it there, bc--[finish w/ phrase from popular song!]
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: chaucer on May 11, 2010, 03:30:14 AM
I've tried to post a pic but it says the jpg file is too large and I do not know how to make it smaller....
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Nonick on May 11, 2010, 06:00:09 AM
If you go to the section "Various Non-Bald Discussions" and then click on "General Discussions" there is a topic called "How do I insert a picture in a post"

or try the link below (if it works it will take you there)

http://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/index.php?topic=901.0

 ;)
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: xnewyawka on May 11, 2010, 11:25:45 AM


You're a pretty harsh dude. Next month i am going to NYC, looking to find a career there. On the one hand it would be great to start over again there, on the other hand it would feel awkward to start over there as a baldy.

You think I'm harsh, and you're coming to NYC to look for a job ;D ;D ;D  That's good, try stand up comedy--then put on your real battle gear for the job hunt!  You are totally out of touch as you will soon find out.

With that attitude, you're in for a real eye-opener when you get to NY. Like saint said, shave the dome and grow some thicker skin.
By the way, I just realized you're the the guy who's been waffling for about two years now. Get over it, be a man and shave your head already. Quit the wallowing in self-pity.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Morthen on July 03, 2010, 07:52:29 PM
it took me a while to pull the trigger on going sly, but i'm glad I did. I hope that dave guy can as well so he can enjoy his life and stop letting his hair control him.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: kenny57028 on July 05, 2010, 02:05:50 PM

I used to feel self-conscious about being the only bald guy in a group; now I feel like I'm privileged.   That feeling didn't happen overnight; it takes a lot of positive thinking and knowing that you've done everything you can to improve the aspects of your appearance that are within your control.  Once you've done all of that, hair doesn't seem that important anymore.

I still struggle with this sometimes but everyday it gets better. Sometimes I feel like people think I'm wierd or unatractive with a shaved head, but than other times theres girls that love it. I feel its still a lil rollercoaster that I've been on since my balding first started, but I finally feel like the finish line is in site.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Nonick on July 05, 2010, 09:33:28 PM
It may be a psychological roller coaster, but in the end, it all comes down to attitude.  The facts aren't going to change, so all that can change is between the ears.
So throw your your hands in the air, scream your bloody head off, and enjoy the ride!   8)
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Timbo1941 on July 27, 2010, 11:02:46 PM

Wow - this really made me think. I see plenty of guys are asking the same questions. I am changing jobs and the idea of shaving my head seems like a symbol of freedom and individuality and a new start. I do have plenty of hair and I'm going into middle age, but I probably won't as I get older and this could be beginning instead of waiting until I start going bald naturally. Most of the guys in my family had lost most of their hair in their early to mid 50s.

I admit I am concerned about how people will react. It will be a big change going from a full head of hair to a bald head in one day, but i am already looking at a major job change. And it looks like most of you guys have no regrets.

Great thread.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: wetherb67 on July 30, 2010, 05:22:04 PM
Today is day one for me.  I was on the fence....and now I know I shouldn't have stayed there.

Do it. 
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Timbo1941 on July 30, 2010, 05:28:01 PM
Today is day one for me.  I was on the fence....and now I know I shouldn't have stayed there.

Do it. 

Day One? That's great.

I made the decision. I will be bald a week from today. All of the hair is coming off.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Nate on August 06, 2010, 06:01:55 PM
i have been here before, trying to find a solution. Still not giving in.

 Now my hair situation has developed into recess of my hairline as to where an island of hair might form in the middle of my (fornt) head. Also the crown is thinning fast since a couple of months. Question: what treatment can i still try (tried finasteride, and every hair growth shampoo out there). If i don't get something quick, the front and crown might meet. Normally i have very thick and full hair (used to).

Need something or am i destined to becoming a genuinely bald guy. Really still not for me imho!

We offered you advice the last time and that advice has not changed.  You need to accept the reality of your situation and do what needs to be done.

I share your pain dude. You have two routes. One go take the medications and join the hair restoration forums and do the surgery (its the only way to get hair on your head and results go from good to really really bad and you are out of pocket alot of money).

The other is shave it down and acceptance of the fact (something I still am coming to grips with). Its scarey as he11 based on the fact everything you saw yourself as seemingly will change and thats scarey. Buzz it down in stages to transition yourself (thats my plan starting from my holiday in a few months).

Whatever you decide and I know the guys on here wont agree with me on this point. If you get on the meds for example and then go sly you potentially can see how you feel about the whole look. Worse case you regrow what hair you have and go surgical and with the meds save whatever you can in the process (you are in no worse off position had you not shaved)

Currently with the state of technology there is no cure for mpb its genetics. You dont have to embrace baldness and go around beating your chest all this is is acceptance mixed in with a bit of confidence so you can get on with your life as its short

I currently am thinning and have enough hair on top that its not super shocking but I know I dont want to be one of those guys with a huge spot on their crown and thin in the front and on top with side hair and back. I say try shave or buzz your head first because I am now in the position of have a HT and regret it with the scar and there are another few guys on here. Buzz it and give it a chance to get used to it. If not then by all means get a rug or get the Surgery. Do what you gotta do to get through each day and live
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Rob on August 06, 2010, 06:35:32 PM


You're a pretty harsh dude. Next month i am going to NYC, looking to find a career there. On the one hand it would be great to start over again there, on the other hand it would feel awkward to start over there as a baldy.

You think I'm harsh, and you're coming to NYC to look for a job ;D ;D ;D  That's good, try stand up comedy--then put on your real battle gear for the job hunt!  You are totally out of touch as you will soon find out.

With that attitude, you're in for a real eye-opener when you get to NY. Like saint said, shave the dome and grow some thicker skin.
By the way, I just realized you're the the guy who's been waffling for about two years now. Get over it, be a man and shave your head already. Quit the wallowing in self-pity.


Harsh?  I was gonna suggest that a sure fire way of treating hairloss is to jump off a high building... >:D

I would also have thought that of all the places in the world, NY was the PERFECT place to start your life with a bald head: where could be better? 8)
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: xnewyawka on August 09, 2010, 09:32:48 AM


You're a pretty harsh dude. Next month i am going to NYC, looking to find a career there. On the one hand it would be great to start over again there, on the other hand it would feel awkward to start over there as a baldy.

You think I'm harsh, and you're coming to NYC to look for a job ;D ;D ;D  That's good, try stand up comedy--then put on your real battle gear for the job hunt!  You are totally out of touch as you will soon find out.

With that attitude, you're in for a real eye-opener when you get to NY. Like saint said, shave the dome and grow some thicker skin.
By the way, I just realized you're the the guy who's been waffling for about two years now. Get over it, be a man and shave your head already. Quit the wallowing in self-pity.


Harsh?  I was gonna suggest that a sure fire way of treating hairloss is to jump off a high building... >:D

I would also have thought that of all the places in the world, NY was the PERFECT place to start your life with a bald head: where could be better? 8)

Well said Rob. If you can't do it there, where can you do it?
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: xKevoBx on August 09, 2010, 10:26:09 AM
Thought Boston was better! It's waay better than NY!! :P j/k
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on August 13, 2010, 12:41:00 PM
Getting back to the subject of the thread, "Still on the fence?"  it would seem that scalp by scalp, dome by dome, sly is gaining recognized ascendency in the world if the following article is to be believed:

http://www.bookofodds.com/Health-Illness/Articles/A0849-Bald-and-Beautiful
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: timetobeme on August 13, 2010, 10:03:31 PM
Great article.  I'm glad I am living in these SLY times of acceptance.  I just wish it had been this way 20 years ago.  I love being SLY and looking back at all of the anxiety over hair loss now seems so silly.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Timmer on August 26, 2010, 03:58:32 PM
Kayla Martell?  HAWT!
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Nate on August 29, 2010, 03:35:47 PM
I am still on the fence... Still chicken

I switch between thinking about transplants and then I see photos (and lets face it one percent of guys look great the rest just think they do)

But I guess its all about self perception. Same with shaving or whatever you decide to do. We all cannot look amazing like Vin Diesel or have a head of hair like George Clooney

I definitely think if you are a norwood 4+ definitely buzz and definitely shave

Can I ask the guys here... Most of you would of transitioned from thin hair to buzz to shave right... can I ask if you have thinning hair how that looks buzzed down to a 1 or 2 guard (just opinions on this versus the usual shave it all to 0 comments ;) )

Cheers guys
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on August 29, 2010, 03:44:01 PM
I am still on the fence... Still chicken

can I ask if you have thinning hair how that looks buzzed down to a 1 or 2 guard
Of course you can ask.  And many have traveled to sly over time from buzz.  Buzz works IMO if you have even, symmetrical mpb up to about a Hamilton IV or so.  If it's not symmetrical, it doesn't do very well.  I did it, but between the two islands that had developed out front, the lack of symmetry and the gray hair--in little more than a month I embraced my bald genes--as someone said here recently.  It's a big step, but it's a natural way to get there--it sure beats mutilating your body with HT surgery or damaging your future health with pills, or your wallet w/ a rug.  I found once I got to #1, it was so close to shaved that I had to do it, and I liked it and kept it.  Some guys switch back and forth, and if you have some follicles working well enough to do that, it works to.  The goal is to get the mpb worries behind you, if buzz does that--it's a good plan.  It's getting free that counts. 
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Timmer on August 29, 2010, 03:51:38 PM
I think the shorter the better when it comes to thin hair.  That was my experience.  I was trying to grow mine out long again and some people thought it looked great but the way the MPB is settling in to stay, with the scalp shining through down the middle and at the monk's circle?  Yeah, for me sly is better.  And since I shave in the shower, I don't have to worry about cleaning up lil tiny hairs from where I buzzed.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Nate on August 29, 2010, 05:18:54 PM
What age did you guys buzz and go for it and accept the hair loss

I am only 33 and it is hard to think this is it I will never be able to style my hair again

Also I cannot help it it is distressing to think I will be passed over and rejected directly from women for having no hair

It scares me the idea of people having a dig at me for balding or going bald. Its a very touchy subject for younger guys and for someone to say it thinking even its no big deal or because its the truth... It may be true but it still hammers the self confidence

For me being ready mentally to take that next step is key and in some ways its acceptance so once I do go for it whenever that is I am sure I will be ready to take the criticism mentally and be happy about it. I do not think anyone should shave or buzz until they are truely accepting and ready to move on because everyone is right it does look way better then thinning messy hair. If you shave your head and are not ready for it mentally it can make a guy worse confidence wise... Especially if he looks in the mirror and doesnt like what he sees
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Razor X on August 29, 2010, 07:29:23 PM
What age did you guys buzz and go for it and accept the hair loss

I am only 33 and it is hard to think this is it I will never be able to style my hair again

Also I cannot help it it is distressing to think I will be passed over and rejected directly from women for having no hair

For what reasons would you prefer to be passed over and rejected?  Everybody gets passed over and rejected for one reason or another at various times in their lives.  Would you rather be passed over for being too tall/short/fat/thin/young/old?  Would that really make you feel better?   ??? ???


It scares me the idea of people having a dig at me for balding or going bald. Its a very touchy subject for younger guys and for someone to say it thinking even its no big deal or because its the truth... It may be true but it still hammers the self confidence

You're not in high school anymore.  Most adults don't go around making fun of other people's appearances, especially if the target is a friend. 

You're 33 years old; you're not a kid anymore, so just grow up already.  You are almost twice the age of some of the guys here who are dealing with their own hair loss issues.  In fact, as far as those 18-year-olds are concerned, you're an old man.  Deal with it, like the rest of us have had to.


If you shave your head and are not ready for it mentally it can make a guy worse confidence wise... Especially if he looks in the mirror and doesnt like what he sees

And you know this because??    ??? ??? ???

The very worst that can happen is you don't like what you see -- and you find out that a shaved head isn't for you.  So you let your hair grow back and stop wondering about it and move on.  It doesn't make you feel worse confidence-wise. It makes you feel better, even if you don't like it, because you know you had the guts to give it a try.

Doing absolutely nothing but obsess over it and feeling sorry for yourself doesn't seem to be working for you.  It never does.  So you can either remain in this holding pattern indefinitely and be miserable or start taking some action to change your situation.  Which is it going to be?   Your call.

Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: RyanJP on August 29, 2010, 08:43:22 PM
What age did you guys buzz and go for it and accept the hair loss

I am only 33 and it is hard to think this is it I will never be able to style my hair again

Also I cannot help it it is distressing to think I will be passed over and rejected directly from women for having no hair

It scares me the idea of people having a dig at me for balding or going bald. Its a very touchy subject for younger guys and for someone to say it thinking even its no big deal or because its the truth... It may be true but it still hammers the self confidence
For me being ready mentally to take that next step is key and in some ways its acceptance so once I do go for it whenever that is I am sure I will be ready to take the criticism mentally and be happy about it. I do not think anyone should shave or buzz until they are truely accepting and ready to move on because everyone is right it does look way better then thinning messy hair. If you shave your head and are not ready for it mentally it can make a guy worse confidence wise... Especially if he looks in the mirror and doesnt like what he sees

Here I go again....better yet thank god for copy and paste, from one of my previous post's today : I'm 29 years old so Quit your whining, I had a shaved head on and off since I was 18 and in the Marine Corps and have been sly consistently since I was 25 and will continue till I die and have never had any problems with dating or relationships. Your hair isn't the problem, you are and I would advise you for you're well being to find out what outstanding qualities and attributes you have and quit dwelling on something as stupid as your hair. I have fellow Marines/brothers as well as comrades in all services coming back home without arms, legs, suffer from numerous brain injuries as well as PTSD and not one of them have felt or is at this moment feeling sorry for themselves or whine one bit and here you are complaining and worrying in fear. Unless your dying or have cancer embrace what you have because I guarantee you the 9 year old child with Leukemia isn't worried if he/she has no hair......Did what I post put anything in perspective.

Outstanding thread Razor.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Nate on August 29, 2010, 10:41:09 PM
I know I know guys I didnt mean to offend anyone I know many guys who have so much more strength internally then me its not even funny (tetraplegic paraplegic) so I do understand how small and pathetic it sounds but hey I cannot help it.

I am waiting for summer to roll around and I will buzz it
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: BaldWriterBob on August 29, 2010, 10:59:58 PM
I am waiting for summer to roll around and I will buzz it

I missed summer??? O:O
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: xnewyawka on August 30, 2010, 12:21:04 AM
I know I know guys I didnt mean to offend anyone I know many guys who have so much more strength internally then me its not even funny (tetraplegic paraplegic) so I do understand how small and pathetic it sounds but hey I cannot help it.

I am waiting for summer to roll around and I will buzz it

Enough with the whining and waiting, just buzz it and get it done!

Good posts by Razor and Ryan, by the way   O0
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Rob-Raz on August 30, 2010, 06:39:06 AM
Welcome back Nate...you haven't posted in a while...thought you may have been a "troll."  Like I've told you before....buzz it down to start....if you don't like it....grow it back out....no harm no foul. Stop spending all this time debating....take action.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Nate on September 01, 2010, 12:03:50 AM
I cannot help it

It comes from a conservative upbringing and the fear and knowledge that my family will point out the obvious and have pity on me. Plus my Dad sheesh all he talks about is oh hes going bald or this other guys going bald (I hide mine very well currently but I am tired of how much I think about hair and the constant effort to upkeep it to look like I have hair)

Rob-Raz good to hear from you hows that gorgeous wife and daughter of yours
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Rob-Raz on September 01, 2010, 12:08:13 AM
Quote
I am tired of how much I think about hair and the constant effort to upkeep it to look like I have hair

Then shave it off and stop being tired!!!  Don't make me track you down and do it myself!!!  :x!

The family is great man....tbanks for asking!!  O0
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Sgt. Pate on September 01, 2010, 09:28:42 PM
Sometimes it's like watching a person repeatedly hitting their hand with a hammer and then complaining about the pain!

Good gawd man, shave your head and get yourself free!  O0
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: BaldWriterBob on September 02, 2010, 01:41:59 AM
Time to break free. Git 'er done.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Stormin Norm on September 09, 2010, 01:31:46 PM
Ok, think of it another way.  So you shave your head today. You still will be alive tomorrow.  If by chance you don't like it, then in a few months you'll have your hair back to where it is.  Man, is this so bad??????????  Some of you act like its the end of the world. Geepers! !@!@
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: kevin on September 12, 2010, 08:24:23 PM
Go for it.

Im 27 and I shaved my head for the first time 2 weeks ago. I was living a life under concealers, hats and everything and not to mention the thread of rain, wind or if you had concealer in your hair - someone touching it, or even resting the back of your head on a sofa or a couch.

Just do it! If you are worried about a tan etc, white marks with your reference to waiting for Summer. Get some fake tan/moisteruriser and rub it over your scalp. Shave it on a Friday, and do that over the Weekend so when you go into work - the new workmates will only see your smooth head.

I know how you feel, I was nervous, unsure and had to face Work as well for the first time going from a side sweeped half can of toppik poured on my head to a complete bald bonce.
But, as soon as I shaved it off - I felt all this worry lifted. I couldnt stop smiling and still cannot! I used to hide under hats or concelears (which took at least 30mins to apply etc) it was ruining my life, Now, I can go out anytime I want without fearing my horrible balding bonce.

Go out and live life. You only live once.

You may get a few ribbings, so far, Ive had 1 - Im sure, Ill get more than that, for every ribbing Ive had , Ive had at least 10 positive things. People no longer are looking at my hair wondering what up there is natural and what is black toppik, Im no longer walking in a rush with my headdown in storng winds trying to avoid contact with my hair etc.

Life is great, go experience it with a bald head. Youll love it!
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Morthen on September 14, 2010, 03:39:13 AM
I am still on the fence... Still chicken

I switch between thinking about transplants and then I see photos (and lets face it one percent of guys look great the rest just think they do)

But I guess its all about self perception. Same with shaving or whatever you decide to do. We all cannot look amazing like Vin Diesel or have a head of hair like George Clooney

I definitely think if you are a norwood 4+ definitely buzz and definitely shave

Can I ask the guys here... Most of you would of transitioned from thin hair to buzz to shave right... can I ask if you have thinning hair how that looks buzzed down to a 1 or 2 guard (just opinions on this versus the usual shave it all to 0 comments ;) )

Cheers guys
#1 or 0 Will look best if its thinning , I did the #1 guard for a while but honestly it was never enough for me, the idea of shaving your head will plague your thoughts until you finally do it, and you will be happy you did.

My advice to you is to just shave it all off with a razor and DO NOT HIDE IT, go out in public with it, if you don't show it bothers you people will find it more attractive. It worked for me, it can work for you!

good luck :)
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: PeteZ on November 28, 2010, 06:28:39 PM
Hey guys, well, I'm new to this, and I just got a 0 all over, a week ago, I have to admit I'm still on the fence, but the thought has been plaguing my mind since the day I did that, all my friends said I should shave it, I'm 18, and I'm not really sure about it, I mean, like, I feel I can do it, but it's just that I guess I'm a chicken because I'm scared. Is probably what they might say that's been bugging me, my parents went crazy when they saw I got my hair cut like that, I seriously didn't care, but now I'm thinking about taking the plunge in a few weeks, I was going to do it this weekend, but I had too many excuses (yeah, I must admit I like having excuses, that's a really bad habit), so I just need people to encourage me to do it.

This topic is really great, but I don't really know yet.
Thanks guys,
Pete
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Razor X on November 28, 2010, 06:54:07 PM
It will grow back to a #1 length in a week.  It's a no risk proposition.  Go for it.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: marty22 on November 28, 2010, 06:54:50 PM
go for it, when ready.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: PeteZ on November 28, 2010, 08:52:24 PM
Thanks guys, I'm gonna do it this weekend, I'm ready for it, I thought about it, real bad, I just needed talking to my girlfriend and that made it, I'm gonna take the plunge on friday! Wish me luck lol.

Thanks guys :)
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Bilko1 on November 29, 2010, 04:23:13 PM
Like Nike say's; "Just Do It !" It will grow back, but believe me once you shave it you will not want to go back to having hair - Bald is definitely best & as my wife said to me today - "Bald is beautiful !!"

Go for it, mate & enjoy the experience of becoming a bald guy by choice.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: PeteZ on December 06, 2010, 03:05:35 PM
Wow guys, you were right, the 1st week is not even over, and I already want to keep it, it feels so amazing, and the worst part is that I just realized I had a bald spot on the back of my head anyways, so it's not a big loss, thanks for all the support!
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Rocco89 on February 12, 2011, 09:28:34 PM
"There are hundreds of reasons we can come up with why we can't shave our heads, but at the end of the day, the only thing that is stopping you is you -- not your parents, not your friends, not your boss, not your wife, and not your girlfriend.  Just you." 

That was the quote that stuck with me and helped me take the plunge last night. Thank you Razor and everyone else in the forum for the advice. Couldn't be happier now. Well that is until i get some sun on the melon to even out the color, but hey it'll come.
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Post by: stalkingwolf on February 12, 2011, 11:20:21 PM
That is extremely motivational to read, congrats you made a soldier say HOOOOAAH! about being bald my friend.
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Post by: Razor X on February 13, 2011, 07:00:54 AM
"There are hundreds of reasons we can come up with why we can't shave our heads, but at the end of the day, the only thing that is stopping you is you -- not your parents, not your friends, not your boss, not your wife, and not your girlfriend.  Just you." 

That was the quote that stuck with me and helped me take the plunge last night. Thank you Razor and everyone else in the forum for the advice. Couldn't be happier now. Well that is until i get some sun on the melon to even out the color, but hey it'll come.

Glad that it helped, Rocco.  Welcome to the group.
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Post by: baldjoeg on April 03, 2011, 12:37:05 PM
Great post Razor.

I self esteem improved a lot since I took the plunge 3 years ago. Being bald is not that big a deal. I actually like the new look. People tell me I look a lot younger. It took awhile but I got there. Besides that - bald guys rock.

Joe G.
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Post by: Chromeo on April 20, 2011, 03:06:59 PM
I think this the best post I've ever read.  Thanks Razor X!   O0
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Post by: Ming the Merciless on April 20, 2011, 03:29:11 PM
MPB?  Quintessentially male.  Shaved head?  What could be more 100% masculine?  Get out the razor; get out the lather.  Testosterone forever!
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Post by: Sity79 on April 25, 2011, 09:13:29 PM
Lastnight I buzzed to about 1/32" then today said what the hell...Thoughts?
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Post by: Razor X on April 25, 2011, 09:14:52 PM
Lastnight I buzzed to about 1/32" then today said what the hell...Thoughts?

Looks good.  Welcome.
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Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on April 26, 2011, 06:47:43 AM
then today said what the hell...Thoughts?
Nice, now say, "Thirty days!"
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Post by: xnewyawka on April 26, 2011, 08:09:41 AM
It's looking good, stick with it as saint suggests. Welcome to the forum.
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Post by: sailor61 on April 26, 2011, 08:23:47 AM
Hey guy - welcome

You looked good with the hair and you look, to my biased eye, even better sly.  I say give it the 30 days and then see how you feel about it.

It is a bit of an adventure and has given me an entirely different view on the daily shave.  I now look forward to it, which seems to be a pretty common switch for folks.
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Post by: mangosink12572 on April 26, 2011, 09:10:45 AM
Embrace the bald sly head and enjoy it  - -You look GREAT
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Post by: Chromeo on April 26, 2011, 02:45:40 PM
Wow!  I think it looks great!!!  We hope you decide to keep it SLY!   O0
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Post by: Sity79 on April 26, 2011, 04:02:00 PM
Thanks for all the kind encouraging words. Day 2 went well...no one looked twice at the gym and out shopping afterwards. I thought for sure there would be some staring.
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Post by: xnewyawka on April 27, 2011, 06:47:12 AM
Day 2 went well...no one looked twice at the gym and out shopping afterwards. I thought for sure there would be some staring.

That's usually how it goes Sity, it ends up being a non-issue.
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Post by: alza on May 03, 2011, 04:12:08 PM
Razor your quote on Jan 15... 'it's amazing how different things seem.  For one thing, you wonder what you were so afraid of." You are right on the money... I was afraid all along to do it. Then one night, I did it. And it was over. The first couple of days were odd. But nothing i couldnt handle. I love it now and should have done it years ago!

Great post.

alza
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Post by: Slick_Chris on January 01, 2012, 09:37:38 PM
For me, there is no grey area when it comes to this matter.  It's either,

A)  You have the gene for MPB and shaving it bald is the only option

OR

B)  You DON'T have the gene for MPB and having a full head of hair is an option.

I have the gene for MPB so I knew it wasn't IF I would shave but WHEN.  Finally built up the courage to do it about a week ago and I couldn't be happier with the results.  I LOVE the way I look bald and I have my confidence back.  I feel like I could conquer the world and I'll be damned if I don't try. 
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Post by: baldjoeg on February 09, 2012, 02:30:50 PM
Razor, What an excellent post! You said it all very well. It sure motivates me.

Also, congradulations on your 8th anniversary.

Sorry that I didn't see your post sooner.

 O0 O0 O0
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Post by: Razor X on February 09, 2012, 05:00:05 PM
Razor, What an excellent post! You said it all very well. It sure motivates me.

Also, congradulations on your 8th anniversary.

Sorry that I didn't see your post sooner.

 O0 O0 O0

Thank you.
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Post by: Mr Jules on March 15, 2012, 02:48:33 PM
Thanks for a great post from Razor and excellent message to anyone sitting on the face.

I really believe that shaving bald is one of the most effective personal makeovers you can give yourself. Not just a makeover of visual appearance, but a confidence makeover, too.  From my own experience, you'll get a noticed with a smile, you'll enjoy carrying your new look, you might even look younger and look you've lost weight, too. And for those who work in office, you'll look sharp, smart and professional.

For anyway whose thinking of shaving, well you are half way there. Once you shave, your worrying is over.

Six weeks ago, I had sad thinning grey hair. Now, I love being bald.
 
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Post by: Baldstu on March 16, 2012, 03:32:40 AM
I think your glasses add to your good looks Jules , had another friend who is sly and really suits him , notsure that
Glasses suit me , nu dont need grey hair .
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Post by: Mr Jules on March 17, 2012, 09:51:52 AM
I think your glasses add to your good looks Jules , had another friend who is sly and really suits him , notsure that
Glasses suit me , nu dont need grey hair .

That was one of the reasons I considered going sly: disliked my grey hair. And if you have MPB and grey too, well that's two reasons to shave the lot off and keep it shaved clean.

Started wearing glasses a few years ago. My eyesight has got worse and struggle without them now.  Still it's good to know that glasses and bald can go together. In time, you may need glasses for reading.
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Post by: TJ on July 16, 2012, 04:48:14 AM
Hello, guys,

I'm new. I've read some of the posts but I still have a couple of questions. If I just choose to do this one day, what exactly do I do? I read the 30 day rule, and I understand that. But if I just decide to go with it, what are the steps? Cut off as much as I can with scissors, then jump right in with a razor? Is the first time going to cause a bunch of bumps? I am just uncertain as to the best way for the very first moment that I go sly. Also, what does sly stand for?

Thanks guys,

Tim
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Post by: Frontier Guy on July 16, 2012, 05:20:05 AM
Hi Tim, and welcome.

Easy questions, easy answers. And I'm confident the other guys will add in anything I've missed or misstated.

To start you want to remove as much hair as possible. I went to my barber and had her cut everything off with "no guard" on the clippers. You can also get yourself an inexpensive set of clippers and do it yourself. Scissors are not likely to cut it close enough to the scalp.

Then take a hot shower to get rid of any loose hair and soften the remaining hair, the same way as you do if you shave your face. Put on shaving gel and, with a new razor, use a very light touch (as in, "no pressure") to shave off the stubble. The new razor will create the least amount of drag and should minimize any issues with bumps. Just go slow and take your time. I found the back of the head is the most difficult.

When you're done ... feel that magnificent slickness and admire your new look. You'll be amazed.

Commit to the 30 days which will give you the opportunity to integrate daily shaving into your routine and to become accustomed to your new look, and allow others to do the same. Also, your scalp will toughen a bit which makes shaving easier, and if you get a little sun each day it will minimize the color difference if you have any.

As for why "sly" Tyler, the founder, explained: I used Sly because of the meaning "Playfully Roguish" meaning we go against the grain of what most people do.

Also, I encourage you to post an item in the "Introductions" category so everyone can add their two cents in case they miss this post.

Again, welcome. Just take it easy. And enjoy.
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Post by: mrzed on July 16, 2012, 06:12:43 AM
FrontierGuy has said it well.

If you already have hair clippers, you can save the cost of the barber. Or perhaps you have a friend with hair clippers. Set the clippers for as short as they will go.  Take down all the hair. Scissors are not short enough.  You want your have almost gone before you shave.

A good starting razor for head shaving is something like the Schick Hydro 5. It's less likely you will nick your scalp with this razor. 

Take it easy the first week. Don't scrape your scalp too hard. It will be tender at first.

Unless you already buzz to a zero or less, you'll probably need to be extra cautious about sun exposure at first.  Use sunscreen.

Follow up your shave with a moisturizer. Aloe Vera Gel is nice. Or some of the other head gels or balms.  Witch hazel splash all over also is nice. It's an astringent. Feels good. Cheap.

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Post by: waine on July 16, 2012, 06:56:43 AM
Hello Tim

All has been said already.  Shave with the grain your first time to ease into the adjustment.  Then after a few days you may want to try against the grain, or you can do one pass with the grain and one against, if you want.

Don't be put off if you pick up a few nicks, as your scalp may have a few moles or pimples and your scalp will be very sensitive the first time.

Enjoy it and good luck.

Post a pic if you want some honest opinions as to your new look.
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Post by: Sir_Harry_208 on July 16, 2012, 08:52:42 AM
Sitting in the auto repair shop...gonna be here for a few hours, so I had my computer with me and read through this thread in its entirety. Razor, if I had read this when I started thinning/losing roughly 12 years ago, I would have gone permanently sly long before April of 2008....Prior to 2008, the occasions that I did shave my head was for two and three weeks maneuvers with the military but even outside of that, I would wear a cap to cover my shaved head, even though I was trying to escape the shadow of my MPB predecessors. Oddly enough, my dad and granddad, MPB and all hated shaved heads, they say that "You should make do with what you have" Bull! I think the reason I wore hats a lot in the beginning was because of the negative comments from family and so called "friends" What motivated me to stop wearing hats and to start wearing my bald head with pride, was when my mother saw my shaved head for the first time for Mother's Day 2008 and she said she loved it! That was the push I needed to go out in public and "get my shine on" if you will. As they say, Mom has your back when no one else does. Anyway, I really enjoyed this post and the responses and this reinforces my decision to never grow hair again (at least on the noggin). As for Dad and Granddad, they are no longer here, but I'm sure they're still loving me from above, bald head and all!
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Post by: Mikekoz13 on July 16, 2012, 02:52:33 PM
Tim... FrontierGuy pretty much nailed it.

As suggested, post up an Introduction in the Introduction section and you'll get plenty more responses.
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Post by: dave523 on July 25, 2012, 05:36:00 PM
Thx Razor X for your reply. But i have to say i disagree. I have been lurking around this platform for ages. I stiil hate the fact that my hairdo is fading, i am not a bald guy. Yet life is beating me to it i feel. I work in finance and most of my colleagues support long but groomed hair. Buzzing it would make me feel out of context. Think i need a push to take the plunge, but not sure what that 'push' is????

Maybe ten 'fence' guys recognizing this. Let's collectively take the plunge. I will if ten of those 'sign on' here  O0
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Post by: Frontier Guy on July 25, 2012, 06:30:32 PM
Hi Dave, I think most of the "on the fence" guys have gotten off the fence and moved on.

Looking back at your posts (your last post prior to today was two years ago) you've struggled with this and tried various drugs and shampoos and such, which haven't been effective.

Seems like you realize but don't want to accept the continuing advance of hairline. So, what will be the situation two years from now?

If feels to me like you are spending a huge amount of time/money/emotion obsessing over this. If you were my brother or a close friend I would strongly encourage you to move off the fence and go Sly. Take control of your hair loss, rather than letting your hair loss control you.

I hope in two years you aren't here posting the same issue. Wouldn't it be better to be here (in two years) recounting how great life has been now that you are free of hair issues?

I wish you the best in your decisions.
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Post by: Razor X on July 25, 2012, 07:26:37 PM
I work in finance and most of my colleagues support long but groomed hair. Buzzing it would make me feel out of context. I guess guys that wear jeans to work (have it easier shaving their dome.

I also work in finance and it's never been an issue.  Stop making excuses.  You've already spent two years agonizing over this.  Time to do something about it and move on.
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Post by: kalbo on July 25, 2012, 07:53:55 PM
I also work in finance and it's never been an issue.  Stop making excuses.  You've already spent two years agonizing over this.  Time to do something about it and move on.

Please heed these true words of wisdom.
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Post by: dave523 on July 27, 2012, 07:04:50 PM
sorry guys about this post. i posted this after a night out and i had too much too drink. I felt sorry for myself and targetted this forum for an outrage. I detest going bald and target this 'very friendly' forum for it. I ask myself: "how can bald guys be this happy and proud about it?" I cannot envision myself as a bald guy. Bald buys look similar in a way.

This site states the 30 day rule, but how do you get yourself to take up the clipper? It is a really big step for me. If i shave it off it probably will be for the rest of my life. Am i prepared to be an bald guy from now on, obviously not. Wish i lost a bet and was forced to shave it all of and deal with the consequences, make it playful. Maybe i should bet on a soccer game.

How can you all feel so comfortable withe a bald dome and i can not?

Take care all, sorry for the raving!

Kind regards, Dave

Thx Razor X for your reply. But i have to say i disagree. I have been lurking around this platform for ages. I stiil hate the fact that my hairdo is fading, i am not a bald guy. Yet life is beating me to it i feel. I work in finance and most of my colleagues support long but groomed hair. Buzzing it would make me feel out of context. Think i need a push to take the plunge, but not sure what that 'push' is????

Maybe ten 'fence' guys recognizing this. Let's collectively take the plunge. I will if ten of those 'sign on' here  O0
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Post by: Frontier Guy on July 27, 2012, 07:22:50 PM
Well Dave, maybe there was a purpose in you reconnecting with the Forum now.

I feel badly that you are so distraught over this. Living a hairfree lifestyle is not the end of the world as you know it.

If you want to explore the issues we're here for you.

So let's cut to the chase.

What do you seriously think is going to happen if you take control and shave your head now versus waiting for mother nature to torturously move your hairline? And more important ... what evidence supports your assumption?

I've always been a happy guy, that's my nature. So it wasn't a big deal for me to shave (Bald By Choice) --- but I am having so much more fun now I wouldn't consider letting my hair grow back. A couple of days ago I had a rare day off from work and didn't shave in the morning and the day got away from me. By evening time I had to shave because I didn't feel like myself.

So, Dave, what's the real issue?
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Post by: dave523 on July 29, 2012, 07:55:22 PM
@frontierguy the real problem is that i still am shocked that baldness got me. My friend getting some revenge because of me making fun of their going bald. How people at work will react. Cause i can't imagine myself as a bald guy the rest of his live. So the classic stuff really.
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Post by: Sir_Harry_208 on July 29, 2012, 08:05:48 PM
Dave.....I understand your anxiety, you're not the first balding guy to go through the "why me" phase...but life is too short to let anyone or anything (including your hair) dominate your life....Your story makes me think of the grandpa who wanted to go back to college but he was 60 years old....He told his grandson "I can't go back to school, in four years when I finish I'll be 64 years old!" The grandson responded: "And how old will you be in four years if you don't go back to school?"..Same with hairloss....Time isn't standing still and neither is MPB....so, we here instead of moping about what could have been, decided to beat MPB....not let MPB beat us....I'm not saying to go sly, if you are comfortable the way you are great, but hairloss is the last thing a man needs to lose sleep and stop living life over....Good luck to you man, stay strong!
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Post by: Razor X on July 29, 2012, 09:43:24 PM
@frontierguy the real problem is that i still am shocked that baldness got me. My friend getting some revenge because of me making fun of their going bald. How people at work will react. Cause i can't imagine myself as a bald guy the rest of his live. So the classic stuff really.

sh*t happens.  And by age 33 you should be mature enough to be able to deal with it.  Earlier you asked:

How can you all feel so comfortable withe a bald dome and i can not?


Answer:  Because we had to.  It's not something any of us has any control over.  It's going to happen whether we want it to or not.  So the choices are:

1) Deal with it, make the best of things and get on with living and more important issues or
2) Continue to obsess over it and let it eat away at us indefinitely.

Which one sounds like a better option to you? 

I first noticed that my hairline was starting to creep back when I was 20 years old.  Like most people, I wasn't thrilled about it but I never felt that it meant my life was coming to a sudden halt.  By my early 30s, my hairline was quite receded and my hair began to thin considerably.  And by then I realized that it really wasn't that big a deal. It did take me longer than it should have to shave my head, but the look still wasn't mainstream at the time, and there weren't any sites like this to turn to for support.  I have yet to hear of a single person report that shaving his head resulted in catastrophic consequences of any kind, so quit making excuses.

The cold hard truth is that you will be bald for the rest of your life,whether you like it or  not.  You can try to disguise the fact with hairpieces, hats or combovers, or you can wear an MPB horseshoe.  Or you can shave your head entirely.  There really aren't any other viable options (and option #1 isn't really a viable option, either).  Find a way to accept what's beyond your control and move on.  You've already wasted too much time and energy on this so-called "problem."
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Post by: waine on July 30, 2012, 12:53:08 AM
Hey there Tim

Some wise words have been spoken here.

Stop torturing yourself, take the plunge and just stop caring. You will see how much better you feel.
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Post by: balddaniel on August 09, 2012, 08:56:51 AM
I agree with the guys it is not worth your time or energy to obsess about hair loss.  I am a very happy guy and BBC I love being bald I give me more confidence.  Everytime I look in a mirror I can't believe how great it looks.  I'm so modest  ;)
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Post by: BBC56 on August 29, 2012, 07:28:32 AM
Hey, Dave!  I really feel for you - I get a sense of what you are going through and all I can say is that there is an end to the angst.  My first head shave was the result of an accident.  I had a flat top for a long time but my barber retired and I couldn't find another one to do a good flat top.  My first attempt at doing it myself led to an even worse home buzz cut - (cheap clippers!); the only way to even it up was lather and blade.  I loved it!  But I couldn't get used to it for more than 2 weeks at a time.  Like RazorX, I grew it out, shaved it off, over and over.  Finally I made myself go 30 days and it worked!  I got lots of compliments, friends were very supportive, and after 30 days I was so used to it that I never stopped.  Once I got over the hump, I never worried again about how I looked and my confidence soared.  I wish I had done it a long time before I actually took the plunge. 
You won't know how good it feels to be free of your hair and the pressure you are putting on yourself by worrying about losing your hair until you do it.  I can tell that part of you wants to do it and another part of you is worried about doing it.  You need to be whole again.
Go lose a bet! 
By the way, I am truly bald by choice - I have a full head of hair under the chromed dome except for a very small thin area at the crown.  I shaved not because of baldness but because of premature grey hair.  I would rather shave it than dye it.
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Post by: isleepinthebuff on November 19, 2012, 04:53:03 PM
Good thread. Be confident! Be who you are!
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Post by: TxTa2Guy on January 14, 2013, 05:33:05 PM
Good thread. Be confident! Be who you are!

isleepinthebuff reminded me of another wonderful fact of the bald life: Only a few things, like ______ and ______ (you fill in the blanks for yourself; probably one of yours will be the same as one of everyone elses') feels as great as a freshly shaved BUFF head sliding around on a nice clean pillow!

If you don't believe me, try it for yourself.  I BET you will like it!!!
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Post by: clarinetguy on January 19, 2013, 06:56:33 PM
Go for it - I don't know anyone who has regretted it yet. And I agree a smooth head rivals a lot!
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Post by: dave523 on February 01, 2013, 05:21:54 PM
Has been a long time since i have been on here. And i am probably the proud owner of the Guy-longest-on-the-fence-trophy. Found a hairstyle that worked for my kind of mpb (faux mawhawk). But rain and wind has been an enemy i know too well.

Still feel this genes stuff is humiliating/humbling (no offence to you guys), but that might change. Sunday my indoor soccer team plays against the number two in the league for the indoor season trophy. If we win we get to shave our coach. If we lose the team agreed to go sly. I've proven not to be man enough to decide myself, but i'll submit to this deal.  Still hope we'll win off course. + winning appeals more to being a bald dude. wonder how this will turn out, but whatever happens i made a bet with myself. I will stick to the 30 day rule.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Thebaldnation on July 04, 2013, 01:14:36 PM
Great post Razor X, I totally agree with you, our society puts so much emphasis on hair and telling us that we are missing something if you don't have a full head of hair. For example, look at hair companies (not naming any) that capitalize on men's fears of loosing there hair and say you are less of a man if you don't use our product to get back your youth and your self esteem. Now, I don't speak from experience, I shaved my head by choice and I had very long hair when I made the decision to go sly. But as bald men in our community it is our job to take the high road and welcome our brothers to this site and give them reassurance that they are safe here from ridicule, make them feel safe and show them that they can part of a great group of guys that will make them feel like they belong to a special group of citizens, and may I add a growing group of citizens, we should welcome all of our bald brothers to our group and give them the tools they need to make a positive impact in there community because we are part of a group of men that should hold themselves to a higher standard and show other men and woman that being bald means successful, independent, strong and confident, and this is what It means to be bald in America, and this is what it means to be a Sly Bald Guy, so remember being bald is always a step above perfect.
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Post by: Emann on December 16, 2013, 11:52:38 PM
Thanks for the motivation!...Semester is over this week and I don't see any better timing I will shave my head on new years! Its time to renovate myself and stop letting my hairline hold me back. screw the 60 bucks i spent on rogaine..Life is too short to be worrying all the time. 
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Post by: mrzed on December 17, 2013, 03:30:05 AM
Welcome, Emann.

Yes, good time to give SLY a try.
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Post by: Frontier Guy on December 17, 2013, 05:15:09 AM
Another welcome.

New Year. New Perspective. New Options. It's going to be great.

Based on my experience (and everyone's is different), prepare to be amazed. You will discover great things you never expected.

And welcome to SBG.
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Post by: Sir_Harry_208 on December 17, 2013, 05:34:28 AM
Welcome, Emann! Nothing like starting a new year with a newly sly head....Good luck!
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: mrzed on December 17, 2013, 05:52:07 AM
Based on my experience (and everyone's is different), prepare to be amazed. You will discover great things you never expected.

Yep, almost two years SLY by choice and I'm still amazed. 
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Post by: xnewyawka on December 19, 2013, 10:10:18 AM
Welcome Emann. Take advantage, the perfect time to do it is while you're on break, so you can acclimate to the smooth dome. I think it will be a great feeling of freedom for you. Another big plus: you can stop using rogaine, which will only delay the inevitable, if it even does what it claims to do. I personally think it's a bunch of BS.
Good luck with the shave and let us know how it goes.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: DOC_OSMC on January 02, 2014, 03:35:48 PM
Welcome Emann.  Update us, how does the new bald look feel?  What's been the reaction?  Show is us pics.

This is a great forum of knowledgeable and good people, so you'll have a good support system here.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Slim713 on January 14, 2014, 01:01:22 PM
Razor-good post. I am new to the forum, actually just joined about 30 minutes ago. I am 26 (as of January 15th) and have been dealing with MPB for a few years now. More recently it has began to bug me more than ever. I have the "crown"so to speak. My girlfriend is the greatest, she is the one pushing me to just shave it all off or at least buzz it down short. I am still on the fence but after joining the forum i know it wont be too much longer before i make the jump. I honestly don't know why I am so skeptical..my dad is completely bald and is one of the coolest guys I know. I soon will be there myself.
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Post by: DOC_OSMC on January 14, 2014, 01:54:54 PM
Yessir Slim!  We all have been there.  I've only been shaving my head for two months and wonder why I didn't do it sooner.  You too will be doing that after you've done it.  I had buzz cut for the past year, also had the "crown" and it was on my last pass with the clippers back in November that I realized and made the decision that it was time to shave it all the way off.  I've never regretted it and have never looked back.  You too will be there.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Mike E. P. on January 14, 2014, 01:57:01 PM
Razor-good post. I am new to the forum, actually just joined about 30 minutes ago. I am 26 (as of January 15th) and have been dealing with MPB for a few years now. More recently it has began to bug me more than ever. I have the "crown"so to speak. My girlfriend is the greatest, she is the one pushing me to just shave it all off or at least buzz it down short. I am still on the fence but after joining the forum i know it wont be too much longer before i make the jump. I honestly don't know why I am so skeptical..my dad is completely bald and is one of the coolest guys I know. I soon will be there myself.

Welcome Slim. Sounds like you got a great girl there. And a cool dad, so you've got lots of support. Since the mpb is starting to bug you, this sounds like a no-brainer! Buzz it down short and see how you feel. I'm betting you'll be sly before you know it. Reading other guys' stories here will give you the push to do it. Good luck and let us know how it goes.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: nuts on January 14, 2014, 02:24:51 PM
The itch is there.  You have great support.  Your dad sounds cool.  Now send us the pic.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Sir_Harry_208 on January 15, 2014, 05:55:25 AM
Welcome, Slim 713! Good that you have the support from the lady.....Give sly a try; you can always grow it back if you don't like it!
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: DannyBoy on January 16, 2014, 08:36:17 PM
I might try and go sly to see what it looks and feels like one day but i will never keep it due to like i have mentioned before im a lazy shaver...im also not a big fan of razors i use to hate them on my face (i want some type a beard anyway)...i actually dont mind the stubble look (you can kinda see it in my pic) so its all good(even though i admit i get lazy and let it grow to Jason Statham like length sometimes)...its like once i accepted it i dont worry at all whats on my head anymore and dont mind growing it out sometimes...when back when i first noticed my hairloss one of my fears were the horseshoe look...funny how things change but like i said one day i might give it a go not like i have anything to lose i already lost that thanks to nature anyway lol.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Mike E. P. on January 16, 2014, 09:12:22 PM
I might try and go sly to see what it looks and feels like one day but i will never keep it due to like i have mentioned before im a lazy shaver...

Dannyboy, you need to give it a try. I am a lazy shaver too. I clipper buzzed my head for years once a week or every two weeks. I also like the stubble look. But this past summer I razor shaved my head for the first time and I love it. I loved the ritual of shaving and the way that a completely bald, smooth head feels. Since being a member here, I am a convert to razor shaving. I'm still lazy, but now manage to razor shave about every three days.  You should give it a shot. Maybe you'll be a convert, too.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: DOC_OSMC on January 17, 2014, 10:20:12 AM
Agree with Mike, Dannyboy.  I'm another lazy shaver.  I absolutely hate shaving my face and now that I have my beard, it's helped with the laziness, but I still hate having to trim and shave around it to shape and keep it looking right.  I shave my head every other day although this week, I've gone five days without shaving.  I'm itching to shave it so I can have that smooth dome again.  So we've all been there.  Go for it, you have nothing to lose and everything to like!
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: M C C on March 14, 2014, 12:51:53 AM
I'm new here - its my 4th day sly - but I already agree 100% with Razor's advice.  I feel so much better accepting that the hair is gone and moving on.  I'm 30 and I'd been whining about my receding hairline for a couple years, panicking over every hair that I found in the shower, trying to bide time so that I could sink money into an expensive treatment.  A few days ago I found the bald spot (which I didn't even know I had) while I was out shopping and that was kind of the last straw.  One of my friends told me to shave it - he said "bald is better than balding."  Shaved it that night and I've been loving it so far.  Its not the look I expected to end up with, but in some ways I like it a lot more, and its definitely better than stressing over the receding hairline.

Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Mike E. P. on March 14, 2014, 05:36:05 AM
It's a great feeling when you takes matters into your own hands. You'll never have to worry about hair out of place, the never ending changing hairline, the wondering if other people are noticing the hair loss, etc.  Sly looks consistently good. 

Like you, I didn't realize the extensiveness of my balding until I saw a photo of me from above.  The bald spot on the top of my head, which I didn't know was there and couldn't even feel, freaked me out and that was the beginning of my shaving, too!
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: reddog on March 14, 2014, 11:37:30 AM
I'm glad you are liking your new look! I thought shaving my head was going to be a one time thing, it's been 7 months for me, and I still look forward to the daily shave, and love the look and feel. I still look in the mirror sometimes and wonder who that bald guy is.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Razor X on March 14, 2014, 11:39:10 AM
What most people don't realize is that it is much easier to shave your head than it is to shave your face.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Goatee on March 14, 2014, 01:18:38 PM
Bald is great. I enjoy the feel and the look.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: baldjoeg on April 17, 2014, 05:53:16 AM
I love being sly. It was a good change for me.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: 50plus on May 17, 2014, 02:26:57 AM
Not sure if I've posted already Razor X but nice post, so true. I relate to a lot of what you say. Straight to the top of the class.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Jdon7 on December 28, 2014, 01:14:48 PM
I started shaving my head in September, but I was afarid it looked bad so I ended up growing it back out again. Im thinking of trying again thank you guys for the encouragement.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Razor X on December 28, 2014, 02:22:05 PM
I started shaving my head in September, but I was afarid it looked bad so I ended up growing it back out again. Im thinking of trying again thank you guys for the encouragement.

Sometimes it takes a couple of trial runs before we adopt the look permanently.  It did for me. I liked it the first time I shaved, but I felt self-conscious about it. I also think that I knew on a subconscious level that I kept the look for 30 days or so that there would be no going back (and there wasn't).  I let the fear of making a long-term change hold me back.  Like most of the guys here, my only regret is not having done it sooner.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: tobler1 on December 28, 2014, 05:44:17 PM
Jdon, I think the beard and shaved head combo looks very nice on you.  I wouldn't hesitate to return to it.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: Jdon7 on December 29, 2014, 12:49:43 AM
Jdon, I think the beard and shaved head combo looks very nice on you.  I wouldn't hesitate to return to it.

Thank you tobler, i think i'm going to return to it, i enjoyed the shaving part and i enjoyed not having to worry about how i look when i wake up.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: tobler1 on December 29, 2014, 08:33:14 AM
I'm totally with you, jdon.  I enjoy my shaves and find them quite relaxing.  And it's fantastic never having bad hair days again...
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: DOC_OSMC on December 29, 2014, 08:55:58 AM
Go for it!  Stick to the 30 day challenge and you'll find that you will like it.  Grow the beard thicker and you'll have a winning combination!
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: slybeard on December 29, 2014, 11:33:16 AM
Let your beard gain some length and keep the head shaved - its an good look, and easy to maintain.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: LordSnoww on May 12, 2015, 02:15:12 PM
First off let me say that I am happy I found a site like this. I have been reading through the forum for some time and it has helped ease my sudden loss of confidence with my thinning out/balding head.

Since this is my first post here I feel like some background on myself is necessary. I am 23 years old and I have been slowly losing my hair over the past few years. But within the past year I have been losing it more rapidly as photos of myself over time serve as a documentation of the progress.

Over several weeks I just kept telling myself to just have it off already and I eventually did down to a three. Yet that only made it much worse as it is now more obvious that I am thinning out noticeably in the front and some in the back. To make matters worse I keep trying to boost my self confidence by thinking I can rock the shaved head look yet everyone I've admitted this to, more or less, tells me the opposite.

I've never really been that self conscious about my hair loss since I've been chalking it up to that its genetics and there isn't much I can do about it at this point yet now that it has become impossible to hide I have become extremely self conscious. I know I shouldn't be because I've had several friends face this issue which for them become unnoticeable because they become confident in themselves despite struggling with the same issue. Yet I am having a lot of trouble doing the same.

At this point my self consciousness has been high because of the recent decision I have made. I do have good sprees of just thinking 'oh who cares anyway' yet I always randomly will go back to being very self conscious again.

I know I am moving in the right direction but does anyone have some advice for someone in my position?
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: baldjoeg on May 17, 2015, 02:24:38 PM
Razor,your posts on dealing with hair loss are great. They sure helped meal of and I am sure that they will help others. Thanks again.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: reddog on May 17, 2015, 03:10:19 PM
 I guess it is a state of mind. I saw 3 guys about your age at a car show yesterday, all with heads shaved bald. They were very confident, and looked great. These days, it's just another haircut choice. People care so little about your haircut choice. I still worry a little when I get together with old friends that aren't used to seeing me shaved bald. If they make a comment, it's usually just "your hair is gone". What is important is that I like it, looks and feels great. I love to go out after I do a great smooth shave, guess I'm a bit of a show off.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: geeman on May 18, 2015, 04:34:40 AM
Great posts... It really is all about owning the look, it feels great when you have a really good close shave, no cuts or red bits lol... Beard is trimmed... Yeah.... Looking good ☺
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: TheSlyBear on May 19, 2015, 09:30:47 AM
I'm like geeman -- when I want look my best, I make sure I've got a meticulous shave and trim.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: baldjoeg on May 19, 2015, 11:05:42 AM
You aren't being a show off at all Reddog. You are just feeling good about yourself and your great look.

Take care buddy and hope to see you again soon.

Take c=good care of that knee.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: ToSlyOrNotToSly on August 12, 2015, 02:29:21 PM
Used to be Sly and a member, several years ago.  Let it grow back for no particular reason.  Don't have MPB, though getting a bald spot on the back of my head, just like my father had.  I am on the fence and when I last shaved my head, my life was in a rut.  Now in a deeper rut and I won't use my post to air personal problems or issues.  I'm on a couple of psych and men's health sites for that.

Shaving my head won't magically transform my life, but radical changes, whether physical, emotional or situational, can be the catalyst to get one off of autopilot.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: reddog on August 13, 2015, 07:02:51 AM
My question to you, ToSly, would be did you like how you looked when you shaved your head? It's about how you feel shaved bald. I like how I look with my head shaved, and my morning shave process is enjoyable. Good luck with your issues, we all have them, some just more than others.
Title: Re: Still on the fence?
Post by: ToSlyOrNotToSly on August 13, 2015, 12:05:15 PM
reddog,
 
As I wrote, it was several years ago, but I did like it.  Friends and family(though not my wife)thought I looked very cool.  Hair is such an intrinsic part of our physical identity and even emotional identity.  Long before I shaved my head, I used to have shoulder length hair.(This was in my forties)and when I was dressed up, I looked like someone out of Hollywood.  And if I shave my head, it's not to be trendy but more of a declaration of liberation.  I once again find myself at a transitional point in my life, though my life has been storm tossed for quite a few years.

Thanks for your thoughtful response.