Author Topic: 2 Years after Transplant: Anxiety Over Shaving Head  (Read 42917 times)

Offline HeadChange

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Re: 2 Years after Transplant: Anxiety Over Shaving Head
« Reply #15 on: October 03, 2012, 11:50:30 AM »
OK, it's been a while since I have been on here.  I too am furious with the gdamned pharmaceutical/medical hair "restoration" industry.  I wish that I had just accepted my hair loss at an early age and gotten on with my life.  But, alas, I've been on propecia/proscar on and off for the last 10 years, fought with rogaine (the itching, oily hair, dripping on my face, oily pillowcases, white dusty look in the hair once it dries, and feeling awkward about having my girlfriend/wife be able to run her fingers through my hair as we make love).  I have dealt with insecurity around it beyond belief.  I have cheated on my wife on numerous occasions, and have dealt with major consequences from the lack of sex drive that was caused by the devil drug Finasteride.  I'm now in the final stages of divorce.  I have not-so-bad strip scar along the back of my head, and have a thin forest of strong hair transplant grafts that are looking weirder every day.  I wish that scalps could be traded in for upgrades like cars.

About 2 months ago, I finally decided to quite proscar for good.  I'm still using rogaine 2x daily, but I'm definitely noticing an increase in hair loss.  Eventually, it's going to become ridiculous looking, and I'm going to have to bite the bullet and shave. 

Here is the thing that I am finally realizing.  It's not your hair that defines you.  It's you that defines you.  After all the sh*t that I've gone through with it, my dream woman has come into my life and fully accepts me as who I am.  She's 12 years younger than me...but amazingly mature, absolutely stunningly gorgeous, and wants to marry me and have a family and grow old with me.  And she tells me absolutely that "I will love you with or without hair.  I love you for you, not for your hair.

A few weeks ago, I had a consultation with a FUE specialist in order to add implants into my scar in order to help hide it.  The doc is also recommending tattooing.  Any suggestions out there about doing it?  Any suggestions about scar remediation?  I'm going to go for the shave soon, I think, but I certainly will need encouraging from yall out there!  And, when I do, I plan on taking a trip somewhere to sun the scalp to bring the color up to my normal skin tone before I head back into my "real world".

Anyways, thanks Sly Guys...I really hope to see this website come face to face with the medical hair industry...I have a vendetta against them now, and I'd love to see men actualize themselves, not torture themselves by the social mind-tricks that big pharma likes to play. 


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Re: Re: 2 Years after Transplant: Anxiety Over Shaving Head
« Reply #16 on: October 03, 2012, 11:54:21 AM »
If I had the hair you have in those photos,I'd just leave it.
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Re: 2 Years after Transplant: Anxiety Over Shaving Head
« Reply #17 on: October 03, 2012, 12:02:29 PM »
my dream woman has come into my life and fully accepts me as who I am.  She's 12 years younger than me...but amazingly mature, absolutely stunningly gorgeous, and wants to marry me and have a family and grow old with me.  And she tells me absolutely that "I will love you with or without hair.  I love you for you, not for your hair.

A few weeks ago, I had a consultation with a FUE specialist in order to add implants into my scar in order to help hide it.  The doc is also recommending tattooing.  Any suggestions out there about doing it? 

Step #1--listen to the lady
Step #2--tell the FUE "specialist" to put it where the sun doesn't shine--he just wants more of your money
Step #3--Get in tune with the lady and "love yourself for you, not what was your hair!"
Step #4--Get on with life, take the lady to a nice dinner, wine, etc. from the money you saved in Step #2. 

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Re: 2 Years after Transplant: Anxiety Over Shaving Head
« Reply #18 on: October 03, 2012, 04:19:25 PM »
Hi Headchange.  I made the same mistake you did back in the mid 90's. I'm guessing the FUE specialist did not tell you this but FUE scars also.  Why create more scars on your head trying to camo your strip scar?  Try shaving your head and deal with the strip scar first.

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Re: 2 Years after Transplant: Anxiety Over Shaving Head
« Reply #19 on: October 05, 2012, 07:44:12 PM »
You guys are all F'ing awesome.  I'm so glad that I found this community.  I'm still working up the guts to do it, but I'm working on it...

Thank you all for rocking.