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Confidence and Success => Relationships/Dating => Topic started by: reddog on December 15, 2016, 08:10:16 PM

Title: Shaving dilemma
Post by: reddog on December 15, 2016, 08:10:16 PM
I recently started dating a gal I really like. Met her on a singles site, and she seems great.

The problem is I am having 2 eye surgeries this month, so decided to give shaving a break. All my photos on the singles site are of me with a shaved head, but our first meeting I had a couple weeks growth. I had a feeling that was a mistake. So this week I mentioned I needed a haircut, and of course she said she likes me with hair.

So, I don't want to screw things up with her, but my dermatitis is acting up, and I miss being sly. Guess I should just man up and shave it and hope for the best. Any ideas guys?
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: Magoo on December 15, 2016, 08:30:08 PM
Red dog , you old rascal , and I thought you were one of us old married type. Any way if it was me , I would go with the same haircut you had on the last date. You can always shave in the future after you get better acquainted.
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: ThePangolin on December 16, 2016, 06:33:03 AM
If she's right for you, she won't stop seeing you because you saved off a few days worth of hair growth.... If anything, she will most likely prefer and learn to love the smooth head.

I dont know what to suggest since I've never dated, (fiddle) but I do think its important to be you and if someone doesn't like how you do "you" then they probably arent worth getting with, right?
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: dshupe on December 16, 2016, 07:36:38 AM
I agree, if she's right for you, she will continue seeing you. BUT, you did say all your pictures on the site showed you with a shaved head so really it won't be a huge surprise.  I would just talk to her and when she realizes the reason for you not being able to shave I would think she would understand and think nothing of it. 
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: mrzed on December 16, 2016, 02:57:56 PM
And you have a good reason to shave your head. Dermatitis. 

You do sport a bald head very well.  Yep.

I thought it was only the young guys who worried about no hair and a girl. 
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: nuts on December 16, 2016, 05:02:23 PM
If she saw you on the singles site and liked what she saw then she should accept you with a shaved head.  Just explain about the surgery and dermatis and I am sure all will be OK.
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: reddog on December 16, 2016, 07:37:46 PM
Thanks everyone for the input, all good points.

I spent the day with her, and very briefly talked about it. She mentioned that I looked ok with my head shaved, but that my grey hair really rocks. It's at a short flattop now. I'm sure she would continue to date me if I shave, but much more attracted to me now. Guess I'll decide after the second surgery this week.
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: slybeard on December 17, 2016, 10:05:54 AM
Let her know (I'm sure you already have) that the only reason you let it grow was because of the surgeries.  But also tell her that you do from time to time let your super sharp flat top grow out.  So she will never now what to expect when she sees you, and if she doesn't like the shave head when she sees it in person, she can look forward to the flat top coming back as some point.  I suspect like most ladies, she doesn't like to see change in her guy, and since she has only seen you in person with hair, that is what is in her mind.

My other bit of caution is that this early in the relationship, she is already trying to control you.  Be careful.  Could be a sign of future issues.
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: ThePangolin on December 19, 2016, 06:45:07 AM
+1 to the control aspect.

May not be the case but it sounds possible? Testing to see if you're needy enough or desperate enough to do whatever it takes to keep her around. If thats how she's playing right now, id hate to see what yours "dilemma" posts will be like a year or two from now.  :(
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: Semi-Sly on December 19, 2016, 10:43:12 AM
I agree.

Women like to "control" even more than most men do!

You need to be  honest and let her know that your hairstyle is always changing and that this is not subject to "negotiation".
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: reddog on December 19, 2016, 12:29:41 PM
You guys really have me thinking now. I spent 7 hours with her Friday, and got to know her better. Seems to be la little demanding and forward, but also has some good qualities.

At this point, I think t is better for her to see me with my usual shaved head. It will also let her know I won't be controlled. She will probably love it smooth!
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: Magoo on December 19, 2016, 03:01:22 PM
Women have no respect for a man who shows no moxie, but it's a thin line us men have to ride to get along. Good luck Reddog.
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: buddha on December 20, 2016, 08:49:37 AM
You guys really have me thinking now. I spent 7 hours with her Friday, and got to know her better. Seems to be la little demanding and forward, but also has some good qualities.

At this point, I think t is better for her to see me with my usual shaved head. It will also let her know I won't be controlled. She will probably love it smooth!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ELMtwWrBq_Q
This girl has some good advice. Especially girl #2.
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: Magoo on December 20, 2016, 01:57:02 PM
Excellent advice .
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: reddog on December 20, 2016, 02:03:26 PM
Agreed, good advice.
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: reddog on December 22, 2016, 11:14:54 AM
Well, I shaved my head bald last night. I emailed the gal a photo, and she commented it looks nice, then asked why I shaved it.

I got the sense that she was disappointed, but said I have to do what makes me happy. I guess I can just hope she likes it when she she me in person.

On the plus side, I enjoyed showing off my shiny bald dome while running errands today.
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: ThePangolin on December 22, 2016, 11:33:06 AM
good for you man, sounds like you did it politely and tactfully without being a forceful unfeeling monster. Im sure she respects your choice, and even if she somehow doesnt like it she will still most likely keep going out with you. I highly doubt that the bald head would have any bearing on whether or not you two work out, especially given the responses shes given you that you shared.

When you see her next, dont mention it. Act like nothing ever happened, this is who you are, not the little bit of growth you had. If she brings it up, whether positively or negatively, just shrug it off and say "well im happy to be back to myself again" and let it go.
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: dshupe on December 22, 2016, 12:14:28 PM
Glad you stayed true to yourself and did what makes you happy.  I'm sure, like The Pangolin said, that your bald head will not have any bearing on how things go.  Best of luck with it all!!!!
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: reddog on December 22, 2016, 12:54:27 PM
Thanks guys, I'm pretty happy to be sly again.
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: Razor X on December 24, 2016, 06:08:59 PM
Glad to have the old red dog back!
Title: Re: Shaving dilemma
Post by: slybeard on December 24, 2016, 07:32:54 PM
I am sure she will like it when she sees you in person - but will she admit it is another question.  Good luck.