Convincing the hubby to let it go...

[Professor Melon]

  Dear ChrisInVegas: Welcome aboard. The guys have already given the best advice. I can add only this: convince him that you are serious, honest, and steady in wanting him to shave that noggin, and he probably will. Please remember that he's in pain, which may seem silly to you but means a great deal to a relatively young man who is being forced by genetics to forfeit his image. Perhaps buying him a Fusion razor and some shaving gel will strengthen his resolve to take the inevitable step. As you have read, the majority of men who start shaving never go back. I had the full, enthusiastic support of my wife from the start. I love being bald, up-front honest, and free of "hair anxiety." Bring on the wind, the convertible, and the shine. If he starts shortly, make sure he applies sun screen. Let us know what happens. All best, Professor Melon

[Tyler]

Chris, I just thought of something else.

In between the Mandalay Bay and the Luxor in the Mandalay Place is the Art of Shaving Barber Spa.  They offer Head Shaves and Face Shaves.  Maybe that would be a gift you could give him.

[ChrisInVegas]

Thanks guys....I had that idea too, Tyler.  Actually looked into their website and it seemed pretty neat-o.  It's just funny that they actually have "barber spas" now. Not sure why, but that just makes me giggle!  I was at the grocery store tonight and picked up a HeadBlade, then put it back.  I don't want to put too much pressure on, as it might work against me.  He's a Leo and I'm a Capricorn so the hard-headedness in our house is legendary.  Maybe a little reverse psychology is in order?

And yes...that's our son, Big Jake.  Thanks for the Momma Day props too!  

[Tyler]

My wife is a Leo, so I know what you mean.

[herronm]

Welcome ChrisInVegas!!  Ask your husband to create his own account and asked some questions.  Maybe that will help.  I think he will look great.

[Stu]

Chris, I think your husband would look great.  It's a hard thing to deal with for some people.  What's interesting is that so many people get themselves worked up about losing hair, how it's not fair, what does it say about me... all this worrying and anxiety.  And then when they get the courage up and take the plunge, they realize that they were worrying about nothing.  They are free, and all of that worrying was a total waste of time.  The boost in confidence is hard to describe for those who haven't done it, but it is a powerful thing.  Keep us updated as things progress (or recede).

[PigPen]

Welcome Chris! It's great you're so supportive of him. My wife made the comment the other day about growing my hair back. (I'm BBC) Told here not a chance.

The guys have already made some great comments and suggestions, the one thing I can't stress enough, is don't ram it down his throat. That would probably turn him off to the idea completely.

Good luck!

[mikesj]

Welcome Chris to SBG's. Hope we are able to help you and your husband make a decision that works. The support you are providing is commendable.  There is a new posting in General Discussions from Tyler that has a an article from "WingmanDaily". Check it out, maybe print it and leave for your husband. Also a good article from the New York times that is posted here on the board.

[BALDANDRE]

Hey Chris...

First off, you seem like a very cool, supportive wife, he's a lucky dude! Like GBORN, I'm bald by choice, so I don't know exactly hoiw it feels to "need" to sport the bald sly look..

I chose to be bald about 12 years ago, to the surprise of my girlfriend (my wife now) at the time...she kinda understood, but thought i'd grow it back eventually...didn't grow it back until right before we got married...after 2 months with hair, she said, "You know what, it's just not YOU with hair, shave it!".... I was bald for my wedding (thankfully) and have been slick and smooth since...when the subject comes up with your husband , remind him, not only balding guys choose it as a lifestyle these days... some dudes with hair WANT to be bald too!

My boss though is young and totally balding and his wife WANTS him to shave it smooth also (for years now), he buzzed it to a #4 once, said he felt sick about it, like he gave up or something...and has actually grown back his faux-comb-over!!!! he's a young dude, in a young industry...with bald by choice dudes all around him daily and he CAN'T do it, so i understand your husband's hesitation...he doesn't want to give in just yet...there is no going back in his book...

Hang in there and maybe suggest it initally as a kind of (and i don't mean this disrespectfully) sexy thing between you and him...maybe offer to do it for him and tell him how much you DO like totally bald men ect...maybe he'll go for it...again,say it respectfully!

Good luck and let us know what happens!

[blondeguy]

I was at the grocery store tonight and picked up a HeadBlade, then put it back.  I don't want to put too much pressure on, as it might work against me.  He's a Leo and I'm a Capricorn so the hard-headedness in our house is legendary.  Maybe a little reverse psychology is in order?

Is he a movie fan?  Take him to see Live Free or Die Hard next month and admire Bruce Willis' shaved head.  Tell him he would look good like that.

[ChrisInVegas]

Good idea! The sly look does Mr. Willis such justice...

[ChrisInVegas]

So, we just happened to take some pics this weekend, and there was one that even my mom commented on.   Without even knowing he and I had been discussing the situation already, when she and I were on the phone, she commented that she couldn't believe how thin his hair had gotten recently,  Of course, neither of us would ever bring it up to him that bluntly, but it really bothered me that when he and I were reviewing the pictures ourselves earlier, I could tell this one in particular made him uncomfortable.   


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[Kajun]

Chris..welcome to SBG's and i admire you for coming here to try to help your hubby out with his balding,he's a lucky man for sure!....i really hope he takes your advice and goes Sly.....after seeing that last pic and being where he is at one time ,all i can say is ..the hair on the top of his head wont be there much longer, i hope he embraces it and lets it go for his sanitys sake.....keep at it!

[PBurke]

hey chris. if he won't shave it then run away. i am already bald. j/k my wife looked at the picture and agrees with you. he should shave it. just thought i would let you know that. another lay-days opinion. although she may be biased towards slyness.

[Stu]

CIV,

You are absolutely right.  His head is screaming to be shaved.   How much gel and time does it take for him to get it to stick up like that?  I agree with Kajun; that hair won't be there long.  Although I never had my hair that long when it was thinning, I had that same thing going on top.  I just never wanted to pretend that it wasn't happening, so I kept it short.  It didn't take long for it to get progressively worse.  I sure hope you are able to get through to him somehow.  I'm glad we're here to assist in whatever way we can.