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Offline Cardelli

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Need advice badly
« on: August 02, 2015, 12:41:05 PM »
Okay so the subject i'm gonna talk about is sex so if you don't like reading about that i would suggest that you don't read any further. I will try to clean up the language so i don't offend anyone.

So im gonna start with the sex question. A while ago i met this girl at a nightclub, and it ended with us deciding to bump uglies at my hotel. The problem was that i couldn't get an erection thanks to me drinking a bit much during the night. I felt really bad about it and i got filled with shame. She went home and i stayed in bed cursing myself for doing those last shots. The problem is that i have met this girl and when one thing led to another and tight before we were about to have sex i started doubting myself, i felt a preassure to perform and started to worry about the same thing would happen now. So of course thanks to me being so nervous the washington monument became spaghetti instead. She was very understanding and said it happens. I explained to her that i wasn't her fault and i told her about that time and that i was worried the same thing would happen and it was like a psychological block for me. She understood completly and said we'll just take it slow. So now it has happend 2 times and im not sure how i'm gonna get over this hump? Any advice?


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Re: Need advice badly
« Reply #1 on: August 02, 2015, 04:03:00 PM »
It is probably just 'all in your head", but having said that, don't be ashamed of getting some help from a licensed psychologist/sex therapist.

My problems are a lot worse than yours - and it is too tough to go into details - but after 30+ years I finally sucked it up and sought help.  The therapist sent me to a doctor who was able to give me the ability to function "just like a real boy, Pappa Geppetto"!  When I think of all of the decades of shame and suffering I went through - and with my overly religious Primary Care physician telling me that it didn't matter because I was not married and procreating and should not be having sex anyway - I could roll up in a ball and cry my eyes out!  (There are still a lot of very raw neurons there!)

But because I had the courage to reach out to professionals, go through several surgical procedures, and use injections to have erections, I can now go like a Porn Star for THREE HOURS at a time!

So, you are doing the right thing by looking for help - now JUST DO IT.  Getting professional help for your little problem is no more of a big deal than it was the first time you shaved your head!  Like the Marines say - "Improvise, Adapt, Overcome"!  You are going to be just fine my brother!