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This is one of the most brilliant speeches I have ever heard.  If every parent, every teacher, every boss, and every coach would watch this video our world would be an even more amazing place.  Please, take a moment to watch this video and pass it on to your friends and family.

I'm please to announce an exciting new book for the men that are dealing with hair loss.  Women Like It Both Ways: A Hairy Story by Christopher Sutton is an amazing book that follows Christopher's journey with hair loss and how he became a better man without hair.

If you, or someone you know, are dealing with hair loss, then you should pick this book up today!

About the book:

When great things happen to me I have always liked to “give back.”  Shaving my head and never having to worry about my hair again was one of the greatest things that has happened to me, so one day before starting my daily meditation I asked myself the question “What can I do to give back?” The answer came during my meditation – write a book about the emotional trauma you went through when losing your hair.

I had never written a book before, and quite honestly, writing has always been one of my biggest challenges because I am dyslexic.  However, since this “message” had been so compelling, I decided to go the bookstore and pick up a book about writing.  The title of the book I picked was “If You Can Speak You Can Write.” I knew I could speak, so I took on the challenge and started writing.  I wrote and rewrote, wrote and rewrote until I finally felt that the book was at a point were I could present it to an editor without being embarrassed.

I am now sitting here with a finished copy of the book, and it feels great!  I hope my book will become everything I wanted it to be for you or someone you know. 

Here's what John Elway, former QB for the Denver Broncos, had to say about Christopher and Women Like It Both Ways:

"Having known Christopher since high school during his 'big hair' days, and now as a friend I call 'Gandhi', it was fascinating to read what he went through to get to where he is today.  It's a great reminder to us all that the most important thing is what's in our hearts, not on our head.  I guess we need to accept the fact that sometimes in the game of life there are no comebacks in relation to your hair."  John Elway

Buy the book:

To buy the book, go to http://www.womenlikeitbothways.com/purchase.html

When a guy loses his hair, he often gets obsessed with the fact that there is little or nothing he can do to actually stop or reverse the hair loss.  This lack of control over his own body can really add to the group of things that start to break down his confidence.  It’s my belief that the feeling of losing control is one of the primary reasons that a man loses his confidence.  

The second reason many guys start to lose their confidence is that they progress from not being able to do anything about their hair loss into asking themselves unanswerable questions like, “Will people still find me attractive or approve of me?”  This is especially hard for younger guys in their late teens and early twenties because they have yet to find that person whom has proven that they love them for who they are, not what they look like.  Though, this can still cause a problem for older men who think that hair loss might hurt their career or social life.

How can you take control?  It’s actually really easy and only takes about 20 minutes.  Shave your head!  Don’t buzz it, shave it!  Honestly, this is the best answer that I’ve found and I’ve talked to thousands of guys about their hair loss.  

Why does shaving your head work?  The act of getting rid of your hair is a very liberating feeling.  Your head will feel a bit numb and with your bare scalp showing, your hair loss will be virtually invisible.  Head shaving also works because it shows people that you are taking control of the situation and not letting it bug you.

The act of shaving your head, by itself can turn your confidence around.  This is the first step to having your confidence back in 30 days.

You might be saying to yourself, “Whoa, I don’t know if I can do something that drastic!”  “What will people think?”  “What if I cut myself?” “What if I don’t have the right shaped head?” Or even a host of other questions.  I can assure you that I’ve heard them all!  The main thing that 99% of guys say after getting over these questions is “Why didn’t I do this sooner?”  But to provide a little more help with these questions, I’ll answer the most common questions.

What will people think? – I’m not going to lie to you and tell you that everyone will instantly love you with a shaved head.  Actually, the most opposition I hear of is from parents and spouses.  But, rarely do friends and co-workers oppose to a guy shaving his head.  Actually, almost all the guys I talk to report positive feedback from most everyone.  

So what about the parents and spouse? – Your parents and spouse want what’s best for you, so if they don’t like it in the beginning, then eventually they will see how happy it makes you and will realize it is the best thing for you.  Give it time.

“What if I don’t have a good head shape?” – This is probably the second most common question I hear and the answer is simple.  Everyone has a great shaped head for head shaving.  Rarely is there a perfect head but the beautiful thing is that people don’t look that closely at you do see if you have a perfect head shape or not – especially when you’re standing there with confidence.  They are too busy trying to figure out how to get some of your confidence or get you to like them.

What will women think? – I can tell you that women prefer a guy with a shaved head over a guy with patchy hair or a big bald spot. Even more than this, they prefer a guy with confidence.  So, when you shave your head and start to get confidence back, you’ll start to see women becoming more and more attracted to you.

What will people at work think? – It’s a non-issue.  They rarely notice or say anything unless you bring it up yourself.  They are too busy worried about them to care if you shaved your head.  If they do notice, it’s almost always a positive reaction.

Shave your head for 30 days straight and you will see an amazing transformation!

Hey guys (and gals),

Now that we've hit our 2 year anniversary of Sly Bald Guys, it has got me thinking about how we can take SBG to a new level of helping people. One of the things that kept coming to mind is that many of us that have come here are/were looking for ways to improve our confidence and be more successful. Because of this, I have decided to add an entire section of the forum dedicated to helping to improve guys confidence and success.

We've already done a great job of this, but now we'll have a place to catalog all of our success in doing so and make it that much easier for the guys that come to us down the road.

Starting next week (I'm going on vacation this weekend...yes, again!) I will start to post up things that have helped me build my confidence and become more successful in my years on this planet. If you have any questions, tips, or tools around these topics, please feel free to add your own.

Thank you again for making Sly Bald Guys such as successful site in regards to helping people!

Tyler

This last weekend my wife and I went to a marriage retreat that we've gone to every year since we've been married.. This year was really great and was even better than last year. One of the themes this year was to determine wat type of person you are and how this affects your ability to communicate with your spouse. Without going into all of the different types or person you can be, I'm just going to focus on the type of person that I am, a "pleaser." If you want to learn more about other types, stay tuned as I'll talk about that in the next couple of days.

As I mentioned above, I'm a "pleaser."  If you've never heard of this term, I'll define it for you.  Basically I'm someone that likes to make sure everyone around me is happy.  Kind of a good person to have a a forum moderator, eh?  Well, where this can add benefits in some aspects of my life it can really cause havic if I get into a situation where I need to make a decision where I'm going to have to piss someone off because there is no win win option.  This can also cause me, and other like me, to often make a decision to do something in someone else favor instead of our own because we want to please them and we think that's better for us then actually getting our own and pissing the other person off.

When I was realizing that I was a pleaser I also started to think how this could really work against a person and cause them to do something that may please everyone, but really isn't the best decision in the long run.  Since this is a site about head shaving and going bald, let me use an example that I see here quite often. 

There are several guys that come to Sly Bald Guys that are looking for advice because they are going bald and want to make the leap to shaving their head and take control.  Though, more often than not, we get guys that say "I'd really love to shave my head, BUT my mom, spouse, girlfriend, parents, grand parents, boss, etcetera, etcetera, may/will not like it" and then they ask what they can do or say to these people that are important in their lives.