Sly Bald Guys' Blog

This last weekend my wife and I went to a marriage retreat that we've gone to every year since we've been married.. This year was really great and was even better than last year. One of the themes this year was to determine wat type of person you are and how this affects your ability to communicate with your spouse. Without going into all of the different types or person you can be, I'm just going to focus on the type of person that I am, a "pleaser." If you want to learn more about other types, stay tuned as I'll talk about that in the next couple of days.

As I mentioned above, I'm a "pleaser."  If you've never heard of this term, I'll define it for you.  Basically I'm someone that likes to make sure everyone around me is happy.  Kind of a good person to have a a forum moderator, eh?  Well, where this can add benefits in some aspects of my life it can really cause havic if I get into a situation where I need to make a decision where I'm going to have to piss someone off because there is no win win option.  This can also cause me, and other like me, to often make a decision to do something in someone else favor instead of our own because we want to please them and we think that's better for us then actually getting our own and pissing the other person off.

When I was realizing that I was a pleaser I also started to think how this could really work against a person and cause them to do something that may please everyone, but really isn't the best decision in the long run.  Since this is a site about head shaving and going bald, let me use an example that I see here quite often. 

There are several guys that come to Sly Bald Guys that are looking for advice because they are going bald and want to make the leap to shaving their head and take control.  Though, more often than not, we get guys that say "I'd really love to shave my head, BUT my mom, spouse, girlfriend, parents, grand parents, boss, etcetera, etcetera, may/will not like it" and then they ask what they can do or say to these people that are important in their lives.